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Loveher
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posted June 25, 2016 06:28 PM     Click Here to See the Profile for Loveher     Edit/Delete Message   Reply w/Quote
What does this transit mean i feel huge loneliness and miss a girl so much... Is it true that freindship and realtionship started now would cause pain and might suffer physical injury?

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posted June 26, 2016 01:06 AM     Click Here to See the Profile for yungang_grotto     Edit/Delete Message   Reply w/Quote
No that's not true. I just had this transit too... very healing and cathartic for me...

The pain you experience now is part of the experience oflove. If you can somehow embrace it and find gratitude in your heart for the holistic experience of love and not shut down your heart to any of it... you will experience the blessing of this aspect too...

Sending love ♡ and best wishes...

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posted June 26, 2016 01:08 AM     Click Here to See the Profile for yungang_grotto     Edit/Delete Message   Reply w/Quote
I'm not trying to minimize the pain you're feeling.. i threw my electric keyboard across the room during this transit... but also experienced deep healing... i did some research into chiron more deeply than ever before and found a lot of good stuff. Will pull it up tomorrow and share here.

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posted June 26, 2016 01:09 AM     Click Here to See the Profile for yungang_grotto     Edit/Delete Message   Reply w/Quote
Chiron in Cancer and loneliness are things. They are. The feeling of abandonment and being separated from your loved one are irrationally painful. I know...

Somehow i found a way to accept and be grateful for the times my mom suddenly left me with strangers when i was really small. She was an overly devoted mother whowould wake me up to play with me when i was a baby. She was constantly with me. so when she left abruptly i had zero idea what was going on and would tantrum for HOURS. hours.

Never stopping. Throwing kicking screaming at those poor babysitters (actually the first time it happened i was with the man who would become the executor of my father's will. How's THAT for karma?!! Holy...).

And fast forward to my teenage years... even though there was noooo rational reason for wanting to be with my boyfriend all the time... yup. Screaming. Head bashing.

Couldn't. Even. Handle it.

And then two days ago i flipped on my boyfriend because he was leaving. It's a long story which includes my car breaking down completely so that i couldn't even open the door had to climb out the window... i ran down the street to my house where he was preparing to bike away .. We hadn't been getting along great earlier in the day... and i just screamed at him to get out of my life for good if he was leaving. It was not rational. I proceeded to throw everything in my house.

I then had some safe journeying in between extremely apologetic text messages (he took all his stuff intending never to return).

I think I've really taken a huge step in fully feeling and working with my chiron wound.. I've always known what it was... but this really helped. I know it sounds completely crazy but the working through of our deepest wounds often does look rather messy. We need to become conscious of it. Shame doesn't help. Hence the public forum sharing.

His progressed Venus is conjunct my Chiron... his Solar Arc Venus will conjunct my Chiron in 6 years about. We have the trine in composite and next year the solar return of our Davison has a tight Venus-Chiron conjunction. Our Chirons and also parallel

So obviously in a romantic context this all makes good sense that he would be helping me heal this one... he came back that night and we have fully discussed the implications. I understand that acting like i acted is not acceptable and I don't want to hurt him. Grateful that the trust and love we've established make it not too hard for him to believe/know that I truly mean my apologies and really love him and want him here! Despite saying the opposite when he was leaving (BECAUSE he was leaving!)... oh chiron in cancer... in the 9th no less, and opposite my moon and trine my mercury... hence my expounding i think.

I think my first boyfriend's Sun was on my Chiron... which makes a lot of sense. He sort of re-wounded me (so it goes), in a pretty heavy way in that he forced me to do things i didn't want to do in a sexual context. So that was deeply damaging. But i guess I'll find a way to somehow integrate and be grateful for that wound somehow.. not there yet... but it's coming..

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posted June 26, 2016 12:02 PM     Click Here to See the Profile for Loveher     Edit/Delete Message   Reply w/Quote
I felt the same growing up my father wasn't around and when he did he was only making troubles. My mom wasn't close to me at all she is only punishing me and when i cry she never cared. My siblings were older than me so it was really a lonely time. I was close to my sister but when she had a job that i helped her tour nd she just shut me out of her life i was only 14 years old and she was my whole family. I had to pick myself up and care for myself and push myself. My words were used against me a lot blackmailed me manipulated me my family were the worst scar i ever had and its still hurt when i see anything that remind me of my childhood or teenager years. Not only chiron in cancer i have mars in cancer and south node in cancer they are not only a pain in my life im totally ditched from them. I left for an year now and still anything remind of the past make me feel so alone. Growing up i dated girls and they only played with my emotions. Lied to me cheated on me. Even mu female freinds were liars. The only two good freinds they left me suddenly. Then i met this girl her chiron in my 7th house and somehow the more i want to get close to her the more i react to her based on my past wounds. She has no idea whats going on with me. I know that she cared about me. But I screwed up. Her nn is in my 7th house too. And now i miss her terribly i wanted to marry her from the first meeting. I know its crazy. I dont know i feel like a mess i cant even focus on my logical side of daily life now. It seems like i feel it more now when im away from my home and after I met this girl. What do u think is going on?

Thanks for sharing with me i thought im going crazy. Its so intense deep and painful.

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posted June 26, 2016 01:13 PM     Click Here to See the Profile for yungang_grotto     Edit/Delete Message   Reply w/Quote
It might be good to be as honest as you possibly can with her. Let her know that you're reacting based on having been so hurt in the past. Open up to her if you get a chance... if she understands and doesn't reject you and has sympathy/empathy and love then she is a good person to share with and to be with, as you have intuited.
If she doesn't respond with grace then she is not ready for a loving relationship with you.. honestly anybody in their right mind/with a feeling heart who heard your story would have compassion for you and it would open up their soft spot to hear all this.

I'm really glad I could help by sharing my story. I was lucky in that my family was very much there for me but the wounding was still sudden and very intense for my little 2 year old self. And so the crises in my life also manifest very intensely and suddenly. For you it was more ongoing and pervasive and so you are experiencing a drawn out release of that trauma.

I'm glad you're here on the boards sharing and I would be happy to keep talking with you about all of this.

Have you posted your chart and her chart somewhere, LoveHer? Just wondering where i can find them to take a look.

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posted June 26, 2016 05:04 PM     Click Here to See the Profile for Loveher     Edit/Delete Message   Reply w/Quote
I cant tell her i dont see her anymore i think she gave up on me. And also i told my ex about my past and she used it against me. She said she is my family then i caught her trying to date ppl behind my back when i confronted her she didnt deny or apologize i was too nice i told her i would be her freind and i cant trust her with my emotions anymore and broke up with her. She made fun of me my style my life and told me that im sick. Im single for four years now because of her. I tried to date one year ago and they were liars i saw red falgs even before making a forward move with them.

I will try to post

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posted June 26, 2016 05:06 PM     Click Here to See the Profile for Loveher     Edit/Delete Message   Reply w/Quote
Im not used to be weak and emotional im used to push myself and move on now im all emotional and have no idea how to get over it

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posted June 26, 2016 05:07 PM     Click Here to See the Profile for Loveher     Edit/Delete Message   Reply w/Quote
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Im the outside


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posted June 26, 2016 05:17 PM     Click Here to See the Profile for Loveher     Edit/Delete Message   Reply w/Quote
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This is my ex im the outside too

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posted June 26, 2016 05:33 PM     Click Here to See the Profile for Loveher     Edit/Delete Message   Reply w/Quote
Thanks for helping me i really apperciate it

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posted June 27, 2016 07:55 PM     Click Here to See the Profile for Loveher     Edit/Delete Message   Reply w/Quote
I just knew that she is dating someone now this transit keeps getting better and better

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posted June 27, 2016 07:56 PM     Click Here to See the Profile for Loveher     Edit/Delete Message   Reply w/Quote
U dont need to look at our synastry im over her now

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posted May 24, 2019 11:19 AM     Click Here to See the Profile for Mariamne Mara     Edit/Delete Message   Reply w/Quote
Bump!

I'm having this soon so I want to read more stories. Last time I had this was last year and I don't remember much about that time unless in those times I lost a very much significant clothe.

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posted May 31, 2019 11:39 AM     Click Here to See the Profile for Randall     Edit/Delete Message   Reply w/Quote
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