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Readytochill
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posted February 29, 2016 06:03 PM     Click Here to See the Profile for Readytochill     Edit/Delete Message   Reply w/Quote
A friend of mine just told me he's in love with me. I, on the other hand, still see him as a friend. I think his Scorpio moon annoys me but I enjoy talking to him.

Can someone see what the attraction is for him? And maybe why I don't feel a thing at all? I'm on the inside. I have a boyfriend and thought maybe I'm just blocking some feelings but I'm not. There's just nothing there.

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posted February 29, 2016 06:16 PM     Click Here to See the Profile for SunAscendant     Edit/Delete Message   Reply w/Quote
His Sun and Venus conjunct your Descendant. He sees you as his ideal lover.

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posted February 29, 2016 06:18 PM     Click Here to See the Profile for SunAscendant     Edit/Delete Message   Reply w/Quote
I once had a guy's Venus, North Node, Sun AND Moon all conjunct my DSC and he was so in love with me. I liked him, but not as much as he liked (loved is a better word...) me.

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posted February 29, 2016 06:39 PM     Click Here to See the Profile for Readytochill     Edit/Delete Message   Reply w/Quote
Thanks SunAscendant!

When he told me his feelings, I immediately ran our charts and was surprised by his sun/Venus on my DSC.
I thought that I would see him as my ideal lol

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posted February 29, 2016 06:57 PM     Click Here to See the Profile for hypatia238     Edit/Delete Message   Reply w/Quote
Your DC ruler is Saturn and conjuncts his Mercury which is his DC ruler so perhaps that is why you two enjoy each other at least on a friendship level and you like talking to him.

I would think his Venus and Sun on your DC would generate attraction and comfort from both parts since the DC is like another Venus but that connection and attraction would probably manifest only on a friendship level if there aren't any venus to mars aspects for example.

Your venus-mars square his pluto so I would think that would add a lot of attraction if you two had already in place an aspect from your Venus to his Mars, Sun or AC but you don't, you are also lacking his Sun aspecting your Moon. So if anything that Venus-Mars square his pluto would lead to fights or you feeling annoyed bc that attraction is not there for it to get channeled via sex.

To sum it up your venus-mars does not aspect his mars or his Sun. For a women Venus to Mars or Sun aspects are important for attraction.

You should keep it as a friendship, he would get over you sooner than later and the current awkwardness will go away. He is confusing feeling comfortable with you and having a nice rapport with you with love.

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posted February 29, 2016 08:15 PM     Click Here to See the Profile for SunAscendant     Edit/Delete Message   Reply w/Quote
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Originally posted by hypatia238:
Your DC ruler is Saturn and conjuncts his Mercury which is his DC ruler so perhaps that is why you two enjoy each other at least on a friendship level and you like talking to him.

I would think his Venus and Sun on your DC would generate attraction and comfort from both parts since the DC is like another Venus but that connection and attraction would probably manifest only on a friendship level if there aren't any venus to mars aspects for example.

Your venus-mars square his pluto so I would think that would add a lot of attraction if you two had already in place an aspect from your Venus to his Mars, Sun or AC but you don't, you are also lacking his Sun aspecting your Moon. So if anything that Venus-Mars square his pluto would lead to fights or you feeling annoyed bc that attraction is not there for it to get channeled via sex.

To sum it up your venus-mars does not aspect his mars or his Sun. For a women Venus to Mars or Sun aspects are important for attraction.

You should keep it as a friendship, he would get over you sooner than later and the current awkwardness will go away. He is confusing feeling comfortable with you and having a nice rapport with you with love.


I still think his Venus and Sun right on her DC is indicative of strong feelings. The planet person feels it more than the house, especially since Venus is what a man wants in a woman. What he wants in a woman is everything her 7th house represents. He wants someone like her. His NN is also in her 7th but it doesn't aspect anything big, but still, it falls in her 7th. Since she doesn't like him despite his Sun and Venus on her DC and NN in her 7th, I would say he likes her more.

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posted February 29, 2016 08:32 PM     Click Here to See the Profile for hypatia238     Edit/Delete Message   Reply w/Quote
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Originally posted by SunAscendant:
I still think his Venus and Sun right on her DC is indicative of strong feelings. The planet person feels it more than the house, especially since Venus is what a man wants in a woman. What he wants in a woman is everything her 7th house represents. He wants someone like her. His NN is also in her 7th but it doesn't aspect anything big, but still, it falls in her 7th. Since she doesn't like him despite his Sun and Venus on her DC and NN in her 7th, I would say he likes her more.

I agree that is a very nice aspect.

The attraction is mutual but even stronger from the ascendant/descendant person so it would be stronger from her typically but both feel it, the angle is a point that receives:

"When one person’s Venus is opposite another person’s Ascendant (thus, conjunct the person’s Descendant), a strong attraction is indicated, particularly on the part of the Ascendant person. When someone’s Venus is in your 7th house or close to the Descendant, they embody the qualities you are looking for in a partner. The two are natural partners for one another."
http://starscopestoday.wordpress.com/tag/venus-conjunct-descendant-synastry/

However since her Venus is not aspecting his Mars or Sun and her Moon is not aspecting his Mars or Sun that aspect alone will not lead to romantic and specially sexual attraction for her at least not strong enough for it to manifest so it staying on a friendship level, there are other markers missing.

To top it off she has a boyfriend which does not help his cause specially in the absence of other key markers like his male planets aspecting her female planets but that aspect of his Sun-Venus on her DC is nice and is probably the main reason why they even made it to the friendship level and enjoy talking and each other's company.

Her Venus-Mars squaring his Pluto is why she gets annoyed by him bc there is no sexual outlet for that tension since she doesn't feel strongly enough attracted to him due to lacking other ying yang attraction aspects in their synastry and her being in a relationship.

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posted February 29, 2016 09:13 PM     Click Here to See the Profile for Readytochill     Edit/Delete Message   Reply w/Quote
Thank you Hypatia!

You brought out very good points. I do believe he'll get over it sooner than later like you said only if I reject him in the harshest way possible but I'm just not that kinda person. I would never want to hurt someone like that.

Before I saw our synastry, I felt like he wasn't Uranian enough for me. My DSC is actually in Aquarius. And I've read that Saturn corules Aquarius or used to be the ruler? Or something like that. I do admire Saturnian qualities but I'm drawn more to Uranian weirdness. Maybe because his sun/Venus is an out of sign conjunction, it doesn't do much for me? Are out of sign conjunctions usually felt?

He tells me that I'm his dream girl. It freaked me out really bad.

And I can't stand how when he texts and doesn't hear from me within a couple minutes, he freaks out on me.

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posted February 29, 2016 09:16 PM     Click Here to See the Profile for angel4845     Edit/Delete Message   Reply w/Quote
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Originally posted by SunAscendant:
I once had a guy's Venus, North Node, Sun AND Moon all conjunct my DSC and he was so in love with me. I liked him, but not as much as he liked (loved is a better word...) me.

that's so funny because my venus conjunct his DESC and i really don't like the guy, he is OBSESSED WITH ME and I'm sooooo not he's cute and all but man i'm so not in love with them and i don't even wanna talk to him cause he is to into me.

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posted February 29, 2016 09:17 PM     Click Here to See the Profile for angel4845     Edit/Delete Message   Reply w/Quote
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Originally posted by Readytochill:
Thanks SunAscendant!

When he told me his feelings, I immediately ran our charts and was surprised by his sun/Venus on my DSC.
I thought that I would see him as my ideal lol


i know right??? but man the guys DESC on my venus i don't feel anyything for him, he is obsessed with me finds me really attractive thinks I'm the one.

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posted February 29, 2016 09:21 PM     Click Here to See the Profile for angel4845     Edit/Delete Message   Reply w/Quote
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Originally posted by hypatia238:
Your DC ruler is Saturn and conjuncts his Mercury which is his DC ruler so perhaps that is why you two enjoy each other at least on a friendship level and you like talking to him.

I would think his Venus and Sun on your DC would generate attraction and comfort from both parts since the DC is like another Venus but that connection and attraction would probably manifest only on a friendship level if there aren't any venus to mars aspects for example.

Your venus-mars square his pluto so I would think that would add a lot of attraction if you two had already in place an aspect from your Venus to his Mars, Sun or AC but you don't, you are also lacking his Sun aspecting your Moon. So if anything that Venus-Mars square his pluto would lead to fights or you feeling annoyed bc that attraction is not there for it to get channeled via sex.

To sum it up your venus-mars does not aspect his mars or his Sun. For a women Venus to Mars or Sun aspects are important for attraction.

You should keep it as a friendship, he would get over you sooner than later and the current awkwardness will go away. He is confusing feeling comfortable with you and having a nice rapport with you with love.


intersting hypatia very interesting

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posted February 29, 2016 09:31 PM     Click Here to See the Profile for angel4845     Edit/Delete Message   Reply w/Quote
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Originally posted by Readytochill:
Thank you Hypatia!

You brought out very good points. I do believe he'll get over it sooner than later like you said only if I reject him in the harshest way possible but I'm just not that kinda person. I would never want to hurt someone like that.

Before I saw our synastry, I felt like he wasn't Uranian enough for me. My DSC is actually in Aquarius. And I've read that Saturn corules Aquarius or used to be the ruler? Or something like that. I do admire Saturnian qualities but I'm drawn more to Uranian weirdness. Maybe because his sun/Venus is an out of sign conjunction, it doesn't do much for me? Are out of sign conjunctions usually felt?

He tells me that I'm his dream girl. It freaked me out really bad.

And I can't stand how when he texts and doesn't hear from me within a couple minutes, he freaks out on me.


out of sign conjunctions are felt in my experience yes just wanted to let you know sorry i know you asked hypatia but just wanted to give you my experience.

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posted February 29, 2016 09:59 PM     Click Here to See the Profile for Readytochill     Edit/Delete Message   Reply w/Quote
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out of sign conjunctions are felt in my experience yes just wanted to let you know sorry i know you asked hypatia but just wanted to give you my experience.


Thanks Angel! You and everyone else is welcome to answer

About your Venus conjunct a guys DSC. That's how I would've thought I would've reacted with my friends Venus on my DSC. It's weird how that works. Are you two friends at least?

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posted February 29, 2016 10:07 PM     Click Here to See the Profile for hypatia238     Edit/Delete Message   Reply w/Quote
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Originally posted by angel4845:
that's so funny because my venus conjunct his DESC and i really don't like the guy, he is OBSESSED WITH ME and I'm sooooo not he's cute and all but man i'm so not in love with them and i don't even wanna talk to him cause he is to into me.


The last crush I had his Venus conjuncted my DC, yeah I think I was more into him but I am married and he knew so perhaps he kept his distance bc of that.

I liked him a lot! haha

But his Mars-Sun trined my Moon forming a grand trine with my Psyche, squared my pluto and semisextiled my Mars. I suppose our problem was his Saturn squaring my Venus representing our poor timing in meeting. Oh well!

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posted February 29, 2016 10:35 PM     Click Here to See the Profile for angel4845     Edit/Delete Message   Reply w/Quote
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Originally posted by hypatia238:
The last crush I had his Venus conjuncted my DC, yeah I think I was more into him but I am married and he knew so perhaps he kept his distance bc of that.

I liked him a lot! haha

But his Mars-Sun trined my Moon forming a grand trine with my Psyche, squared my pluto and semisextiled my Mars. I suppose our problem was his Saturn squaring my Venus representing our poor timing in meeting. Oh well!


awwwww don't say it was because of his saturn square your venus! because i have that with him.... sign... lol! but then again his saturn is conjunct my sun exact...so i guess its not as bad hahaha!

and how lovely of a grand trine you had!

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posted February 29, 2016 10:38 PM     Click Here to See the Profile for angel4845     Edit/Delete Message   Reply w/Quote
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Originally posted by Readytochill:
Thanks Angel! You and everyone else is welcome to answer

About your Venus conjunct a guys DSC. That's how I would've thought I would've reacted with my friends Venus on my DSC. It's weird how that works. Are you two friends at least?


no we are not friends, he is attractive i have to say but i don't like his personality and he is very possessive i can tell and gets really obsessed quickly when he likes someone. he's a sun/moon/mercury/pluto in scorpio in the 5th house so he is very plutonian but we have harsh mars bml aspects and I'm really not feeling for him he is just too much for me he's a weirdo. i cut him off because he wouldn't stop texting me.

plus it said that the man is attracted to his moon and venus and what ever aspect it makes and house it is in. and we both have venus in sag and my chart ruler is venus in sag which is conjunct his DESC and EROS so yeah he is into me....

but he is such a weirdo.

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posted March 01, 2016 11:10 AM     Click Here to See the Profile for Readytochill     Edit/Delete Message   Reply w/Quote
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Originally posted by angel4845:
no we are not friends, he is attractive i have to say but i don't like his personality and he is very possessive i can tell and gets really obsessed quickly when he likes someone. he's a sun/moon/mercury/pluto in scorpio in the 5th house so he is very plutonian but we have harsh mars bml aspects and I'm really not feeling for him he is just too much for me he's a weirdo. i cut him off because he wouldn't stop texting me.

plus it said that the man is attracted to his moon and venus and what ever aspect it makes and house it is in. and we both have venus in sag and my chart ruler is venus in sag which is conjunct his DESC and EROS so yeah he is into me....

but he is such a weirdo.


Those Scorpios are something else lol nothing against them though. I have close Scorpio friends but I keep them at a distance or hang out with them in small doses. Did you just stop talking to him or did you tell him you didn't reciprocate his feelings and then cut him off? How did he react?

I agree with men being attracted to their moon and venus, the aspects, and houses. Most of my planets fall in mutable houses and noticed I attract guys with mutable moons/venuses and/or they're in mutable houses. I've never considered myself mutable or mutable-like but maybe I come off that way?

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