posted September 04, 2016 01:10 AM            

Throughout our time together I've felt (and know) that I've given unconditional support. I did not sense this same support back at times.

You don't believe this is a healthy relationship based on the charts? Is it that we are too different?

Thanks so much.

posted September 12, 2016 10:13 AM            

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Originally posted by EmGem:
man that's so tough, sorry to hear

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posted September 12, 2016 10:16 AM            

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Originally posted by Brendan34:
If anyone else has any feedback on these charts I would really appreciate the input. Thank you very much.

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to me, looks like a relationship which started with a great deal of mutual attraction but then the hotness began to fade.

in the composite I see venus after the sun, and in my personal experience it shows a relationship where the female gradually becomes unavailable for various reason. In your case, it is her venus opposing your neptune, where you feel like you promise to her more that you can, and she feels lots of pain constantly fearing that you are eventually going to disappear and that she will lose you.

I believe she needs a rather spontaneous man which she has probably figured out she will not find in you. to her, you are a person she can have lots of fun with and you sure boost her confidence and make her feel good about herself (your sun and venus in her 5th), but you have no planets in her 7th house and she feels this void and can't see you guys being long term.

looking at her chart alone, I see a very business oriented person, whereas yours sounds like a family type of man. I am sorry but I believe she finds her relationship with you rather boring at times.

her saturn is in your 7th, and your NN is on her DC, you feel like she can shape your future and that with her, your life will finally be in order, which isn't unfortunately how she feels about you. of course with her sun in your 12th, you may think to yourself that she will always be there for you, which again is not true.

her moon is too far away away from yours, and you often feel like she is emotionally out of reach for you and that you can't say what she thinks or how she feel which can become more frustrating with your mercury squaring her neptune, making you feel like you can almost never trust her completely.

her sun and moon combination shows a person who looks for and needs lots of action in a relationship and is rather a demanding partner, and yours shows a person who needs compassion and probably gets into relationships for children.

with her mars opposing your moon, it is clear that she has stepped on your ego more than once, and it may not even be deliberate on her part. the way she expresses herself alone sometimes hurts your feelings bad.

in the composite, the 9th house is packed which shows a relationship where lots of learning together is happening, and lots of travel together is possible, but also one of the "long-distance" theme which seems inevitable. chiron opposing saturn/uranus shows painful circumstances that will never change. pluto/moon opposing the sun/venus shows lots of mutual need to control one another in who the other hangs out with (pluto/moon in the third).

The reason you are having a hard time getting over this relationship is your neptune opposing her venus and your sun her moon. It is certain that you both will always remember each other, but I am sorry to say that I don't see this relationship as successful in the long run. You are ready to compromise, but she is not, and she will always feel as if something is lacking.

posted September 13, 2016 01:28 AM            

Yeah, I think I feel a sense of guilt for seeming too "boring" which I know my personality is definitely not, but perhaps socially we were just too different. Only thing I am confused at, I have a very full 10th House in my individual chart, so wouldn't that mean I am career oriented/focused as well?

posted September 13, 2016 01:39 AM            

Todd was right in his above post about infidelity...I learned today that she cheated on me in October, 2013. Now I wonder why I would be asked to move down to where she lives and uproot my life this year if that had occurred. I remember once seeing an article on her computer which said "Why Cheating Isn't The Worst Thing You Can Do In A Relationship." And thinking hm, that's odd. Wonder if this was a recurring theme, but doesn't matter anymore.

My grandfather died in early November 2013 and the day after the funeral and reception, which was a ton of people at my house (big extended family), she wanted to break up with me. (Now I know the real reason). Saying I didn't "pay enough attention to her that weekend" when I had cousins and family I hadn't seen in years there and needed to be socializing with many people as this event was at my home.

I wrote her a letter saying how much I cared about her, how much our relationship meant and was commuting 2 and a half hours to school at that time while experiencing some health related issues. She told me she wanted to be together after I gave her the letter.

Now I feel...like a cliche basically and stupid for apologizing so much after the breakup. Someone breaking up with you the day after your grandfather's funeral and not being upfront enough to say "Well I may have met someone else." That's all I would have needed to hear to end it. I always told her from the beginning, if you have feelings or act on those feelings, just tell me. This was our pact. Apparently not.

Just amazes me... when you think you know someone's character, and their whole image and all the times you shared and the genuine sweetness, empathy and the world you created ultimately feels like a joke.

posted September 13, 2016 11:33 AM            

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Originally posted by Brendan34:
Any suggestions are welcome for a text. Feel like I should throw a dagger in.

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posted September 13, 2016 03:22 PM            

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Originally posted by EmGem:
Brendan, I am positive someone who truly deserves your love is waiting for you somewhere out there. Believe in that. You sound like a great guy that deserves better.

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posted September 13, 2016 03:23 PM            

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Originally posted by Faith:
[QUOTE]Originally posted by Brendan34:
[b]Any suggestions are welcome for a text. Feel like I should throw a dagger in.

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