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Topic: Unaspected Venus in Composite
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Yanmorg
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posted March 03, 2016 12:12 PM
  
Me and my current boyfriend have been dating for 6 months. Ever since the beginning of our relationship, a certain warmth and real intimacy has been lacking. I'm a Scorpio with a Taurus ASC so warmth, sensuality, etc is all very important to me in a relationship. Do you think this lack of warmth or intimate feeling between us because of our unaspected venus in composite or something else? We started off with great. It was warm, intimate, exciting, BUT comfortable. Once things started to settle in and I started learning about him, that feeling disappeared. He's so awkward when it cones to showing affection and most of the time, it's like pulling teeth getting him to show any at all. The affection is flowing between us like I see with other couples and even experienced myself in all of my previous relationships. I'm the courageous type so I usually have no issue getting my guy warmed up and comfortable, but even that doesn't work. I know he has Venus retrograde and Saturn in the 1st so maybe this is a lost cause with him. I feel so depressed with him but it's so confortable and sweet at the same time. How could I leave?
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angel4845
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posted March 03, 2016 12:16 PM
How is your composite venus unaspected? You have venus conjunct Mercury and the sun. Am I wrong? Let me know------------------
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Aunt Anomalia
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posted March 03, 2016 12:41 PM
Yep, it's definitely NOT unaspected.I would've expected Taurus Mars to be all over you  At least when there's strong emotional involvement. Inexperience is irrelevant here imo, it should come naturally. His Mars isn't afflicted by Saturn. I'd even say that his aspects promote physical closeness. It's opposite your Venus and Jupiter on top of that. His Venus is fine apart from the detriment. Could his Pisces duo be that shy? Hm, or maybe it's his Moon square Saturn :/ I'm wondering if your Moon-Venus opposition and Mars-Saturn conjunction could contribute to the issue. ------------------
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Yanmorg
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posted March 03, 2016 12:45 PM
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Originally posted by angel4845:
How is your composite venus unaspected? You have venus conjunct Mercury and the sun. Am I wrong? Let me know
Oh so I misunderstood how to look for an unaspected plan. My apologies. On astro.com, on the aspect grid, I assumed if the planet isn't making any aspects to other planets regardless if other planets are aspecting the "potential unsspected planet", it is unaspected. I hope I'm making sense. IP: Logged |
Yanmorg
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posted March 03, 2016 12:46 PM
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Originally posted by Aunt Anomalia:
Yep, it's definitely NOT unaspected.I would've expected Taurus Mars to be all over you At least when there's strong emotional involvement. Inexperience is irrelevant here imo, it should come naturally. His Mars isn't afflicted by Saturn. I'd even say that his aspects promote physical closeness. It's opposite your Venus and Jupiter on top of that. His Venus is fine apart from the detriment. Could his Pisces duo be that shy? Hm, or maybe it's his Moon square Saturn :/ I'm wondering if your Moon-Venus opposition and Mars-Saturn conjunction could contribute to the issue.
His Saturn IS in his 1st house.. I believe it's his Saturn who is the culprit here. He's so dull and lifeless.
Maybe my Jupiter (8th house ruler) is turned off by his lack of education which is a biggie for me. I'm just trying to understand why the affection between us isn't flowing despite a ton of synastry and composite aspects saying otherwise.
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Aunt Anomalia
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posted March 03, 2016 12:48 PM
Maybe he's sensing your disapproval and chooses to distance himself.------------------
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Yanmorg
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posted March 03, 2016 12:57 PM
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Originally posted by Aunt Anomalia:
Maybe he's sensing your disapproval and chooses to distance himself.
Then it has to be his Pisces placements also. I'm demanding but encouraging and accepting also so if that is the case, which it probably is, he needs to develop a thicker skin. I express my disapproval but I also offer solutions and ways to make things better. I can stay or go at this point but something is keeping me glued to him and that's why this is so frustrating. I usually can ends things with a guy I'm losing interest in, VERY quickly, but it's not the case with him. Am I really losing interest? What's the karma here? I'm just so confused and I feel so many different unexplainable emotions. IP: Logged |
margym0o
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Registered: Jul 2014
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posted March 03, 2016 01:10 PM
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Originally posted by Yanmorg:
Then it has to be his Pisces placements also. I'm demanding but encouraging and accepting also so if that is the case, which it probably is, he needs to develop a thicker skin. I express my disapproval but I also offer solutions and ways to make things better.I can stay or go at this point but something is keeping me glued to him and that's why this is so frustrating. I usually can ends things with a guy I'm losing interest in, VERY quickly, but it's not the case with him. Am I really losing interest? What's the karma here? I'm just so confused and I feel so many different unexplainable emotions.
I think you're focusing too much on trying to find an explanation through the charts and not enough on just LIVING life and listening to what your heart is telling you. I've seen you lament about this man on other threads and to be honest, if you're this unsure after 6 months then I don't see the point in holding on. You can drag it out as long as you wish (especially if he isn't going anywhere) but ultimately YOU are in the drivers seat and play a part in your own destiny. Charts show POSSIBILITIES and are not concrete. How many head-scratching cases have we seen on here of people who "survive the odds" with "bad synastry" or people with glowing synastry who are repulsed by each other. There are so many touch/feel factors in real life that synastry and composites cannot explain. If you had beautiful synastry with Hitler, would you of dated him??? Extreme example but you get my point... If he was as well-versed in astrology as you are, would he look at your charts and think, "Oh, well the charts say I'm supposed to be affectionate so I'm going to start being affectionate now!" just like you're trying to justify staying with him because the charts are "telling you" to? Don't waste any more time if you're not happy  IP: Logged |
Aunt Anomalia
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From: Pandora's Box Tech
Registered: Mar 2015
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posted March 03, 2016 01:31 PM
I think you should put the concepts like karma aside, they won't help you make the right decision. Don't let them control you. Take a hard look at what's in front of you, here and now. If you don't like what you see maybe it's time to walk away. Molding someone is usually futile and should be avoided anyway. Imagine that he never turn into someone you'd be satisfied with a lot (which is likely). Are you willing to put up with it? But why would you in the first place? It would be easier to ackowledge that you're not suitable for each other and create room for new, more compatible partners for both of you. You have quite a lot of mutual Saturn connections so I can understand the glue. Your Saturn is conjunct his IC from his 4th and square his ASC-DSC. Maybe it makes you feel obliged, consciously or not, to help him get out of his shell, become more experienced with women etc. But are you really fine with it being the essence of your connection?I advise you to:
- start thinking about the future of your current relationship asap and be brutally honest with yourself
- try to squash the tendency to fall for people who you think need fixing if you have one or at least learn not to act on these attractions
- take things slow and make sure you're compatible with your next object of interest before you jump into a relationship if you choose to leave your current bf Good luck.
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Ceridwen
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posted March 03, 2016 02:30 PM
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Originally posted by Aunt Anomalia:
I think you should put the concepts like karma aside, they won't help you make the right decision. Don't let them control you. Take a hard look at what's in front of you, here and now.
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athenaia
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Registered: May 2015
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posted March 03, 2016 03:48 PM
You're young so I understand why you feel like you have all the time in the world to make this decision but consider the fact this man is already in his thirties. Maybe he's looking to settle down, get married, have children. If he's with you, then he's going to prolong this process because he's under the impression that you're probably on the same page. The thing is, you don't feel the same way about him. If he stumbled across all these posts about him and read the words you've written, wouldn't they blindside him? As such, is it fair to keep him in this relationship where you aren't in love with him when he could find someone that is? Doesn't he deserve that instead of living this lie? This is incredibly selfish/self-serving. You're hoping that he fills some void that you carry around in yourself. In a lot of ways, he does. That's why you don't want to let him go. But the emptiness you feel inside of you is not a reflection of him, but a reflection of yourself. You need to do some serious soul searching and find your purpose in life, because looking for it in partners is going to be an extremely fruitless venture. Your fear is being single is really telling, as Aunt A pointed out already. IP: Logged |
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