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Topic: What is your experience with chiron in synastry ?
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fiola
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posted January 14, 2016 04:04 AM
  
My natal chiron is in the fifth house (7° leo), i'm weary, i was always convinced i would end up hurt in love, so i avoided the whole thing, until i met a guy who has been hurt badly in love, it started out innocently as me trying to help a friend, but from the very start it hurt me so much when i saw how bad he felt, i would cry for hours, and that's saying something, i usually never cry (virgo moon, i prefer to find a solution instead). He made me feel so much, i didn't realise until i fell really hard in love with him. But things weren't perfect and both me and him are only humans, i still havent preocessed how it got that bad, but i ended up having my ultimate wound, it still hurts even now.
Now when i was with him i was new to astrology, it wasn't until recently that i found his chiron exactly conjunct my south node (14° cancer); i suppose this does make sense, how i felt his wounds, tried to heal them, then got wounded in the process.
Now recently i found my own chiron EXACTLY conjunct a friend's vertex, and i'm worried i'll have a similar effect on him.
So i'd like it if you shared your experiences with me so i'd find a way around this, because so far i dread this aspect, especially considering my synastry with this friend (a lot of attraction factors, repetitive themes, DW..).
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Randall
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posted January 15, 2016 12:40 PM
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popcorn
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posted January 16, 2016 04:35 AM
Ive my mars conj NN in cancer and my daughters chiron conj this .. My daughters mars conj NN in pisces and my Chiron conj hers mars conj NN.... DW.. She is good for my direction in lmy life and she following me😊... She do like i do... I try her to go her own way but .....she is strong and know exactly what she want... She is the only one who say exactly to me what I need to hear..IP: Logged |
fiola
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posted January 16, 2016 01:53 PM
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Originally posted by popcorn:
Ive my mars conj NN in cancer and my daughters chiron conj this .. My daughters mars conj NN in pisces and my Chiron conj hers mars conj NN.... DW.. She is good for my direction in lmy life and she following me😊... She do like i do... I try her to go her own way but .....she is strong and know exactly what she want... She is the only one who say exactly to me what I need to hear..
Chiron cnj mars/n.node dw in water signs.. that's really interesting ! Chiron with mars indicate re-opening past hurts through conflict, but its something you're bound to work on (conjunction with north node); I'm really glad to see you both trust each other (her following you in everything you do, you trusting her wih trying new things).
I can't help but wonder about her teenage years ! IP: Logged |
fiola
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posted January 19, 2016 04:19 PM
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popcorn
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posted January 21, 2016 02:54 AM
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Originally posted by fiola:
Chiron cnj mars/n.node dw in water signs.. that's really interesting ! Chiron with mars indicate re-opening past hurts through conflict, but its something you're bound to work on (conjunction with north node); I'm really glad to see you both trust each other (her following you in everything you do, you trusting her wih trying new things).
I can't help but wonder about her teenage years !
Ok 😊.. Lets talk about her teenage years... It was like a real.... Revolution every week.. No school, no responsible, party, party, I have to get her out of my house. I helped her so she could move and take responsibility for her own life. I safed her money and helped her to buy a flat on the same street where I live.. When she come in to her first flat I took her out and stood behind her when she got her first job.. After that she for the first time start to take care about herself.. She begun study and loved her new home.. I saw he grow for the first time IP: Logged |
venus2tinkerbell
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posted January 24, 2016 04:47 AM
I think if Chiron is strong in natal and seems to play a big part in synastry it's something you have to go through. There's a lesson that can't be avoided.I think it's hard to say what lesson one should learn from the other, because you're dealing with individuals who are at different stages of healing and evolution.
His Chiron in his Pisces 2nd house conjunct my SN in my Pisces 8th house:
I respect his values for the grounding and security they provide, and I can see the weaknesses and gaps in my own convictions by looking at him and his set of values. However, my overall feeling about where he is philosophically, religiously, and spiritually, is I've already been where he is. I know very well the needs and fears that secretly prop up his (sometimes) self righteous convictions. He thinks I'm lost, and this is incredibly painful for him. I can't go back, but keep inviting him to come forward with me. My invitation is beautiful from my perspective, corrupt from his. This conjunction is like the meeting of opposite truths..Maybe the test (specifically in the sign and houses mentioned above)is; how much energy will you invest in tearing down the other person's truth, verses examining the strength of your own truth and values.
As SN I just want to shake Chiron out of it, but that would be like kicking a crutch someone is using to help them stand.
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venus2tinkerbell
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posted January 24, 2016 05:06 AM
I think for SN, this conjunction happens at a time in their life when they are ready to start embracing their NN qualities. Part of moving toward your NN is feeling a sense of mastery and understanding (not attachment)of the SN. SN conjunct Chiron reminds SN of everything they already know, the good and the bad, everything. It's like a review before moving on to the next lesson, but not necessarily moving on from Chiron.IP: Logged |
fiola
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posted January 24, 2016 12:23 PM
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Originally posted by popcorn:
Ok 😊.. Lets talk about her teenage years... It was like a real.... Revolution every week.. No school, no responsible, party, party, I have to get her out of my house. I helped her so she could move and take responsibility for her own life. I safed her money and helped her to buy a flat on the same street where I live..When she come in to her first flat I took her out and stood behind her when she got her first job.. After that she for the first time start to take care about herself.. She begun study and loved her new home.. I saw he grow for the first time
This seems great, i'm happy you have such a lovely relationship with your daughter, i guess you worked your part of the n.node with each other.
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fiola
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posted January 24, 2016 04:47 PM
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Originally posted by venus2tinkerbell:
I think if Chiron is strong in natal and seems to play a big part in synastry it's something you have to go through. There's a lesson that can't be avoided.I think it's hard to say what lesson one should learn from the other, because you're dealing with individuals who are at different stages of healing and evolution.
His Chiron in his Pisces 2nd house conjunct my SN in my Pisces 8th house:
I respect his values for the grounding and security they provide, and I can see the weaknesses and gaps in my own convictions by looking at him and his set of values. However, my overall feeling about where he is philosophically, religiously, and spiritually, is I've already been where he is. I know very well the needs and fears that secretly prop up his (sometimes) self righteous convictions. He thinks I'm lost, and this is incredibly painful for him. I can't go back, but keep inviting him to come forward with me. My invitation is beautiful from my perspective, corrupt from his. This conjunction is like the meeting of opposite truths..Maybe the test (specifically in the sign and houses mentioned above)is; how much energy will you invest in tearing down the other person's truth, verses examining the strength of your own truth and values.
As SN I just want to shake Chiron out of it, but that would be like kicking a crutch someone is using to help them stand.
There is the opposition between your houses, he has chiron in 2nd house pisces, so he has to find his value through loving and being loved in return, but he can't because chiron there is blocking him. You on the other hand have mastered the matters of the 8th, i understand your need to help him, but maybe you're giving him a push towards a different direction than where he is supposed to go.
I totally agree with you on shaking them out of it! IP: Logged | |
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