posted September 29, 2016 11:21 AM            

Can't advise you on how to get his attention but my boyfriend liked my style, and I think he asked me out mainly on the basis of that.

I think his Virgo planets made him conservative enough that he wanted to present himself as straight-laced and neat, but he had an eccentric side he wanted people to know about, and I was like the "ornament" that advertised that for him. You'd look at him and think he was just a preppy college guy, then I came in with my more artistic and unusual look, and combined, we made a more striking impression. At the very least, people would scratch their heads wondering how it came together. I do think he liked that kind of attention.

He would sometimes tell me what to wear and not wear. I couldn't wear short shorts or shirts that rode up my stomach when I lifted my arms, because he was super jealous and thought guys were looking at me. LOL! I really strongly disagreed that my shorts were too short, but it was kinda strangely cute that he seemed so upset about it.

I remember looking at him like he was an alien when he first laid out my "dress code" and was going to break up with him for it except he was on the verge of tears (why????) and his sincerity won me over. Leos can do that....be ultra sincere and win you over.

He did like compliments and sometimes I could keep him as a tame lion (Leo sun) just by laying it on thick, but I think he always knew what I was doing there. But he appreciated that I made the effort...my intentions got through. Sometimes it was just a manipulation game that he temporarily won and could feel satisfied about: he had gotten me to play the game his way, hardheaded person that I am, and that made him feel good about himself.

When I gave a compliment from a more deep and sincere place I know it meant a lot to him. He would think about it, ask me to explain more in-depth.

Sag Venus is usually on the go and I think Leo Venus may like the challenge of having to quelch Sag Venus' wanderlust. The fact that I always had one foot out the door seemed to cause my boyfriend to keep both feet inside the door, trying to haul me back in. He liked that I was hard to get and flat-out admitted it at the very end.

posted September 29, 2016 11:41 AM            

I've never been particularly good looking.

Actually I was probably the worst looking of his girlfriends....his senior prom date was a model who was featured in Vogue magazine.

But this is a story I would need pictures to be able to express clearly.

posted September 29, 2016 11:45 AM            

Well thanks.

I don't like talking about my looks, I feel like people have to meet me to understand.

posted September 29, 2016 04:12 PM            

The reason my comment was a bit bitter has everything to do with a Leo Venus person I have gotten to know recently to find out that he is into skinny, gorgeous girls and would absolutely not compromise on the skinny part, EVER. (Former fat boy, lots of complexes there). He also has Venus square Saturn and that is a BIG red flag right there = very low self-esteem. (I can vouch for that aspect - I have it in my chart too).

posted September 30, 2016 10:20 AM            

Mine was a 11h Libra Sun/Gem Moon--he loved everybody (unless they were mean to him or something) and thought everybody was brilliant and sexy and talented...when he was single, he had flirtations and friendships with lots of girls who were very brazen, sassy and showy, aggressive about hitting on him. He thought things were attractive that were never really my style, like (punk/alternative) dyed hair and lots of makeup and showy clothes. These girls were funny and fun and liked to have a good time.

BUT, he's has four serious relationships in his life (two as a teenager, then me from our late teens through early/mid thirties, now in his early forties his wife) and we are all the same type--haughty/poised, long unstyled hair in its natural color, muted fashion choices. Three of us are artists, two of us are "star of the philosophy department" types.

@Yin, he was really nice about it when I put on weight about seven years into our relationship, although his sigh of relief could be heard the world over when I took it off again....he was loyal and my looks weren't THAT important to him....but yeah, I cannot imagine him ever compromising on the "skinny" part when starting a new relationship.

but that might be partly the combo of Libra Sun/Leo Venus/Virgo Mars.

Leo Venus isn't so much about physical looks, although he does care--he mostly wants a woman who IMPRESSES him. But this guy was much more grooming and fashion-oriented than I am---I like those things SOMETIMES, like once a year, but my fantasy look is rolling out of bed dirty and bedheaded and looking radiant because I'm happy. He would take an hour to get ready, with his fancy shaving supplies....it drove me nuts....he loved it any time I would put on a fancy dress.

Like Faith's ex, mine went out with a model, too.....but these guys also like plenty of non-models. (Like me! Non-model here.). He loves anything creative and artistic, loves Big Romance and glamour and fun for fun's sake, loves (giving) lavish gifts.

I think most Venus in Leo men also care a lot what everyone else thinks of their partner. They want their friends to be impressed by her. if the friends/people in general/mentors he admires most think you're beautiful and/or brilliant and/or kind and wonderful and/or funny and fun, he will notice you and seek you out (unlike the other fixed Venuses, who are just looking to how you make THEM feel and don't give a rat's *** what everyone else thinks.).

@Faith, I've never seen a picture of you but I feel sure you're extremely gorgeous, but just appealingly and genuinely humble about it--Leo magnet!!!!

posted September 30, 2016 11:51 AM            

You're all really nice, thank you.

posted September 30, 2016 12:00 PM            

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I know you're asking about Venus in Leo for men but I have that and my Mars in Leo too. So yes, I like guys who look good and are fun. Yes compliments are nice but not too much and they better be original.

Faith, you are beautiful.

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Thanks, you and Yin and beautiful, and I'm sure Lucia is too!

Yin is just like me, she will never take a compliment, but I think she's lovely.

posted September 30, 2016 12:39 PM            

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BUT, he's has four serious relationships in his life (two as a teenager, then me from our late teens through early/mid thirties, now in his early forties his wife) and we are all the same type--haughty/poised, long unstyled hair in its natural color, muted fashion choices. Three of us are artists, two of us are "star of the philosophy department" types.

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Well that's like me! Only my fashion choices weren't exactly muted...

Funny, he didn't notice me on campus at all when I had long blondish hair. It was when I cut my hair to chin length and had it died auburn that he suddenly saw me. I guess he had that look in mind and was seeking a girl who embodied it. When he first saw me, he said it was love at first sight, and he said to his friend that was with him: "That's my dream girl."

Because I matched a type he was looking for.

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I think most Venus in Leo men also care a lot what everyone else thinks of their partner. They want their friends to be impressed by her.

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Yes I think my ex did things to let people know I had certain talents, but I am a Rabbit and a really subtle person, and he's a Virgo moon, and we were both kinda like, "If people notice we've got brains and abilities, that's nice. If not...who cares."

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One thing Leo-influenced people find very beautiful is people who look like who they are--people who embody their own personal style and whose intelligence, kindness, happiness or sadness, dreaminess, whatever shows on their face. Even for people who are pretty rigid about beauty ideals, there are so many different types each of us can find attractive. The right match for any Leo will naturally help us feel good about ourselves and proud of ourselves.

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Well that's beautiful of you to see it that way!

posted September 30, 2016 05:42 PM            

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I hope you didn't erase because we didn't respond to you. I felt like we were all kind of obliquely talking to you, trying to tell you what we knew.

Hope it didn't seem like we passed you over.

posted October 01, 2016 02:13 AM            

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Originally posted by Faith:
I hope you didn't erase because we didn't respond to you. I felt like we were all kind of obliquely talking to you, trying to tell you what we knew.

Hope it didn't seem like we passed you over.

And good luck. And Scorpio/Leo is a match that I love, by the way.

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