posted August 05, 2016 08:58 AM            

First of all, I believe one can see abuse in the natal chart. I believe that one is destined to be abused( or not) I know many people disagree. However, it is what I have observed from doing thousands of charts. There are certain markers for abuse. However, this article is not about that as much as what happens later, when the abuse victim is attracted to someone.

There are several phases in an abusive relationship. The first is the honeymoon phase, which is better and sweeter than most any experience in life. One feels one has found one’s true love, FINALLY. One feels as if one has “come home”. Most people do not contact me while in this phase. Life is too perfect to seek help. One feels on top of the world.

The next phase consists of doubts. People do not contact me in this phase, either. They want to push the doubts away. Talking about them makes them more real. That is the last thing the person wants to do.

The next phase consists of reality intruding. The beloved seems dangerously like the abusive parent. However, she is hooked on the guy. This is the stage in which I receive requests for help.

The abusive relationship will have the certain markers. The most classic are the asteroids Nessus and Dejanira, on which I have written a great deal. Planetary markers include Mars/Pluto and Pluto/Saturn in hard aspects. Pluto/Saturn is classic for cruelty. Mars/Pluto is classic for physical abuse,often.

I, always, have a point in writing articles. This one is that the abuse victim is attracted to abuse. Hence, if one feels a wild attraction, one can check the charts and,often, see abuse markers.

I wish I had an answer to make abuse victims shed their pasts. Then, perhaps, the cycle could stop. I wish I had more answers and less identifying of factors.

My answer is, always, the same and that is a true relationship with Jesus. This allows for real change, not pop psych change. I know many of my readers are not Christians, but I leave this with you because this is my hope and I offer it to you.

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posted August 05, 2016 01:07 PM            

Is it really not possible to express/manifest our charts --natal, synastry, transits--on multiple different levels? Like, one person can express/experience/manifest something at a very high vibrational level, another at a low level, and we can influence our own abilities to raise the vibe through practices---spirituality, self-study, meditation, going to counseling, exercise, art.

This is one thing that bugs me about astrology--it's so mathematical that 100% of people on the planet will have their Nessus conjunct someone's Venus (as one example)---but there are enlightened people on the planet who, unless astrological aspects can be manifested at "higher" versus "lower" levels, shouldn't have any Nessus at all!!! (Nessus just as one random example.).

Otherwise it's like saying 100% of human beings have tumors. When we don't--the truth is that 100% of human beings have BODIES, and we all have the capacity to develop tumors, but the actions and practices we choose can change even our genes.

As a parent especially---i don't know, it's all so complicated!

posted August 05, 2016 03:33 PM            

God used it for good.

I would not be doing what I am today without it.

I would be shopping for shoes

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posted August 07, 2016 03:22 PM            

But as one grow up, you can leave the chart and become your own person The chart is just a basic indicator, its like your genes, what you where born to - but mostly you chose your own actions in life and you can change the bad traits in your personality, that is what we can use astrology for!

posted August 07, 2016 04:18 PM            

I will be very honest, as I, always, am.

I think one thing and one thing only can overcome chart aspects/issues.

That is a true relationship with God and Jesus.

I guess I would say that, L.

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