posted May 02, 2017 12:29 AM            

She and my bf used to be best friends before dating, so of course they remained friends until just a month ago. She kept saying sh*t like, "Oh I don't like her kind" or "You replaced me for THAT?", etc. LOL funny. Anyhow, she'd say these things to my boyfriend and he would defend me. She would also comment hearts on my bf's instagram pics and call him babe, even though he made it clear to her they have no chance of getting back together. She got mad at my bf when I told him she is a disrespectful c*nt and she needs to know her place. They're not friends anymore.

I always kept it quiet until yesterday. I didn't like the feeling of being watched, so I messaged her directly. I told her that if she has something to say, she can tell it straight to my face. I don't have time for games. She then blocked me LOL

I'm not usually the type to start fights (Libra mars, peace-loving hippie), but somehow I feel very aggressive towards her. She's disgustingly obsessive and delusional.

For some reason, she just irritates the hell out of me. She's the only ex he has that really triggers me. I normally dgas. I usually like Aries, too. My bf gave me her deets when we were just friends because he wanted to see why it didn't work out. I still got her chart.

Here's our synastry:

posted May 02, 2017 01:57 AM            

She has a Scorpio moon caught up in a major pattern configuration with your sun and her 8th house ruler. Opposite your sun is delusion (Neptune) and instability (Uranus). It looks pretty emotional for her. You may have the upper hand in that sphere. Your moon is unchallenged. she has a natal moon/Jupiter opposition. Maybe she's prone to emotional extremes. In this dynamic, you may be more emotionally stable.

You have opposing love styles (Venus). You more grounded and earthy, her well... Pisces (more delusion?). Her 7th house Pluto squares your Venus. Your Venus squares her Pluto!!! Jealousy and intrigue. I think there is a sense of admiration manifesting negatively.

You are similar, yet different. You both have fire suns and water moons. She's a Taurus rising, you a 2nd house sun. Her an 11th house sun; you a sun opposite Uranus. Her a 6th house moon (Virgo); your chart ruler in Virgo. You a first house (Aries) moon, her an Aries. There is a resonance between your expressions.

Don't try to measure yourself against her, and encourage her not to do the same with you. It's toxic. I think it's you who asked in another thread if you can outgrow difficult aspects in a natal chart. This is an opportunity to show compassion to someone probably experiencing loss and lack of self esteem. Of course, don't martyr yourself.

posted May 02, 2017 03:22 AM            

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Originally posted by ReachingForTheStars:

Don't try to measure yourself against her, and encourage her not to do the same with you. It's toxic. I think it's you who asked in another thread if you can outgrow difficult aspects in a natal chart. This is an opportunity to show compassion to someone probably experiencing loss and lack of self esteem. Of course, don't martyr yourself.

Us females are way too mean to each other especially where men is concerned.

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Honestly, I agree with you so much Reaching. Yes, we're too mean to each other lol. I think this is why I don't have too many female friends.

Before, I wanted to meet her because she was supposedly my boyfriend's female best friend. I think she and I would do good as friends, but I also think she just completely hates me because I'm dating my bf. When my bf was polyamorous, she was the girl he cared about the most. I think there's also an underlying insecurity I feel towards that.

posted May 02, 2017 06:23 PM            

This synastry is OVER THE TOP! I have seen a lot in my life but THIS... like you say for good or ill! Friends would DEFINITELY be an option but enemies as well.

- DW Sun/Moon square
- Both Suns and Moons TRINE
- both Sun/Moon midpoints conjunct
- result: composite Sun/Moon square exact.

^ that geometry alone is already food enough for catching each other's attention on a party or just walking on the beach without even knowing one another in the 1st place.

And then....

- Sun/Pluto DW TRINE which makes these 3 planets an exact composite T-square.

- Venus/Mercury to Sun opposing phases, to not speak about both the oppositions exact, which on its turn fall on the compo Moon as well.

Too much too handle lol.

I'm curious about this guy's chart now. Just in case you want to share.. or did you already share it somehwere on LL and can you give me a link?

If you want to forget just let my words be.

posted May 02, 2017 08:10 PM            

Here's my composite with her if it helps:

Here's her synastry with my bf:

And then here's their composite:

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Based on my bf's story, their relationship was quite toxic. They'd have fights over the slightest things. He also admitted there was a lot of emotional manipulation coming from him. This composite is highly indicative of their on/off relationship as well.

posted May 03, 2017 05:35 PM            

If I had to take 2 or 3 guesses about which Lunar phase your guy would have (I even thought about guessing yesterday), I would've had a hit with a "WAXING quincunx" (which he has). And this based on both your and this girl's natal Lunar phase. Namely, it totally lines up with what I expect to find between couples; complementary phases.

This means that in the case of this girl & him a composite alignment is the result of a DW Sun/Moon quincunx. Powerful!
BUT... in your case we see him having a WAXING quincunx while you having a WANING semi-sextile, verrry exact, powerful and attraction & completion to the core! (the latter -your- 'phase completion' is one of my own findings which I have named "ästrononically tuned opposing phase" of which its powerfullness I am convinced by now - unfortunately I seem to be alone in my research on this).

Point is, THEIR composite alignment (opp.) is not verry exact. Within 2 deg IS, but with this wider orb there's simply less inclination from my side to take it as a big miracle. From my point of view composite alignments (opp./conj.) NEED to be very exact. But I don't see it that way with the phase completion you and him have, although it IS verry exact! (this always feels as a big miracle when finding one, you made my day already yesterday with a quick eye on it)

To visualize with a moon phase wheel;

^ he's born on the yellow line (waxing gib) and you're born on the red line (waning cresc)... and look at the light of the Moon, there where it's totally black on his side of the Moon its light on yours & vice versa. It simply FITS~! And that's what I call and have found VERY telling! (she's the pink line btw wich would make the composite alignment with his phase)

posted May 03, 2017 06:09 PM            

Yeah we have a somewhat tight opposition with our Moons. I didn't know moon phases have a significance in synastry. Where can I find out more about this?

posted May 08, 2017 03:24 PM            

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Originally posted by mir:
I would like to see the signs & degrees of both Suns and Moons + the signs and degrees of both Suns and Moons in each progressed chart.

But I would do it under that other moon phase thread you bumped, to not derail this one and to keep the other alive.

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