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fiola
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posted August 23, 2016 02:31 PM     Click Here to See the Profile for fiola     Edit/Delete Message   Reply w/Quote
I met him online and we hit it off pretty quickly, we talked a bit and we had great chemistry so we took things further.. We've been an official couple for more than 3 months now.

The thing that is bothering me though is that emotionally it isn't satisfying for me ! I'm as romantic as they come (Pisces asc, libra sun cnj mercury, mars, virgo moon, leo venus) while he is an aquarius asc conjunct sun/mercury, pisces venus and cancer mars.

Even when it's hard to do i give him plenty of space to do his own thing, hang out with his friends, but it's getting harder and harder, because we spend too much time apart, so i'm wondering is this normal for a guy with such astrological configuration, and when and how his water venus/mars will come into play ?

Here are some of our most prominent aspects in synastry :
My sun/mercury trine his sun/mercury
My sun/mercury opp his moon,
My sun/mercury square his mars
My neptune/uranus opp his mars,
His sun/mercury opp my chiron,
His moon trine my chiron,
His moon square my uranus,
My venus square his pluto,
My mars trine his saturn,
My anti-vertex conj his venus,
His vertex conjunct my jupiter (and widely conjuncts my venus with 5°, and moon 7°)
His mars conj my south node.

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posted August 24, 2016 01:29 PM     Click Here to See the Profile for fiola     Edit/Delete Message   Reply w/Quote
Bump !!

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fiola
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posted August 30, 2016 11:56 PM     Click Here to See the Profile for fiola     Edit/Delete Message   Reply w/Quote
Please anyone ?

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posted August 31, 2016 12:46 AM     Click Here to See the Profile for Einfühlung     Edit/Delete Message   Reply w/Quote
I always thought Virgo moon was one of the least romantic, but I guess your other placements overrule that. there's 2 people I know that have Virgo moons and majority of the time they show no emotion.

I don't know much about cancer Mars and Pisces Venus. What's his moon? Usually the moon in a man's chart shows when he's comfortable with you. To me, Aquarius people in general are pretty aloof when it comes to emotions. They're independent and like their space but that doesn't mean they don't have feelings for people they love. I think they love easier when there is distance. "Distance makes the heart grow fonder" is a perfect quote for them in romance I believe. I have 2 Aquarian siblings that are in long distance relationships. The one with the longest relationship said that they really like their space. They hate it when there's too much cuddling. They can only handle a little bit, probably one or two times every couple days, and that's it. Any more than that, they feel really smothered. But they're really sweet when they're far away. It's like they're afraid the other person will wander so they'll have to be extra sweet and lovey-dovey lol. The other aquarian has only seen his girlfriend for 1 week during their 8 month relationship (met online through a game). He had the time of his life. Cried when he had to leave. He is also very sweet to her. He and his girlfriend had the same predicament you're going through. Their needs were not getting met for some reason. He did a major stupid mistake and she found out and broke up with him. It didn't hit him for days then he suddenly broke down. Now they're back together again and stronger. Same thing happen to the other aquarian too. I think there's a pattern where Aquarians (this applies to everyone actually lol) don't realize they really love someone until they mess up and it's gone.

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posted August 31, 2016 10:13 AM     Click Here to See the Profile for curiouspisces89     Edit/Delete Message   Reply w/Quote
I am Pisces venus and I am hopeless romantic. I also have known few men with Pisces venus and cancer mars and they have definitely all been more romantic then lets say some other placements.

Maybe its Aquarius asc and Sun or his moon that is not allowing him to show this side of him?

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posted September 03, 2016 12:35 PM     Click Here to See the Profile for fiola     Edit/Delete Message   Reply w/Quote
Thanks for the replies

I'm not the cuddling type (my virgo moon does show itself here) and he has aries moon, it's all those uranus aspects that worry me ! so should i be scared of them, or will they be okay since he's an aquarian ?

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posted September 04, 2016 07:05 PM     Click Here to See the Profile for CapriciousCapricorn     Edit/Delete Message   Reply w/Quote
His Moon and Mars does not like your Sun Mercury. Could it it be that? Do you disagree about things a lot? Are you sure he understands you? Because it seems he doesn't and that makes him angry. You guys argue a lot?

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posted September 08, 2016 03:21 PM     Click Here to See the Profile for fiola     Edit/Delete Message   Reply w/Quote
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Originally posted by CapriciousCapricorn:
His Moon and Mars does not like your Sun Mercury. Could it it be that? Do you disagree about things a lot? Are you sure he understands you? Because it seems he doesn't and that makes him angry. You guys argue a lot?

He seldom expresses his feelings and thinks he's got me all figured out while he hasn't even scratched the surface and THIS irritates me, so i'm the one who starts all the arguing. He's the one trying to calm me down, you'd think the opposite would happen given my libra sun and his aries moon

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posted September 08, 2016 06:12 PM     Click Here to See the Profile for CapriciousCapricorn     Edit/Delete Message   Reply w/Quote
Fiola,

be careful because it has only been 3 months. What you described already sounds like your Sun (hurt ego) and Mercury (initiating the discussion/argument) reacting to his Moon and Mars. The thing is, it also looks like you have not awoken his Moon and Mars yet. Once he gets more comfortable in the relationship, maybe when it becomes more stable and predictable, then you will see how much you two disagree on, there will be more of heated arguments where He will be the angry one and you won't believe it used to be vice versa. Even now, he (Moon) doesn't understand you, what you want from him etc etc, he's trying to calm you down.. And because you are both Sun Mercury people, in the future these aspect conflicts between you will not go down well. I don't even know who is going to have the last say there.

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posted September 09, 2016 06:40 PM     Click Here to See the Profile for hypatia238     Edit/Delete Message   Reply w/Quote
There should a support group for women who date Aquarius men, you are not the first to end up breaking up with an Aquarius bc they are not romantic enough, or aloof or distant etc...

I love them but yes they are different and can be hard to understand, I have had multiple clients come to me complaining about their aqua boyfriend lol. My first boyfriend was aqua and I broke up with him bc he didn't like holding hands and other reasons nice guy though...

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posted September 12, 2016 05:46 PM     Click Here to See the Profile for fiola     Edit/Delete Message   Reply w/Quote
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Originally posted by CapriciousCapricorn:
Fiola,

be careful because it has only been 3 months. What you described already sounds like your Sun (hurt ego) and Mercury (initiating the discussion/argument) reacting to his Moon and Mars. The thing is, it also looks like you have not awoken his Moon and Mars yet. Once he gets more comfortable in the relationship, maybe when it becomes more stable and predictable, then you will see how much you two disagree on, there will be more of heated arguments where He will be the angry one and you won't believe it used to be vice versa. Even now, he (Moon) doesn't understand you, what you want from him etc etc, he's trying to calm you down.. And because you are both Sun Mercury people, in the future these aspect conflicts between you will not go down well. I don't even know who is going to have the last say there.


That does make sense actually, and i'm fully prepared to face his moon, oppositions aren't that bad, it's the mars that i find scary, we'll see how it will play.

Thanks this was spot on !

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posted September 12, 2016 06:00 PM     Click Here to See the Profile for fiola     Edit/Delete Message   Reply w/Quote
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Originally posted by hypatia238:
There should a support group for women who date Aquarius men, you are not the first to end up breaking up with an Aquarius bc they are not romantic enough, or aloof or distant etc...

I love them but yes they are different and can be hard to understand, I have had multiple clients come to me complaining about their aqua boyfriend lol. My first boyfriend was aqua and I broke up with him bc he didn't like holding hands and other reasons nice guy though...


Aquariuses shouldn't even be allowed to date with all their detachement

Honnestly, it's the fact that he gave me space that made me like him in the first place, now that i've had too much space i want more of him all for myself. All i really want is to know that we are on the same page concerning our relationship.

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posted September 12, 2016 11:10 PM     Click Here to See the Profile for hypatia238     Edit/Delete Message   Reply w/Quote
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Originally posted by fiola:
Aquariuses shouldn't even be allowed to date with all their detachement

Honnestly, it's the fact that he gave me space that made me like him in the first place, now that i've had too much space i want more of him all for myself. All i really want is to know that we are on the same page concerning our relationship.


Completely understandable 😊.

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posted September 16, 2016 12:33 AM     Click Here to See the Profile for Empty Spaces     Edit/Delete Message   Reply w/Quote
The strongest aspects from my chart comes from uranus! and I have pisces venus and cancer mars and though Im a girl and I can act like that too.Sometimes a need a lot of space!
Plus I have moon and ASC in air sign so that could be an air thing...

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posted September 16, 2016 12:49 AM     Click Here to See the Profile for Empty Spaces     Edit/Delete Message   Reply w/Quote
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Originally posted by fiola:
Aquariuses shouldn't even be allowed to date with all their detachement

Honnestly, it's the fact that he gave me space that made me like him in the first place, now that i've had too much space i want more of him all for myself. All i really want is to know that we are on the same page concerning our relationship.


Give him the space he wants/needs at least for a while dear.Sometimes we need to let the emotions settle down.Its difficult for us to process our feelings you know?

Or maybe just tell him you miss him, I mean no judgments or confrontation about it, so he is going to find his way back to you.

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Moon-uranus..Only saw that now!!!I think there is a pattern of people disappearing for a while with this aspect.

Besides that I think 3 months for some people (like an air person like me ) is too early to have this type of conversation.I have a deep problem to express my feelings and if someone pressures me I run to the hills and Im a girl lol imagine how that is for a aquarius MAN!

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posted September 16, 2016 07:23 PM     Click Here to See the Profile for fiola     Edit/Delete Message   Reply w/Quote
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Originally posted by Empty Spaces:
Give him the space he wants/needs at least for a while dear.Sometimes we need to let the emotions settle down.Its difficult for us to process our feelings you know?

Or maybe just tell him you miss him, I mean no judgments or confrontation about it, so he is going to find his way back to you.

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Moon-uranus..Only saw that now!!!I think there is a pattern of people disappearing for a while with this aspect.

Besides that I think 3 months for some people (like an air person like me ) is too early to have this type of conversation.I have a deep problem to express my feelings and if someone pressures me I run to the hills and Im a girl lol imagine how that is for a aquarius MAN!


I have a lot of air in my chart too, and i need space as well, that's why i liked him in the first place. But the thing that buggs me with him is that i need to feel emotionally secure as well(virgo moon). And whenever i give him his space, he takes forever to come back, and i'm afraid by the time he'll be back, i would've moved on (leo venus is a bit** ) and i really do like him !!

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posted September 16, 2016 07:53 PM     Click Here to See the Profile for CapriciousCapricorn     Edit/Delete Message   Reply w/Quote
Come on people. They're just Aquariuses, NOT aliens!

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posted September 16, 2016 07:58 PM     Click Here to See the Profile for next to neptune     Edit/Delete Message   Reply w/Quote
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Originally posted by CapriciousCapricorn:
Come on people. They're just Aquariuses, NOT aliens!

yeah and this guy got a pisces venus + cancer mars, he should be a bit more affectionate, but pisces venus can be really shy in the beginning

and aqua sun + libra sun is a great combi as well your leo mars would be able to make him comfortable also...

please dont give up on him, I really think you are a great match

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posted September 17, 2016 07:57 PM     Click Here to See the Profile for fiola     Edit/Delete Message   Reply w/Quote
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Originally posted by CapriciousCapricorn:
Come on people. They're just Aquariuses, NOT aliens!

OMG this made me laugh so much . They are humans. Detached humans, but still humans

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posted September 17, 2016 08:02 PM     Click Here to See the Profile for fiola     Edit/Delete Message   Reply w/Quote
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Originally posted by next to neptune:
yeah and this guy got a pisces venus + cancer mars, he should be a bit more affectionate, but pisces venus can be really shy in the beginning

and aqua sun + libra sun is a great combi as well your leo mars would be able to make him comfortable also...

please dont give up on him, I really think you are a great match


Thanks for that . Those good aspects are what's keeping us together. The challenging aspects, and especially coming from uranus are the ones i find concerning i guess..

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