posted August 18, 2016 01:02 AM            

Do people feel the synastry when they have an identical natal ? For example, a man has sun opposite moon natally, and he is currently seeing a woman whose Sun is conjunct his Sun, and therefore opposite his Moon. Will he feel this attraction in synastry ?

Similar, he has Sun conjunct Pluto natally, which he therefore also has in synastry with the woman in question. Yet another natal connection that is being replicated in synastry is Mars-Venus. He also shares Venus house positions with the woman in question and has Mars sextile Venus both natally and in synastry with her.

So far, the woman seems far more affected by their synastry than he does (she's going bonkers for him) ! Is this because he really is comfortable with all these natal combinations so much that he isn't feeling them AT ALL in his synastry with her ?

posted August 18, 2016 09:18 AM            

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Originally posted by WhyMe:
I hope I am phrasing this right.

Do people feel the synastry when they have an identical natal ? For example, a man has sun opposite moon natally, and he is currently seeing a woman whose Sun is conjunct his Sun, and therefore opposite his Moon. Will he feel this attraction in synastry ?

Similar, he has Sun conjunct Pluto natally, which he therefore also has in synastry with the woman in question. Yet another natal connection that is being replicated in synastry is Mars-Venus. He also shares Venus house positions with the woman in question and has Mars sextile Venus both natally and in synastry with her.

So far, the woman seems far more affected by their synastry than he does (she's going bonkers for him) ! Is this because he really is comfortable with all these natal combinations so much that he isn't feeling them AT ALL in his synastry with her ?

Please advise !

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posted August 18, 2016 07:00 PM            

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Originally posted by WhyMe:
I hope I am phrasing this right.

Do people feel the synastry when they have an identical natal ? For example, a man has sun opposite moon natally, and he is currently seeing a woman whose Sun is conjunct his Sun, and therefore opposite his Moon. Will he feel this attraction in synastry ?

Similar, he has Sun conjunct Pluto natally, which he therefore also has in synastry with the woman in question. Yet another natal connection that is being replicated in synastry is Mars-Venus. He also shares Venus house positions with the woman in question and has Mars sextile Venus both natally and in synastry with her.

So far, the woman seems far more affected by their synastry than he does (she's going bonkers for him) ! Is this because he really is comfortable with all these natal combinations so much that he isn't feeling them AT ALL in his synastry with her ?

Please advise !

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I think this is a fascinating and important question that gets at some deep natal versus synastry issues--especially accounting for how some people are magnetically attractive/charismatic to many others, attracting groupies etc. every human being on earth has a synastry with every other human being, but some people are attractive to and important to millions--others, whose charts statistically will touch just as many other charts, find a smaller set of people they connect with.

I do think that aspects in our natal feel more natural (or even ho-hum) to us when they're replicated in a synastry, than aspects that are new to us. BUT I think we also seek out aspects in relationships that are familiar from our natal. In another thread, someone pointed out the nasty Saturn connections in my synastry in a bad relationship....but I also have heavy-duty Saturn connections in all my good relationships and in EVERY relationship, because I have Moon-Saturn natally and it's my chart ruler and that energy is required for the relationship to really feel binding for me, or at least that's how it's been so far.

In the synastry you're describing, both people probably feel it---but a Sun-Pluto level of intensity is more common for the Sun-Pluto native. (I had this with someone--I was Pluto, he was Sun-Pluto--the attraction and passion were mutual for whatever reasons, but this guy was also also considered wildly sexy and attractive by everyone our age, because they all had their Plutos conjunct his Sun. I know an older couple with the same configuration--he's Sun-Pluto conjunct her Pluto---they have a multi-decade marriage, are both attractive, but he's like movie-star HOT, probably even more so to people on his Pluto.)

posted August 19, 2016 01:25 AM            

But it doesn't mean synastric stagnation or anything - in fact, it's a very nice resonance to have with someone.

I have a big set of double whammies with someone, and we have our natal aspects mirrored in synastry. It's such a cosy yet exciting feeling.

We think we know how to deal with it, since it's a natal aspect after all. But we really don't - until it's been flipped and attached to someone else. That's when we can really watch it at play.

If, however, you are triggering sensitive aspects - that the native is touchy about - it can go either way. They will (consciously or not), try to work that natal issue out *through* you. If it succeeds, this could be very fulfilling, very healing. If not, if the struggle continues or gets worse with the aspect in synastry, then it might go south pretty quickly.

For instance, almost all of my generation triggers my moon-pluto square. If they become my friends, then that aspect is active and present. In that case, if they can handle the intensity, they survive. Or it becomes too much for both of us to stay friends. I'm probably not as paranoid or constantly 'testing' with other generations (?)
Also, Saturn squares my natal Sun-Merc-Mars. It's really not fun to have someone else's Saturn do that too. I'm hard enough on myself, don't need more of that - cut me some slack!

The person I was talking about earlier:: We have a Sun trine Moon double whammy. And moon-moon conjunction. Sun conjunct & square mars (again, Sun-Mars DW). Also, Sun-Merc, Merc-Mars DWs. Some Pluto, but not squaring my uber-sensitive moon, thankfully. And, most importantly, his Saturn sextiles my Sun - wonderfully supportive. Acts like an antidote to my natal Sun-Saturn square. Some Jupiter love for my Venus, and we're good.
Yeah we do have some hard aspects, but which synastry doesn't? Point is, the natal vulnerabilities are not poked and prodded, they're supported and comforted.