posted March 08, 2016 03:35 PM            

1st house - how we are perceived by others
7th house - how we really are together

1st house - how we are together
7th house - how we deal with others

Lately I've been wondering if it may go like this:
1st house - this is what we are. Whether we want it or not, whether we ever admit it or not, whether others realize it or not. Planets placed here show the ever-present energy that appears quickly if not right away and grows in strength effortlessly.

7th house - this is how we tend to interact with each other. Just you and me, let's forget about others. The energy present here might be more obvious than the one in the 1st.

So, if we have the Moon in the 1st we have an emotional connection that probably becomes strong sooner or later. Let's say it's romantic. And let's add Saturn in the 7th. It could be an energy easier to observe than the Moon, at least if and as long as there are obstacles on the way to become a couple. Keeping the feels to yourself. If things are sorted out, maybe they'd still wouldn't vomit emotions but there would be also noticeable respect in their interaction and no hesitation to help and support, assuming the expression is healthy.

What do you think?

posted March 08, 2016 03:49 PM              

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Originally posted by Aunt Anomalia:
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1st house - this is what we are. Whether we want it or not, whether we ever admit it or not, whether others realize it or not. Planets placed here show the ever-present energy that appears quickly if not right away and grows in strength effortlessly.

7th house - this is how we tend to interact with each other. Just you and me, let's forget about others. The energy present here might be more obvious than the one in the 1st."

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posted March 08, 2016 03:50 PM            

Oh, a thumb up! I almost feel honored

posted March 22, 2016 10:04 AM            

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Originally posted by Aunt Anomalia:
Those who have planets on this axis - can you relate to my theory?

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"And let's add Saturn in the 7th. It could be an energy easier to observe than the Moon, at least if and as long as there are obstacles on the way to become a couple. Keeping the feels to yourself. If things are sorted out, maybe they'd still wouldn't vomit emotions but there would be also noticeable respect in their interaction and no hesitation to help and support, assuming the expression is healthy"

Hmmm, I have Saturn in the composite 7th house, along with a whole bunch of planets and points. Juno, Jupiter, Mars, vertex, Saturn, all conjunct the Dsc. I have no clue about what the composite 7th house describes. But I can connect to your theory, since your description of Saturn in the 7th totally resonates.

Obstacles to become a couple, tell me about it! Although there is jupiter there, too, they seem to eliminate one another in some way, lol.

Keeping the feels to yourself.
That is also true, for most of the time. Given the longevity (almost 2 years), I have talked about my feelings 3 times and in a short manner and he has talked about them once. So, I think that fits, too.

"they'd still wouldn't vomit emotions but there would be also noticeable respect in their interaction and no hesitation to help and support, assuming the expression is healthy"
That's exactly how I picture the relationship, if it ever turned in an actual one lol. I mean it would not be too emotional, although I am far more emotional myself, he isn't and this affects me, too, I am more reserved with him, without even trying to, I didn't believe that could happen to me, lol.
There is respect, too and there has always been support, right from the start, although it was never an actual relationship.

posted March 22, 2016 10:25 AM            

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Originally posted by Aunt Anomalia:
Thanks! I want moar.

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posted March 22, 2016 04:56 PM            

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So how do we tell if it's more fitting in the 1st than in the 7th?

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posted March 22, 2016 05:35 PM            

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Originally posted by Aunt Anomalia:
[QUOTE]So how do we tell if it's more fitting in the 1st than in the 7th?

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No planets, only Vertex in the 7th in Davison.

posted March 30, 2016 12:45 PM            

[quote]So how do we tell if it's more fitting in the 1st than in the 7th?[quote]
Tricky. Maybe this reversal is about bold expression of what you are?

I'm thinking about this stuff again. About the Sun in particular. Could it be that:

1st house Sun indicates a very strong unit, the connection makes the people involved feel more alive and confident, they allow each other to cultivate their individuality and there's little doubt when it comes to whether they're right for each other, being together appears to be an obvious choice

7th house Sun indicates that the couple likes to interact but it's easy for them to fall into "out of sight, out of heart" and there's increased potential for getting/staying together because of the fear of loneliness, there could be lots of mutual wondering and talking about the nature and quality of the relationship, the placement could contribute to the feeling of "not going anywhere", the connection would be constantly "weighted", it could be easy to withdraw from each other if the interaction is upsetting in some way

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posted March 30, 2016 01:07 PM            

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I bet the second hypothesis is valid, too!

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I have a random question. Are you an ENFJ? (if you know what I mean)

posted March 30, 2016 02:20 PM            

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I hope it is a good thing overall, hahahaha, so, in that case, thank you in advance!!!

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Waiting for your opinion on my Sun theory, folks.

posted March 30, 2016 02:46 PM            

As for the 1st vs. 7th house theory of yours, if your hypothesis is accurate, this would mean that perhaps its better to have planets on both angles/houses to stabilize the effects!

posted March 30, 2016 09:30 PM            

ENFJ - "typing" feedback

From the link I shared in my previous post:
- 100 % accurate this “But it's usually not meant as manipulation -- ENFJs generally believe in their dreams, and see themselves as helpers and enablers,  “ As I already said, I hate manipulation in others and in myself, even when I just suspect there is one and I judge myself really hard , I constantly try to find if there is one, even unintentionally. A real sonar for that
- "learners" : Another keyword that finds me totally agreed with.
- "conclusions (reached through feelings)." Absolutely. Even when I think I am being 100% reasonable, I probably am not. At least not compared to other people (my brother for example, the total opposite)
- “they are apt to neglect themselves and their own needs for the needs of others. They have thinner psychological boundaries than most, and are at risk for being hurt or even abused by less sensitive people. “ TOTALLY yes to that, too. Not in a “boohoo, cry with me” way, though I am kind of proud of it in some cases at least, even when it's bad for me (I might be a masochist, oh my God, lol).
- "Extraverted Feeling" : Yes, I do that very much, especially in two -polar opposites- cases. To my intimate ones and to total strangers, preferably in writing, like here for example, lol
- "Introverted iNtuition" : Yes, I believe I have that, although I don't trust it as much as I should. It has proven its value during the years, but I try to stay (?) reasonable.
"Extraverted Sensing" : I am not sure I can provide feedback regarding this aspect. I tend to bind with things or people in retrospective and even when it's too late or the timing is off (cancer placements maybe?) . Some other times I move on unexpectedly easily compared to my general tendency (uranus trine sun and mercury?). So, “Wavering of sensory perception “, fits, I guess. But I think and hope that I have improved in this area especially during these last years, lol. I mean I am more flexible and not so dependable or attached in a bad way.
- "Introverted Thinking" : You bet I do that, a lot, hahahaha...In fact I am constantly told that I shouldn't think so much. Not that this much thinking makes me more smart, wise or anything..its probably useless and self-sabotaging lol.
“Thinking entertains as logical only those conclusions which support Feeling's values.  “ “"Thinking in the service of Feeling" has the appearance of logic “ I laugh hard with these two..so much thinking and I am certainly NOT reasonable or even logical to start with. I have come to admit that I am probably just mad. But that's ok. Lots of people are mad. Certainly more than they actually think there are I am not dangerous, so I hope a little madness is maybe ok, hahahah!

BUT
on the contrary, as I already said I am not a qualified leader (a comment for ENFJs that I found in another link) plus I can't resonate with that at all either : I don't have a large cycle of acquaintances, neither I have many friends, although I am far from a sociopath or something!!! I love being around people, not all the time apparently, I need my personal time, too and I feel comfortable alone. But I certainly love to interact with people, especially the ones I feel close to me, but with people in general, too. I don't have so much of social skills in my everyday life, though. I am more shy and introverted on an average day. When I "click" with someone though, even a stranger, I feel like I ve known him for ages or/and I want to know/interact with them more, so my shyness and introversion instantly disappears!