posted October 17, 2016 05:06 AM            

So I meet this guy about 6 weeks ago through a mutual friend. He intrigues me and we are very chatty (just friendly banter nothing more). I clearly intrigue him because the next night he asks me out. I politely decline because I wasn't sure what was happening with my other Aries, only to later realise that he was being swept away into fame after appearing on a talent show.
So meanwhile Aries number 2 comments and likes my posts. I do the same to his. I find him interesting and we are clearly very mentally compatible. He then messages me and we get chatting some more, more banter. Every day he messages me, asks me to lunch spontaneously but I was at work so I couldn't but told him I'd love to another day. So the next day he asks me for pizza. I go. We get along great and I feel very drawn to him, physically attracted and loving his Pisces moon blue eyes. Not crash hot on some of his fashion sense but anyway lol. We talk for 3 hours drinking beer and eating pizza. He shares some pretty personal stuff with me and even tears up as he tells me of his experience with chronic depression. Tells me he first thought I was out of his league and that it was a huge thing for him to message me but he didn't want to regret it. It was a lovely encounter, making me feel safe that I was the one he liked.
There was no kiss that night, very early days yet and I just want to get to know him more.
He messages me soon after saying goodbye. Even the next day saying I was so beautiful etc. joking around lots about other stuff. It was cute!
Then the day after (Saturday just gone) I didn't hear from him so I messaged him on Sunday asking how the supemoon was affecting him (in a fun way) as we had been discussing it two days prior. Any reply? NO. NOTHING, at all. He had chosen not to even open the message. I know it was delivered on messenger 100%! I saw that he had been online too, still posting stuff ect. But not only that, he still keeps liking my posts! I'm like wtf?! I'm so confused.

Below is his natal. Can you please tell me what might be happening? TOB is correct.

Also my planets fall into his 5th, 7th and 8th ruler is activated.

Did I scare him off? What to do?

posted October 17, 2016 06:38 AM            

What I can say is that I am very honest with people I am interested in, I don't say I like them unless I really do. Also, few things scare me in others (except, well, a few mental illnesses), more in myself. I tend to overshare about my life struggles a lot and it's not uncommon to tell them about my childhood sexual abuse or my depression on the first date. I want them to know what they're getting into and also if they can handle me. I tend to be a pessimist too and assume the person of my interest doesn't like me or I'm not enough for them. I don't have affairs, only serious relationships. Taurus Venus and all. So if I go after someone, I mean business.

In my opinion, these are possible scenarios to what could have happened to him:

-he meant to read the message and reply but he got sidetracked. I know, sounds silly, but us Aries are known to have extremely short attention spans. I am notorious for forgetting to reply to emails, texts or messages. Seriously, I am the worst ever! It doesn't mean that I don't care about those people, on the contrary, they are some of the people I appreciate. Also, if you talk on FB messenger, he CAN read the messages without opening them, if he has the pop up notification on. I do it too, see the message and reply a few hours later when I'm in a better mood and come up with a witty reply. The other person thinks I was busy and didn't get the chance to read their message. It's a Mercury opposite Pluto sneaky tactic, though pretty harmless.

-he might be terribly insecure, like he has hinted to you and succumb to feelings for worthlessness. I do too, though in general I have to have a more concrete reason. Usually I bounce back soon, and get back to the people I care about.

posted October 17, 2016 08:14 AM            

Weirder yet, he also has Venus conjunct Chiron in his natal. Even more odd, that Venus is *also* the apex of a Yod involving Neptune and Pluto as the base!!! Strange, right? This guy admits that even though he has a bunch of suitors, he can't maintain a relationship for longer than 6 months because he gets bored. I think low self esteem plays a part in it too.

I love Pisces Moons and have met many highly loyal ones so I won't place the blame there..

posted October 17, 2016 08:33 AM            

venus quincunx neptune and pluto saturn? does not sound too aries either..

posted October 17, 2016 09:02 AM            

Perhaps he's just waiting to get re-stabilized before connecting with you again. Maybe he doesn't trust himself to engage in conversation right now, but he "likes" things to let you know he's still there.

People understand the fact that Pisces moons can get emotionally overwhelmed and retreat, but it's still confusing for everyone when that actually happens.

posted October 17, 2016 05:11 PM            

I initially thought it was an Aries thing too but they're pretty relentless with the chase until they actually make it to the bedroom.

I agree with nordicsoul though in that he's very neptunian. You only need to see those dreamy eyes. You'd get lost in them.

For the record, he was in a committed relationship for 5 years. They broke up an drew he moved to my city in January. I wasn't even asking for a commitment lol, we were just getting to know one another..

So I saw on social media that the day I messaged him, he was off doing some photo shoot with some chick and then went to a party that night dressed as a pirate. Seemed like he had a ball.

But that's still no reason to disappear and not even message the next couple of days. To me, if you 'like' someone, then you want to connect with them and do right by them by not ignoring them. I get really busy and distracted too but if I see that the person I'm into has messaged me I'd want to make the effort to message them back.

I know whats going to happen though. I'll get over it and cut off and he'll get in touch then. I'm too old for these silly games 🙄

Edit: a big part of me doesn't want to msg him because of my Leo pride. But there's also another part that wants to tell him this is not cool.

Does our synastry explain more? He's outside

posted October 17, 2016 07:35 PM            

Notorious flirt, manipulative, self absorbed, etc etc. They need to grow. Up. And take responsibility for playing with people's hearts left right and centre.. and stop being sooo darn selfish.

It takes a village to take the pride in this chart down though (well... we'll see)... my friend and I right now (the other woman, his new flame, his old best friend, my friend) are currently conspiring to get him to get tested for stds which he never has done... he is finally admitting that would be a good idea... Long story short, if I would call anybody a player, I would call these people players.

posted October 17, 2016 07:59 PM            

Sorry for letting my personal experience cloud things. Had to edit.

posted October 18, 2016 12:52 AM            

These synchronicities are getting stranger and stranger.

Well yes, house placements would definitely change someone! I really hope he doesn't turn out to be like how you describe your ex.

Let's see what he does because I'm sure he'll be back. And I assure you, I will let him know in my own way that I ain't putting up with that BS!

The liking my posts thing. I think he's just keeping me warm! Arrrrrrgh 😡

posted October 18, 2016 01:27 AM            

Also player is a super harsh word... But he does flirt with so many people and is really unaccountable for his actions... thing is the Neptune factor and other things... lots of things...

Ummm

But argh this person/chart is the craziest puzzle, probably part of why I was so fascinated and in love (of course I'll always love him). Very very complex individual, the depression is for a reason, the cruelty and self deception can be really big problems... the manipulative element of the Venus/Chiron-Pluto quincunx and then Neptune in there to top it off.

Reading your post again it sounds like there is actually a good chance he just didn't get your message... all things considered...

posted October 18, 2016 02:08 AM            

Still, even if he didn't get the message, he's cut off cold all of a sudden and I don't like that. I love my space but this is weird considering he was messaging me every day.

Here's the composite.

posted October 18, 2016 02:20 AM            

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Originally posted by Faith:
His sun just got hit by that full moon conjunct Uranus, might have knocked him off balance and made him feel crazy.

Perhaps he's just waiting to get re-stabilized before connecting with you again. Maybe he doesn't trust himself to engage in conversation right now, but he "likes" things to let you know he's still there.

People understand the fact that Pisces moons can get emotionally overwhelmed and retreat, but it's still confusing for everyone when that actually happens.

The electronic world is rough on Pisces moons...people need immediate answers or they start wondering and accusing...and sometimes this moon really cannot keep up. I don't want to make excuses, but this is a legitimate weakness.

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posted October 18, 2016 02:28 AM            

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Originally posted by yungang_grotto:
The Sun/Moon midpoint of the composite falls right along the hotspot of his natal yod, which is a good indicator your relationship will possibly help him become aware...

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Aware of what a prick he is!

I'm fuming right now because he just posted a pic on FB from sat with that girl and they're holding hands, knowing I would see it! What an a-hole 😡😡😡
His title was 'sup facebook'

posted October 18, 2016 02:34 AM            

It does not necessarily mean that he's not doing right by you or that he has lost interest. I would not make judgements of his character, but rather decide whether this type of behaviour is something I can tolerate, i.e. it's much more about *you* than about him.

My observations:

What is accepted as "expected" back-and-forth exchange between two people, especially in texting (I say something, you answer, then I answer, then you answer) feels very limited and confining for Pisces. They prefer to follow the organic flow of interactions (they feel inspired and they share something, then you can either reply or not - or vice versa, but attaching expectations to it dampens the beauty of the interaction).

Sometimes asking them specific questions in order to ignite a conversation can make them feel "on the spot" if they don't have anything specific to answer. I.e. your guy might still be making sense of the effect the Full Moon had on him, so he can't yet put it into words and explain it to you - and also, he doesn't want to give a "on the surface" reply, just to keep the conversation going.

Time is also a relative concept for Pisces - a few days of no contact might feel like eternity to you, but to them it's just a small phase when there was nothing they felt worthy of sharing.

All of this doesn't make them bad people or partners, but naturally it makes them incompatible with people who need constant or "regular" contact. I guess it's a matter of whether you really do prefer constant contact as your relationship style, or it's just that the lack of contact brings up issues of insecurity. If it's the latter, a relationship with a Pisces, once you're familiar with their patterns, can provide great personal freedom.