posted July 12, 2016 06:18 PM            

The last time we talked was in March and everything was totally fine then. Back in Jan, we even went on vacation together. So something must have happened between March and now, but we haven't spoke at all during that time so it can't be anything I said. It also can't be anything I physically did in person b/c we live far apart so this is not someone that I see in person, but only communicating online.

So is it something I indirectly posted on social media that they got offended by?? Or some other reason? I'm totally confused and kinda shocked b/c I'm not someone that gets into fights or arguments much. Thank you!

posted July 12, 2016 10:31 PM            

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Originally posted by LaceyLeigh:
Yes, you either posted something they didn't like, or they are upset that you haven't talked to them within the last few months. If you are used to going months without communication, I'd say it would be related to something you posted. Are you in the inside or outside? I don't see a lot going on, but Moon/Saturn conjunction, and Moon/Mars square definitely indicates massive butthurt from at least one of the two individuals. With Saturn on the Asc, Saturn might feel "unsettled", read: butt hurt, with the way the Asc expresses him/herself. Asc feels "weighed down", see: butt hurt, by the Saturn individuals assessment of him/her. Since Saturn is in Sagittarius maybe his/her butthurt has to do with politics/ethics, religion, social issues. Sun/Uranus conjunction could lead to separation, the less stable one breaks away. Uranus also deals with social issues, too, right? Jupiter square Pluto, you two might feel challenged by each other's ideas (relating to Jupiter and Pluto), and could possibly end up resenting each other for them.

I do ask that you forgive me for any butt hurt that I might have caused while writing this message. I'm just fooling with you a bit. I've been unfriended by people on Facebook, too, even though I don't post a lot. However, it was never by someone I considered a true friend, or went on vacation with. That just sounds a bit disrespectful. I'm not sure where you're from, but tension has been a bit high, to say the least, in America for the last few months. People taking sides and no one is really listening to either one.

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Jesus you're a genius you may be spot on. I had my suspicions about it but now you just confirmed it. The only thing I posted that could have remotely offended her was a Donald Trump mock/diss music video that a particular artist did and I posted that just commenting that it was funny. That's literally it and I haven't posted anything else political. So I guess she was a Trump supporter?? I never knew this b/c we've never talked politics b/c she's a foreign student from China that's only been in the US for a few years w/ a student visa in North Carolina, while I'm (American born) American living in southern California. So this still is so crazy b/c she can't even vote...so how could she feel this strongly about our candidates lol.

But there's no other explanation b/c she definitely wouldn't be upset for not talking for a few months. We've gone much longer without talking to each other.

This political mess going on right now is so crazy I can't believe I have to lose friends over something like this. But it's a bit hilarious at the same time and I'm glad I don't have to be friends w/ someone this fragile and obsessed w/ a political idea so much to the point where she forgets who her friends are and the people that actually cared about her. Blessing in disguise.

posted July 12, 2016 10:41 PM            

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Originally posted by aquagembaby:
But if you said the Saturn person feels 'weighed down' by their own self-expression, does this even have anything to w/ other people?

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I think Saturn "dislikes" Asc based on the Asc's self expression. Something about the Asc person puts off Saturn. For example, I have my Saturn conjunct my Ascendant with a family member (also in Sagittarius) and she thinks I'm too quiet. Every time I visit them, she makes a comment on how she wishes I would talk more.

posted July 12, 2016 11:11 PM            

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Originally posted by LaceyLeigh:
I think Saturn "dislikes" Asc based on the Asc's self expression. Something about the Asc person puts off Saturn. For example, I have my Saturn conjunct my Ascendant with a family member (also in Sagittarius) and she thinks I'm too quiet. Every time I visit them, she makes a comment on how she wishes I would talk more.

She probably was a supporter of Trump. It does suck, everyone seems to be on the defense right now. Does she have a partner/spouse who might have influenced her decision? It sounds strange, but I feel like women sometimes follow their partner's beliefs to keep the peace. My niece being one of those girls.

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posted July 12, 2016 11:14 PM            

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Originally posted by aquagembaby:
No she's single.
So basically she's 'Saturn' and feels put off by the way I express myself, and I'm 'ASC' and I feel weighed down by her interpretation of me? Hmm I never knew that about us but after this event it makes sense.

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posted July 12, 2016 11:17 PM            

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Originally posted by LaceyLeigh:
Yes, that's one way it could be interpreted. Look up "Saturn conjunct Ascendant synastry" for a better description. Lol.

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posted July 13, 2016 07:06 AM            

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Originally posted by aquagembaby:
No she's single.
So basically she's 'Saturn' and feels put off by the way I express myself, and I'm 'ASC' and I feel weighed down by her interpretation of me? Hmm I never knew that about us but after this event it makes sense.

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To add to this, she may find your Uranus on her Capricorn Sun unsettling and shocking. Saturn likes order, Uranus rules chaos. Over time, with the Saturn on ASc, this may become difficult to handle for one who identifies strongly with their Saturn energy.

posted July 13, 2016 01:44 PM            

i do not think it is politics as you said she is from china.. but... cultural diferences play a role. sometimes we think we understand people, but we have no clue we read them properly when cultural differences are so wide. I had similar incidents with people from different cultures to my own... so, maybe is that...

posted July 13, 2016 05:44 PM            

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Originally posted by Voix_de_la_Mer:
To add to this, she may find your Uranus on her Capricorn Sun unsettling and shocking. Saturn likes order, Uranus rules chaos. Over time, with the Saturn on ASc, this may become difficult to handle for one who identifies strongly with their Saturn energy.

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Thanks yeah we do have our personality differences...I don't talk that much but when I do I don't filter anything so idk maybe that's why?

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Originally posted by nordicsoul:
is it possible for you to send her an e-mail through FB? unless she has blocked you, you still can email her depending on her privacy settings. rather than trying to figure it out through astrology, i would try to ask her directly if there was something that offended her..

i do not think it is politics as you said she is from china.. but... cultural diferences play a role. sometimes we think we understand people, but we have no clue we read them properly when cultural differences are so wide. I had similar incidents with people from different cultures to my own... so, maybe is that...

hope you find the answer.. best

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posted July 15, 2016 08:41 AM            

When something like this happens we think it's personal, we think the person is affected by us somehow and is acting out on it. In reality maybe she just didn't care about being your friend anymore. Like you said you hadn't seen each other or spoken in a few months and she decided to clean up her contacts.

We want people to be considerate and expect them to think of us but selfishness and disregard are prevalent most of the time. It happens in close friendships and in acquaintance/casual friend relationships even more. When someone acts badly or disrespects us we think it's on purpose and try to find a reason they may dislike us or be upset with us but really it's because we're just not that important to them and they aren't even thinking of us.

In a way indifference hurts more than hatred.

posted July 16, 2016 04:08 PM            

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Originally posted by meyray:
This is something that may be unpleasant to hear but I've seen it many times with people and I've experienced it too.

When something like this happens we think it's personal, we think the person is affected by us somehow and is acting out on it. In reality maybe she just didn't care about being your friend anymore. Like you said you hadn't seen each other or spoken in a few months and she decided to clean up her contacts.

We want people to be considerate and expect them to think of us but selfishness and disregard are prevalent most of the time. It happens in close friendships and in acquaintance/casual friend relationships even more. When someone acts badly or disrespects us we think it's on purpose and try to find a reason they may dislike us or be upset with us but really it's because we're just not that important to them and they aren't even thinking of us.

In a way indifference hurts more than hatred.

To give you a lesser example - when I was at work I thought I'd befriended a co-worker but when new people came in she floated to them and when I left she removed me from social media. My first thought was "Wow, did she secretly dislike me this whole time?" but then I realized she probably just didn't care.

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posted July 18, 2016 02:51 AM            

reasons I unfriend some in my network
1.- they were friends in the past, but they did not bother to answer e-mails, so i thought that if people do not have time for me, i should just not use my time for them. so not having them on my list was sort of "having the only ones who cares"
2.- they were never closed friends and the reason we connected (colleagues for example) was not present anymore
3.-I thought these people looking at my personal information.. better no...

so, i agree, sometimes is not personal in the sense that there is nothing particular you did. it is more about the person. in my case, i do not like to have "non-sense" friend who play no purpose in my life other than feeding my news with their pictures.. i want people who care about me (care, not gossipers or curious, but give a Sh..t about my life).. and normally, these are few...

I am cancerian venus-sun-mars and for me relationships must have a caring element. superficial relatioship with the "i like" your picture does not do for me...

so, definitely, most of the time it is not about you, but about the person

posted July 19, 2016 09:48 PM            

I've been avoiding someone in similar fashion and their SN conjuncts my moon. I often feel extremely drained by this person after spending time with her. She's nice and all, but she reminds me a lot of myself - at the age of 15. I'm in my 30's now and even though she's the same age as me, It often feels like I'm hanging out with a version of myself that did not evolve past highschool. This is very draining for me. According to what I've read, the moon person often feel "held back" or "drained" by the SN person and that has certainly been my experience with her. I'm ready to move on and spiritually grow up more- not shrink back to high school me. But there's no way for me to tell her this without insulting her because she takes everything personally. Once a friend of ours made a passing comment about her grammar not being great, and she was so hurt by it she didn't stop complaining about what he said for MONTHS. (I mean so what if he said that? Who's grammar is perfect anyway? Mine isn't. If someone pointed it out I would either try to fix it or get over it. It's not like they called me a an insane, man-stealing ***** with AIDS or anything. Sheesh If you can't even give her a harmless little criticism about grammar how can I possibly have a heart to heart, adult talk about how I feel really tired after hanging out for too long? I don't think it would lead anywhere positive so might as well just fade away and not give any explanation.