posted March 31, 2016 05:38 AM            

We had a few dates 5 years ago but I found him too complex and shy for my liking. Since those dates he's always stayed in touch via social media and never went a few months without messaging me. We sort of became friends.
He's my friends bfs mate, whenever he see's my friend he tells her things like he wishes he could "look after me" and what a lovely girl i am.

So we started dating now it's been a month. When I'm with him he's affectionate and loving, we have a great sex life. We talk about kids a lot. We always use condoms but this one night I told him to be careful because I was ovulating. He didn't put a condom on and said we should be trying for a baby!!!

So now there's a chance i might be pregnant, we spoke after I told him I want to do things properly get married first, he said he would buy me a ring.
Problem is when I'm not with him I feel like I don't exist!!
He never calls me only txts, and even then I don't feel much of a connection with him. I see him every other day and when I see him he always has a present for me.

I'm feeling vulnerable right now. He introduced me to his brother as a girl he's known 5 years. When we got home I flipped at him and said is that all I am to you after u deliberately tried to get me pregnant. I really don't know where I stand. He blows hot and cold!!!

posted March 31, 2016 03:22 PM            

Then he said okay I'll see you tonight then, I thanked him for being sweet and offering to treat me to a manicure, he then says ok see you tonight maybe!?!

I say it's yes or no I don't do maybes, he just laughs and says yes if I'm still awake.
I'm grumpy today feeling quite convinced I could be pregnant and scared/wound up feels like he's playing games with me.

I told him ok I won't bother seeing as it sounds like an effort for you. He replies "see how you feel later maybe? Ttfn "ta ta for now" (confusing and rude!)

posted March 31, 2016 05:48 PM            

I'm a tad bit high maintenance and unpredictable (and he sounds very unpredictable also.) You never know what you are going to get with me unfortunately. I wish I could help it but I can't...because I don't even know what I want myself.

He sounds like he cares about you though. If I were you I would just ask him what is going on...but do it in person. That way he will be forced to give an answer.

posted March 31, 2016 08:00 PM            

told him I'm done with trying i don't want someone to make a joke out of my emotions.. He pretended to ignore me and said look forward to seeing you soon.

Haven't told him yet but just said Whatever, I'll sort it out on my own.
I'm feeling really hurt, can't just say what he really means and stick to it. Either it's you miss me or not interested, not both in the same sentence!!

gutted I blew up at him but feel like he's done this on purpose with no consideration of the fact I'm the one who has to go through all this. After 4 miscarriages I'm scared out of my mind. Just wanted some support not to be toyed with.

Hopefully we manage to speak in person once I've calmed down a bit I'm an emotional wreck at the moment. My Taurus sun libra moon Hates uncertainty!

posted March 31, 2016 08:06 PM            

Should be concertrating on finishing my degree not dicecting his messages filled with mixed signals.

posted April 01, 2016 05:15 AM            

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Originally posted by madelineleo23:
I see he has a Leo sun. I have this same placement. Sun in leo moon in aqua (aka sun opposite moon). Yep is definitely a daily battle for me having this because a part of me wants companionship the other part of me just wants to be alone. My freedom is important. It is likely that he doesn't know how to express himself I am saying this because I have this same problem.

I'm a tad bit high maintenance and unpredictable (and he sounds very unpredictable also.) You never know what you are going to get with me unfortunately. I wish I could help it but I can't...because I don't even know what I want myself.

He sounds like he cares about you though. If I were you I would just ask him what is going on...but do it in person. That way he will be forced to give an answer.

And also with mars in capricorn he is not really the "romantic" type.

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posted April 01, 2016 09:56 AM            

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Originally posted by jjj:
All the men in my life have been either Aqua moona or venuses, but i have Aqua NN, so they teach me these qualities... What I have learnt is that they are very independent and need their alone time, but they are also very strong and loyal. They are not very emotional and hate drama, but can be very sentimental and have deep feelings. They struggle to show their feelings, it makes them vulnerable, so they put on this aloof mask. Saturn dampers their emotions, they still have them, but are afraid to show them. Often had distant or somehow weird mother/childhood and learnt to be independent early, as a small child. So this on-off is a survival mechanism.

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posted April 03, 2016 09:29 AM            

So *Update*

He messaged me to say he isn't mucking me around. He's sorry and will try to not be so laid back about things and he wants what's best for us.

That evening he actually CALLED me!! I was so shocked. To see his name flash up on my phone lol.
He called to tell me he had just been in a salon booking me in to have a surprise treatment. And asked to see me that evening!! 😍

I went to see him and he sat on a chair instead of with me on the sofa, basically with his back to me.
He said he wanted to talk... I was preparing for the worst from the body language I was getting.

He said I've been thinking and I'm not sure you feel the same way about me. The reason I haven't asked you to be my girlfriend is because things are going to get very serious. And I'm falling in love with you!!!

We'll talk about a shock!

He then went on to say I know you are used to being taken out and treated and because I haven't done those things yet I don't care so I have a few things in mind but I've been waiting for you to ask me. I told him that's a man job lol! He finally come and sat with me on the sofa and told me he hopes we are having twins, and if this isn't our time now then he'd like to keep trying, and if it doesn't happen we should adopt because we would make good parents.

I'm over the moon that he feels this way and hope he opens up to me more in future.

posted April 10, 2016 04:44 PM            

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Originally posted by charlie:
I have Sun op Moon and I can spin heads until they flip flop off with my nuisances! It's really an internal push/pull thing that no one but me can decipher. I'll be loving one minute and gone the other, only to return later on.

I'd say that Aqua Moon is NO fun for his Leo Sun!! In my case it's the opposite: My Moon can't stand my Sun.

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posted April 10, 2016 06:08 PM            

I stayed over at his house, I never drink but we finished a bottle and was both quite drunk. So we are staring at each other in the eyes, had a nice evening and cuddling in bed.

He says to me "you want it all too soon, you deserve better."

I was deeply hurt and offended, this is a blatant 'cop out' for dumping someone. I reacted badly due to being rather intoxicated and feeling shocked and heartbroken. I told him I'm not an idiot, and not to use that pathetic 'line' on me. I wanted to leave but i couldn't drive..

He acted like he didn't know why I was upset. I said "are you trying to let me down gently? You're right, I do deserve better than a flaky guy who can't make up his mind."
He said "we are boyfriend and girlfriend. I feel like you want me to tell you I love you and I don't want to say it unless I'm sure I mean it."

I told him I didn't want to hear it yet or expect it, and wouldn't believe him if he said it anyway. He tried to cuddle me and I pushed him away, he then asked me "do you think you could love me?" I told him yes, probably, and I thought you was falling in love with me.
He said "I am and I think I'm scared. I'm not used to this and I'm not ready."

What the hell is up with this guy... He's tried to message me this evening but my ego has been dented.. It was a slap in the face. I've fallen for him hard 😞

posted April 10, 2016 07:04 PM            

I've had lots of experience with Aqua moons in the past, they can be really distant aloof people. But that's not the reason for his behavior, it sounds like the way he's acting goes beyond that.

Ultimately it's up to you but he's not trustworthy or consistent, which are hard traits to deal with in anyone when trying for a relationship. I would definitely break things off!

posted April 10, 2016 07:39 PM            

This guy has only ever had 2 girlfriends and is 30 years old... I don't think he knows what to do with me but I'm ultimately feel pretty sore right now. Think I got ahead of myself in thinking, you want to have a baby with me, that must mean you are in love with me.

Today has been a horrible day, But I do believe he was drunk last night and scared, I've been a bit clingy I guess. But your right and so is he. I deserve better.

posted April 10, 2016 07:53 PM            

Before we started a relationship I've been focused on gaining my qualifications to become a paramedic nurse.
I had almost come to terms with the fact I may not ever have children after 4 miscarriages, then him saying he wants a baby with me has stirred up all kinds of emotions in me.

If he hadn't have said that he wants a baby with me like every time I see him, then I doubt I would have got so upset with his hot/cold behaviour.

Funny thing is, I have a libra moon and I hate it when a guy comes on too strong, my ex was a Scorpio moon and he didn't give me any space to breathe. was too possessive/controlling. I can't stand that, I like to feel free.