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Topic: 8th house obsession
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liliyi61
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posted October 22, 2016 09:43 PM
  
I've met this guy from work and at first I didn't pay too much attention on him (I have a bf...)...we didn't get to know each other until a couple of months later and that was when I started to feel something really special about this guy. Most of the times we don't talk but just by looking at each other I feel this very strong connection between us, and I think he feels the same way too. I've been desperately trying to approach him but for some reason he deliberately avoids me from time to time....and then wants my attention again when I go quiet on him. So here's our synastry and composite chart - does anybody know if this is just an unhealthy obsession, or there is something more than that there? [img]https://s5.postimg.org/4ky91g5jn/IMG_0182.png[/img] [img]https://s5.postimg.org/7102fanmb/IMG_0180.png[/img]
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Faith
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From: Bella's Hair Salon
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posted October 22, 2016 10:11 PM
Hi, welcome to LL.  Are you the inner or outer circle in the synastry chart? IP: Logged |
LaceyLeigh
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posted October 22, 2016 10:51 PM
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Originally posted by Faith:
Hi, welcome to LL. Are you the inner or outer circle in the synastry chart?
In addition to this question, are both birth times correct? IP: Logged |
Orange
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From: Georgia
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posted October 22, 2016 11:35 PM
Hope she answers sooncoz I am itching to see who's the one with the Pluto. my bet is she is inside, because the outside Saturn squares the inside Venus, and outside uranus squares the inside Moon ( blowing hot and cold). IP: Logged |
liliyi61
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posted October 23, 2016 06:46 AM
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Originally posted by LaceyLeigh:
In addition to this question, are both birth times correct?
I'm the inner circle. My birth time is correct, he is Sag ascendant but I don't know his exact birth time. IP: Logged |
liliyi61
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posted October 23, 2016 07:03 AM
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Originally posted by Orange:
Hope she answers sooncoz I am itching to see who's the one with the Pluto. my bet is she is inside, because the outside Saturn squares the inside Venus, and outside uranus squares the inside Moon ( blowing hot and cold).
You are absolutely right....he can be nice one day but completely ignores me the next day. .I don't know if it's because I have a bf so that he doesn't want to get too close. I really want to get to know this person but he doesn't give me the chance to do so..
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liliyi61
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posted October 24, 2016 04:33 AM
Does anyone want to interpret the chart please? It's been more than a year now since I met him, and it really drains me emotionally......I need to decide whether to stay on or distance myself from him  IP: Logged |
LaceyLeigh
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posted October 24, 2016 05:42 PM
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Originally posted by liliyi61:
Does anyone want to interpret the chart please? It's been more than a year now since I met him, and it really drains me emotionally......I need to decide whether to stay on or distance myself from him
Distance yourself from him, you have a boyfriend.
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liliyi61
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posted October 24, 2016 06:58 PM
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Originally posted by LaceyLeigh:
Distance yourself from him, you have a boyfriend.
From which astrological aspect did you derive this conclusion? From what I can tell there is something more than simple attraction, but maybe I'm too blind/ inexperienced to interpret the charts right, and that's why I come up here and ask for other opinions. If it's a moral question I think I can answer that myself IP: Logged |
LaceyLeigh
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posted October 24, 2016 08:19 PM
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Originally posted by liliyi61:
From which astrological aspect did you derive this conclusion?
Astrology not needed. IP: Logged |
yungang_grotto
Knowflake Posts: 3731
From: love lives forever
Registered: Mar 2014
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posted October 24, 2016 08:35 PM
You have a boyfriend AND the astrology is confirming what this other guy is already doing... not giving you a chance to get close to him (Saturn square Venus) and blowing hot and cold (Uranus square Moon), as Orange said...Those are two pretty good reasons for giving yourself some healthy distance if you can, because a healthy relationship can develop outside the context of romance if there's the potential for a friendship... I mean of choose it's possible you two are just hot for each other, and there's no potential for friendship or healthy relating, but in that case you gotta think whether you want that to come between you and your boyfriend. But I can see that you're here to inquire whether there is some hope or to indulge in the fantasy of the relationship, perhaps? Maybe you want to hear it is Rio and meaningful and meant to be.. Which is ok... I'm sure there are reasons for your attraction to him but we can find intense composite charts for people who are super unlikely to be together and all astrologers HAVE TO advise based on current actual life circumstances for this reason. If you're unsatisfied in your current relationship and feeling emotionally drained by somebody who will not pay attention to you, you might want to look more deeply into your own natal chart and your inner self for answers, rather than "out there"... Just because you feel a certain way about somebody else does not mean it's going to be mutual, I know that is obvious.. There might well be strong energy between you two given the possibility of double whammy eighth house overlays, but lots of folks feel intensity and go on about their business... Anyway I wish you well. Most astrologers can't or won't give you magical insight into your charts without referencing your life circumstances... That's too much to ask for, especially if you already knew the answer you wanted to hear (in which case, there's your answer!) IP: Logged |
liliyi61
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posted October 25, 2016 08:09 PM
Thanks for the comment, yungang_grotto. I absolutely agree with you that astrologers can only give insight based on life circumstances, like you said there can be different scenarios about my current relationship/ what I prefer of a partner etc. What i cannot accept is an astrologer telling a client there is no astrological consultation needed for an inquiry about a person simply because the client is already in a relationship. Obviously this a just a forum for people to share their experience in astrology and I'm not a client seeking professional advice here. But if anyone is to give suggestion based on a single fact like that I hope he or she will never consult anyone, because no one should be judged like that, especially without the whole situation being asked/understood first.IP: Logged |
Faith
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From: Bella's Hair Salon
Registered: Jul 2011
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posted October 25, 2016 08:33 PM
Your moon forming a grand earth trine with his sun and moon is a powerful draw, especially since it's earth signs (sensual.)Taurus men are notoriously slow to make a move and it may irritate your Leo sun ego to be treated as someone who is not worth pursuing and chasing with full attention. On the other hand, Leos like challenges. You both have sun conjunct Mars so there will be a kind of mutual understanding based on that. The sun-Mars square sun-Mars looks fraught with tension, possibly smoothed over by the moon trine moon. Pluto trine Mars in the composite will create a lot of attraction; no wonder you are preoccupied with him somewhat. And the composite looks pretty good as far as I can tell. The composite NN on his sun-Mars midpoint could make him feel that he has something to learn from engaging with you. Your Chiron on his NN, Uranus on his SN could create a kind of prickly feel, disturbing him out of his comfort zone of Neptune-SN, and stirring up deeper emotions that make him think and possibly feel strongly towards you. But the Venus-Uranus opposition feels a little uncertain to him, I would guess, and then his Taurus planets are just gradually adjusting to that feeling. Your 12H moon could match his moon conjunct Neptune, depending on his birth time. Hmm but I wish he had more aspecting your nodal axis. Wish we had his birth time. IP: Logged |
liliyi61
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posted October 26, 2016 08:40 PM
Thanks for your analysis, Faith! It is really insightful, especially on what he might be thinking....I also notice that the composite sun at 23 degree Gemini sits exactly on my natal MC, which conjunct my Chiron and his Venus and NN. I've always had the feeling that there is a purpose of this encounter between us. We could either miss each other completely due to the uncomfortable energies in synastry, or we could really form a meaningful relationship together where we experience a good amount of (uneasy) transformation and growth. I have decided to stop making an effort to approach him and get to know him, for the obvious reason. To certain extent I feel relief...I have Virgo ascendant, Virgo moon in 12H and Venus and mercury in cancer - naturally shy and very sensitive. With my sun and mars in Leo, as you said loves the challenges but also very proud and is not used to not getting the attention. If I happen to get his birth time I will update the charts if you/ anyone is still interested. Thanks for sharing your thoughts again! IP: Logged |
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