posted April 23, 2017 12:17 PM            

I've had a friend I met 4 years ago whilst at University, I was 20 at the time and he was 27. I always knew he was attracted to me and he would make gestures like sending bouquets of flowers to my house whilst I was away working, send food shopping to my door if he knew I was strapped for cash that week. He would tell me I was beautiful and he would look after me and he wanted a serious relationship. (Basically everything I should have wanted but rejected at the time out of plain fear.)

He only lived 20 mins away back then and since moving home after Uni we are now 3 hours apart but have always stayed friends over the years.
We chat on a regular basis over the phone, message one another but always led our own lives.
He has been in relationships since and so have I...there has never been any jealousy on either of our parts just friendship.

Now 2017 he has been in an on off relationship for 2 years and I am recently single from a very brief 6 month relationship. When I was being treated badly by the guy I was with he would stay on the phone to me for hours whilst I cried and tried to calm me down. He's always been so kind and tolerant of my behavior when I know I'm not the easiest woman to understand but he just gets me.

Last week we decided after all these years to meet again since we spend so much time chatting over the phone.

We went for a meal, went for a walk by the lake and to a bowling alley and then just talked for hours in his car about anything and everything and it was amazing... I've never felt so at home and comfortable with a man before. He made no crude comments, no advances, just completely kind and respectful which is something I've never experienced before. I wanted to kiss him so badly but I knew I couldn't.

I just felt inside I had made the biggest mistake those years ago by rejecting his offer to be with me. We exchanged goodbyes with a friendly hug later in the evening and I left.
When I returned back to my home city he called me 2 days later and said he felt it was an awkward situation. I asked him to explain and he said he didn't want to sound like a clown if I didn't agree but he felt a tension between us that day and he wanted to kiss me but knew it was wrong and he doesn't trust himself around me.
I felt exactly the same but I know and respect he is in a relationship and his girlfriend was aware that he was meeting a female friend to catch up. She said it was fine and that's why I agreed to meet at the time because I thought I felt just friendship for him.

I can't stop thinking about him since so I decided to stop chatting for now. I think he has noticed my messages have become a lot less and he asked me to please remain in contact and although I care for him I feel I should nip this in the bud immediately.

Can you see anything of significance in our synastry chart or composite?

Ruby: 29th July 1993 - 7:15am
Coventry, United Kingdom

Him: 24th June 1986 - Unknown
Bury St Edmunds, United Kingdom

posted April 23, 2017 01:58 PM            

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Originally posted by girlwiththerainysoul:
hi rubynoir

sorry I haven't read through all you wrote, but based on the title, can you tell me if you and this person have conflicting (square/opposition) aspects to each other's North Node? or if the NN in the composite makes challenging aspects to the composite sun, AC, MC, vertex or saturn?

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Hi! I wouldn't have a clue as I still do not understand how to read charts. I usually go off the reports but I know that's only part of the picture.

I can run the chart through astro.com but I just do not know how to read the aspects...

posted April 23, 2017 02:43 PM            

but I do see an exact inconjunction between the composite sun and the node, as I'd guessed, but it doesn't seem like something you can't work out

don't know if it's helping you but I think this might be the source of the bad timing you mention

posted April 23, 2017 09:17 PM            

In the composite you do have Sun conjunct Venus and Mercury which is good, but you also have Chiron in there too. That could throw a wrench into things or indicate a heartbreak. I would also study those Saturn oppositions. Moon conjunct Neptune probably is what is making the relationship feel magical.

posted April 24, 2017 04:13 AM            

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Originally posted by Beautiful_Light:
Hi Ruby, I'm really touched by your story and I wish you well!!

In the composite you do have Sun conjunct Venus and Mercury which is good, but you also have Chiron in there too. That could throw a wrench into things or indicate a heartbreak. I would also study those Saturn oppositions. Moon conjunct Neptune probably is what is making the relationship feel magical.

In your synastry I see Sun-Venus double whammy, Mars trine Mars and Sun opposite Moon as attraction factors.

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Thanks Is this a heartbreak for him or a heartbreak for me? I was under the impression our synastry was pretty good and our composite.

I always seem to lose faith after running the charts. I feel like I go from one disaster into another with relationships it's so draining.

posted April 25, 2017 05:57 AM            

I can't see the charts but I feel a really uplifting love reading your story. We often have to have relationships to balance karma, or learn more about ourselves. There is no rush, but I hope you and this guy end up together when the timing is right for you both.

posted April 25, 2017 07:47 PM            

maybe when he is "off" his off and on relationship ,you might get together