posted September 18, 2016 10:22 PM            

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Originally posted by Solar_Leo_Queen:
As a woman with Venus in Virgo, I can personally testify to the stereotype of being VERY picky with partners and relationship, and having VERY high standards. I don't know much about others here, but I know for sure that I always find myself laughing whenever I read the stereotype because it's true.

This year is the only year I have truly opened myself up to the idea of having a relationship. Before, I used to avoid it because I was scared that maybe I may end up not liking the person or they may end up not liking me back. Mind you, Virgo does not like to waste time on nonsense.

This is definitely a placement for the "strong independent woman" types (unless Venus is in the 7th house or something like that). I can live without a partner for years and will gladly settle down alone with a cat on my lap.

I always used to reject guys even though they were very close to my ideal guy. If they missed a quality on my checklist that I am looking for, they're immediately rejected. Also, I always thought men were disgusting slobs (Virgo likes clean). I was friends with men, however.

The one amazing thing about having Venus in Virgo though, is when we find someone who can get through our filters without being perfect, we become more open to the idea of unconditional love and a loving relationship with someone. That's what my boyfriend did, and he is my first.

If you're after someone with Venus in Virgo, do not let the standards and pickiness deter you from going after her. Find a way to make her comfortable enough so she is able to show you her imperfections, and therefore, she won't demand perfection from you anymore. That's just my two cents.

Also, sexually we're a bit reserved and shy at first. Again, you'd have to make us comfortable enough. We're VERY willing to please, especially when you tell us exactly what you want us to do and where you want it done. Just a little heads up though, if the girl you're after does not get it right the first time, don't slam her. Give her another chance and encourage her to try again next time. To a Virgo, practice makes perfect.

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Wow!! If I may, can I ask you a few questions?

1. You claimed you always rejected guys, even though they were very close to your ideal man. If they missed a quality on your checklist, they were immediately rejected. Can you give me an example of a quality that they didn't have that would've gotten them rejected by you?

2. What did your boyfriend do that actually got through your "checklist"? What qualities did he embody?

posted September 19, 2016 03:50 PM            

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Originally posted by Mohini108:
Wow!! If I may, can I ask you a few questions?

1. You claimed you always rejected guys, even though they were very close to your ideal man. If they missed a quality on your checklist, they were immediately rejected. Can you give me an example of a quality that they didn't have that would've gotten them rejected by you?

2. What did your boyfriend do that actually got through your "checklist"? What qualities did he embody?

3. How important is MENTAL stimulation to you? I've read Venus in Virgos highly value stimulating and intellectual conversations, sharp wit, etc. I'm not saying Venus in Virgos don't value physical looks, but the intellectual side is very important to them. I read a comment somewhere else where a girl, with Venus in Virgo, said she knew (they didn't date) an extremely handsome guy who had a great personality. But, mentally and intellectually, they didn't connect all that well. He didn't have that razor sharp wit that she values, and their conversations were kind of boring a lot of times. Despite his great looks and nice personality, she had no interest in him because of the lack of mental stimulation. Thoughts???

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Sure, I don't mind answering questions at all

For question 1, one of the main things I look for in a man is ambition. A man can be the most good-looking person I know and I'd still reject him if I sense that he has no ambition. There's just this thing with earth venuses that we like dependable people. Usually, what I think based on my experience is that unambitious people tend to be unreliable. I have to know and be confident that I am gonna be with a man that's gonna go somewhere and who I can get to the top with. These days, there are only a few men, especially in my generation, that actually want to work hard for what they want and build their success little by little.

Here's a quote from Blake Lively. She's a Venus in Virgo and this speaks very much to me:

For question 2, one thing my boyfriend did was he stood by my side when things got rough. I felt that I was able to rely on him when I was struggling to get on my feet. He was there when my dad kicked me out. He helped me out until I was able to find a job and was able to make it on my own. One thing I admired about him was that he's always willing to help people out but only if they're willing to help themselves. That way, people never get to abuse the help he provided. He also showed that he had the willingness to improve himself day by day. That one quality alone is attractive to me, considering Venus in Virgo is always so focused on self-improvement. Physical action, especially acts of service, work very well. You can say all the sweet things you want to a Venus in Virgo, but if we do not see physical results, we're not going to be impressed. My boyfriend does not fully embody my ideal man, but the things he did got tthrough to me and made me feel actually loved.

For question 3, as an earth sign myself, I wouldn't say I disregard physical looks completely. You gotta at least look decent but also have more to offer than looks. Yes, mental stimulation is VERY important to me. I may be a bit biased because I'm a triple Mercurian, but it is definitely important to a Venus in Virgo. I was seeing this guy once and he was a Pisces. He always used to just agree with everything I said and it always was up to me to come up with something interesting to talk about. I got bored in a month and immediately dropped him. Even with friends, if I cannot talk to you about different topics, we're never gonna be close. Also, a man must be knowledgeable on a topic that he chooses to discuss with me. If I sense in anyway that you are just pulling topics out of thin air that you know nothing about just to impress me, then I'd be immediately turned off. Intelligence is attractive. It's not just about mental stimulation. You gotta know what you're talking about as well.

I hope I shed some light on Venus in Virgo for you I am only one person, so please do take my answers and my placements with a grain of salt when comparing to the girl you're after. I wish you good luck 👍

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Gemini Rising
Sun in Leo (2nd house)
Moon in Cancer (1st house)
Mercury in Virgo (3rd house conj.)
Venus in Virgo (3rd house)
Mars in Libra (5th house)

posted September 19, 2016 08:49 PM            

I agree with so much of what you wrote, and it fits me very well, too. My Venus and Mars in Virgo are 10th house, and your statements on ambition are so true for me. I can't be with a man who doesn't have ambition. I describe myself as someone who is always working towards betterment, so I can only be with someone who feels the same.

Intellectual stimulation is very big for me. I can be attracted to someone sexually if they are intelligent and witty and can make me laugh. But for it to be long term I need physical attraction too.