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Topic: Any idea why I hate this man all of a sudden?
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Ceridwen
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posted June 30, 2016 01:52 PM
  
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or my ability to interpret them accurately.
Sounds to me like this is actually the crux. Is it possible to have an open conversation with him about your connection? IP: Logged |
Septembergirl
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posted June 30, 2016 02:50 PM
I don't think he's ready. Anytime I've even hinted about opening it up for discussion, he freezes up and I am not aggressive or assertive enough to demand it. IP: Logged |
Septembergirl
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posted June 30, 2016 03:35 PM
And just for the record, I'm not having an affair with this man. He just really gets to me emotionally. He has told me that he thinks I'm perfect which is so far from reality and I don't trust that he's sincere and if he is, he's stupid because he's not really seeing me. IP: Logged |
Ceridwen
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posted June 30, 2016 03:39 PM
Why do you want to believe the worst about him?
What did he DO? (I mean calling you perfect is not really that horrible)IP: Logged |
Septembergirl
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posted June 30, 2016 04:22 PM
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Originally posted by Ceridwen:
Why do you want to believe the worst about him?
What did he DO? (I mean calling you perfect is not really that horrible)
I don't know, Ceri. I think it's just that he always keeps me guessing and I feel frustrated that we can't get everything in the open. But everytime I have even hinted at a discussion about my feelings, he acts clueless. Like we will get to a point when I think I'm ready to confront him and ask him what exactly this is between us...he really seems clueless. Never came right out and asked him because ithe discussion never even gets that far.
He gets liquid courage from alcohol and will be very open with me and then when he is sober, I will try to bring the conversation we had up, and he acts like it never happened. This includes text discussions as well.
It's like he's two different people.
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todd
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posted June 30, 2016 05:58 PM
I think you are reading him correctly ,this guy is malicious .
and any time his lips are moving he is lying.
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Ceridwen
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posted July 01, 2016 01:43 AM
Septembergirl, well, noone here knows him, and exonerating or condemning him on the basis of just a chart would be unethical and fallacious. so only you can really know the answer, but to be honest, I am not sure, you asess the situation correctly. Not because I am present, but just because you seem very upset and well, frankly something you said made the alarm go off in my mind: "e has told me that he thinks I'm perfect which is so far from reality and I don't trust that he's sincere and if he is, he's stupid because he's not really seeing me." It makes me sad to see that you apparently have such a low opinion of yourself. Why this selfloathing? (Maybe I misread you, but that is how it came across to me).
You may not be perfect, but you certainly have very positive traits, and I guess that is what he tried to point out (though again - I was not present, so I can`t really judge).
Maybe you should let the discussion get that far or into that direction. At least if you really want to know what it is between you (when he is sober I mean).
But of course your situation is a difficult one, i get that. Maybe it can`t resolved. Not because he is malicious or outright lying, but because of the fact you are both in committed relationships (is that right?) and even if there is an attraction or emotional connection, it might simply be a tricky thing to navigate, without risking to fall into an affair. I think honest communication is the only way to somehow navigate it, but it seems you donīt have that. But also, if you never brought the subject up, it is also difficult for him, cause apparently he canīt read your mind.
That is only of course what I took from what you wrote. Maybe there were some more things happening that contributed to your feeling. So of course my opinion or my view is based on VERY little information. So take from it what resonates and forget about the other stuff. IP: Logged |
Septembergirl
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posted July 01, 2016 09:40 AM
Ceri,
I've racked my brain for 6 yrs trying to figure this man out and I give up. You are so right..it's a tough situation and will never be resolved.
I wouldn't totally say that I have a low opinion of myself. My current significant other is pretty good about letting
me know on a regular basis that I have faults. I'm not even sure he wants to be with me half the time.
And I'm think with this other man, I will break my neck from the fall from the pedastool that he perhaps has put me on.
I also don't really believe in love anymore. He awakened feelings in me that I haven't felt in a long, long time.....feelings that in the past have burnt me for a long time as well. Once bitten, twice shy. So I can't believe. I also think that he loves the person who he is with and I believe that if he felt that strongly about me, he would be with me. Period.
It all comes down to fear. I'm afraid I'm going to get really stung by his Scorpio Venus. IP: Logged |
Ceridwen
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posted July 01, 2016 09:50 AM
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Originally posted by Septembergirl:
It all comes down to fear.
Yes, that is what it sounds like.
But again only you can know if you are ready to face your fears, and what you said about your husband does not sound too rosy either. You doubt HIS love, too?
Could it be that there might be one more problem-area? IP: Logged |
Septembergirl
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posted July 01, 2016 04:58 PM
Yes, I think my chart with him is pretty cold too. IMG]http://i64.tinypic.com/x1lkxu.png[/IMG] IP: Logged |
Septembergirl
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posted July 01, 2016 05:00 PM
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liz45750
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posted July 05, 2016 12:02 PM
Todd, you mentioned the Jupiter-Neptune square in composite, what would the conjunction represent?And what ended up coming of his text last week? IP: Logged |
Septembergirl
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posted July 05, 2016 01:25 PM
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Originally posted by liz45750:
Todd, you mentioned the Jupiter-Neptune square in composite, what would the conjunction represent?And what ended up coming of his text last week?
More of the same. More of me misinterpreting him, I think. IP: Logged |
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