posted July 27, 2016 04:31 PM            

I know a lot of couples whose long-term synastries include either unaspected or weakly aspected Mercuries. Curious because people gasp at unaspected planets in general and yet this one seems to be quite common (in what I've seen).

Even in my own relationship history, both my ex and my current SO have unaspected Mercuries (well aspected in the composites, though). My coworker and her husband have been married 40 years and his Mercury is unaspected. Two other girlfriends of mine who are married have their Mercuries unaspected. Another couple I know...BOTH of their Mercuries are unaspected!

Sooooo...I'm going to go ahead and say I don't think it's the MOST important planet. I think you would know though, almost right away if you're able to talk to someone easily. It either feels comfortable to talk to them, or it doesn't. If you're having communication issues, the synastry MIGHT help to explain this, but it seems many couples get on just fine without a prominent Mercury on either side. I think other factors come into play, like how comfortable you are with them and if you have a strong connection in general, which may help to make communication easier.

posted July 27, 2016 05:11 PM            

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Originally posted by margym0o:
I'm starting to think Mercury is one of those planets that's really personal because it's hit or miss how important it is in synastry.

I know a lot of couples whose long-term synastries include either unaspected or weakly aspected Mercuries. Curious because people gasp at unaspected planets in general and yet this one seems to be quite common (in what I've seen).

Even in my own relationship history, both my ex and my current SO have unaspected Mercuries (well aspected in the composites, though). My coworker and her husband have been married 40 years and his Mercury is unaspected. Two other girlfriends of mine who are married have their Mercuries unaspected. Another couple I know...BOTH of their Mercuries are unaspected!

Sooooo...I'm going to go ahead and say I don't think it's the MOST important planet. I think you would know though, almost right away if you're able to talk to someone easily. It either feels comfortable to talk to them, or it doesn't. If you're having communication issues, the synastry MIGHT help to explain this, but it seems many couples get on just fine without a prominent Mercury on either side. I think other factors come into play, like how comfortable you are with them and if you have a strong connection in general, which may help to make communication easier.

IME, the Mercury aspects I've seen/heard about so far that lend themselves to "great" communication are Mercury/Mercury aspects (trine or sextile...maybe conjunct) and Mercury/Jupiter (soft and maybe even hard aspects it seems - makes people talk "a lot" with each other).

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posted July 27, 2016 05:16 PM            

I personally can't date someone who at least isn't practical or level-headed. You don't have to be Einstein or anything, but at least know the basics like who Anne Frank is or what happened during pearl harbor, ya know? I badly aspected mercury is annoying.

I'm sure other factors should be considered, but if you can't even stand talking to the person, does anything else really matter? Sex is good but what happens when time passes amd other aspects of the relationship come onto clear view? You can't never not talk or share intimate thoughts with each other. It just won't work out.

Maybe only if negative aspects somehow create more excitement instead of itritation or friction. Saturn won't allow the excitement so even that is a no go if Saturn is involved.

posted July 27, 2016 05:21 PM            

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Originally posted by Yanmorg:
It depends...

I personally can't date someone who at least isn't practical or level-headed. You don't have to be Einstein or anything, but at least know the basics like who Anne Frank is or what happened during pearl harbor, ya know? I badly aspected mercury is annoying.

I'm sure other factors should be considered, but if you can't even stand talking to the person, does anything else really matter? Sex is good but what happens when time passes amd other aspects of the relationship come onto clear view? You can't never not talk or share intimate thoughts with each other. It just won't work out.

Maybe only if negative aspects somehow create more excitement instead of itritation or friction. Saturn won't allow the excitement so even that is a no go if Saturn is involved.

I would say Mercury is very important.

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posted July 27, 2016 05:23 PM            

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Originally posted by ChildofVenus:
Ok I see thanks for your input I thought maybe Moon conjunct Mercury in composite would be good for communication.

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It is! No aspect is ever "bad" (even hard aspects) because they stimulate that planet. A blending of Moon and Mercury in composite would mean emotionally satisfying conversations, or ease of expressing emotions, I would think.

posted July 27, 2016 05:53 PM            

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Originally posted by margym0o:
It is! No aspect is ever "bad" (even hard aspects) because they stimulate that planet. A blending of Moon and Mercury in composite would mean emotionally satisfying conversations, or ease of expressing emotions, I would think.

My point was that you shouldn't get hung up on what XYZ aspect might mean and focus on how it feels in real life, because even couples whose Mercuries are weak or unaspected seem to make it just fine. Only if you run into problems with communication should you check to see what could be causing it, but even still I wouldn't focus on JUST Mercury because there's a lot of other things that could be the source.

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