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Yanmorg
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posted July 21, 2017 03:57 PM           Edit/Delete Message   Reply w/Quote
I am calling all the women on LL who have an afflicted mars or a heavily aspected mars.

How does it manifest in your dating life?

How does your mars affect your attraction to men as well as the type of men you attract?

What's your Mars sign? Aspects?

What house does it rule?

Does it make any important conjunctions?

Does it make a significant connection in all of your romantic relationships?


I'll go first since I posted the topic

My mars is in Sagittarius at 1 degree.

Mars in the 7th (right above the cusp), ruling my 12th (Aries).

Aspects:
Mars semi-sextile Jupiter (1 degree).
Mars conjunct Pluto (6 degrees).
Mars square Saturn (8 degrees).
Mars semi-square Uranus (2 degrees).
Mars semi-square Neptune (1 degree).
Mars conjunct North Node (1degree).
Mars square Chiron (5 degrees).
Mars opposite ASC (4 degrees).
Mars sextile MC (3 degrees).


Mars has been a strong theme in all of my significant relationships, but the one I'm in now takes the cake and I think this relationship is helping me dig and explore my mars like never before.

In our synastry we have:
Mars quincunx Sun.
Mars square North Node.
Mars square Moon.
Mars sextile Venus.
Mars square/opppsition Saturn (DW)
Mars square Mars.
Mars conjunct/square ASC (DW).
Mars square MC.
Mars trine Mercury.
Mars sextile Jupiter (DW).
Mars square/ conjunct Pluto (DW).
Mars conjunct Chiron.
Mars sesiquare Neptune.
Mars in the 4th.
Mars in the 1st.

In composite:
Mars conjunct Jupiter.
Mars square Uranus.
Mars square Neptune.
Mars trine ASC.
Mars in the 8th, ruling the 3rd.

I attract mysterious elusive types that I always end up fighting, mentally speaking. They're a big mystery waiting to be unraveled only I never get granted access to the key. I've gotten my heart broken more times than not and I blame it on my impulsive elusive mars. The men I attract are usually deceitful lost souls with malice in their hearts for ME (I can't speak in their relationships with others).

BUT the relationship I am now is teaching me these things and what has been holding me back all these years. We have Chiron conjunct Moon and mars with me being Chiron. Chiron squares my mars natally and is located in my 5th house so my self-expression is thwarted.

I am very impulsive, direct, and sometimes a little overbearing depending on the person's preference.

In my relationships with men, I'm the same way. Probably worse. I always attract men who bring out the uncivilized parts of myself. I know I have to take responsibility for my own involvement and actions, but after so many times you start to question why you keep attracting the same provoking energy. We attract what we are.

The man I'm with now has a strong mars, natally, as well but mine is just super out of control. He hates my blow ups and I can't entirely resent him considering every guy in my past has had the same reaction time and time again.

I want to work on these things but I do not know where to start except for right here, gathering research and information as my mars suggests.

So my questions for you all are stated above.

How do you deal with a badly aspected mars as a woman?

Have you found peace?

If so, how?

Do you see a connection between your mars and the conflicts arising in your significant relationships?

Are you learning how to tame your mars as the years go by?

Thank you in advance.

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posted July 21, 2017 06:04 PM     Click Here to See the Profile for Empty Spaces     Edit/Delete Message   Reply w/Quote
I have a retrograded mars in cancer (out of bond).Ever saw a more damaged mars?

mars-uranus opposition (0)
Mars-neptune opposition (0)
Mars-sun opposition (-2)
Mars jupiter square (4)
And some minor mars aspects

Mars rules my 11th house.Maybe that's why I always felt the lider of groups? (When it comes to friendships.In work for example I'm never the lider,have no intent to be either.)

I don't know exactly how that influence my love life.

I attract people with saturn/venus aspects.Nothing related to my mars.
That is because I'm a capricorn.


How I am?

I have very strong ideas and I don't change my mind easily,I also stand up for what I believe and I hate when people try to control me,tell me what to do.I feel untamed lol

I think I'm strong however I want a man who is "stronger" than me,someome I feel protected with (my venus in pisces is too romantic)

-My ex boyfriend was a Leo and we had a very saturnine synastry.

-The other relationship I had we didn't have strong mars either.

PLEASE DON'T QUOTE

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posted July 22, 2017 01:03 AM     Click Here to See the Profile for Piscean Tigress     Edit/Delete Message   Reply w/Quote
What's your Mars sign? Aspects?
It's in Taurus, house 5th almost 6th house cuspid.

Opposite Jupiter
Quincunx Asc
Quincunx Uranus
Trine MC
Sextile IC
semisextile Venus (aries) and Moon (gemini)

What house does it rule?

Rules house 5th

Does it make any important conjunctions?

Conjunct Saturn

Does it make a significant connection in all of your romantic relationships?

Yes, to Sun (opposition, square) and Asc (opposition). Somehow I atracted people with Scorpio or Mars heavily aspected.

How do you deal with a badly aspected mars as woman?

Knowing that I'm not a submitive woman but I'm not a man too, try to control my anger and try to be ih others shoes

Have you found peace?

Right now yes; but when I was younger I was in eternal conflict believing that I wasn't attractive to any man, because my temper scared them. But I discovered that all that I needed was a man with temper, not a quiet one.

If so, how?

Loving coincidences, respecting differences, talking clear and (try to) calm disagreements.

Do you see a connection between yours mars and the conflicts arising on your significant relationships?

Yes,too much struggling power from time to time, in personal and working relationships with men.

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AriesLilith
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posted July 23, 2017 07:58 AM     Click Here to See the Profile for AriesLilith     Edit/Delete Message   Reply w/Quote
Taurus Mars in the 9th house that forms a grand trine with Virgo AC and Cap Neptune and a t-square with Scorpio Pluto and Aqua Jupiter. Mars is the 9th house ruler as its cusp is in Aries.

My romantic life is probably boring even thought I used to be a romantic (probably still is?). My husband with whom I've been together for more than a decade now has always been the only man I've ever had a relationship with. When I was younger I used to be a dreamer and I felt attracted to the intense, scorpionic types. Artistic types I guess, as I'm that type of person. :P

But I seem to attract introverted guys that are more of geeky types. Hidden sensitivity and a bit shy. My husband is one of them.

In the past I did have guys interested in me but I often needed assurance and feeling the same to start a relationship, which didn't happen.

In the synastry with my husband my Mars quincunx his Venus and Uranus (opposing their modpoint) and oppose his Pluto/Saturn (auch), abd trine his DC.
In composite we have Mars/Venus/Juno conjunction oppose Jupiter and trine Saturn.

I feel that the natal t-square does show temper issues, but more off a "I need space to cool off or else I'd explode" and negative thought patterns. I learned to cool off and not make decisions when I'm angry.
Once a wise astrologer who also had Mars oppose Pluto, if I remember correctly, said tht this is an aspect of lerning to not force a fight. Of how to resolve conflicts in other ways. I find it so true. Not about running awy but sometimes learning how to drop it for better.
I used to have more problems with my brother thought. Power struggles and fights when we were kids.

Perhaps the grand trine helps to achieve peace, I never found it too hard to deal with which I'm glad for.

Going back to attraction, I also don't find myself in trouble since I usually distance myself if something doesn't smell right. I do have insecurities (Venus retrograde) but I can't accept being with someone who can't love me wholy and I usually can sense the red flags.

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posted July 23, 2017 06:12 PM     Click Here to See the Profile for meyray     Edit/Delete Message   Reply w/Quote
Badly placed Mars reporting in.
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What's your Mars sign? Aspects?

Leo Mars in 4H

square Sun
square Moon
square Venus
square Jupiter
square Nodes

all of the placements are in Scorpio

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What house does it rule?

12H Aries
(Scorpio is intercepted)

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Does it make any important conjunctions?

It's close to my IC but too far to be conjunct

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Does it make a significant connection in all of your romantic relationships?

I generally can't "feel" interested if my Mars isn't touched. I can see that they're attractive but it's doesn't create any feelings of longing for me.

Also the only reason anything has ever happened between me and a man (be it flirting, friendship or a relationship) it is because I was the first one to make a move. This has been consistent so far.

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How does it manifest in your dating life?

Initially it actually has a positive influence because the only time I have a "go-getter" attitude and feel confident is when I'm perusing someone. I think my Mars lays dormant because of the 4th House and gets to finally do something when there's romance.

But I've noticed that I have this primal view of how courtship works and I get a little tense if in a rare case someone flirts with me first or tries to "get me" because I feel like I'm some kind of pray being hunted. (I see this more as a result from my Scorpio placements)


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How does your Mars affect your attraction to men as well as the type of men you attract?

I find men with the same Mars as mine irresistible. All of my celebrity crushes and some of my real life interests have had Leo Mars. Even though Mars is more aggressive than Sun I find Leo Sun men more of a handful (and generally all other Leo placements) I think it's more because of the angular house than just Mars itself.

I don't know what kind of men I attract. I see them staring sometimes (mostly older men) but no one has ever been an active pursuer.

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How do you deal with a badly aspected Mars as a woman?

I think my Mars is more of an internal struggle than an influence in my relationships. I feel angry and proud a lot. I get frustrated because I rarely find other females who are bothered by the same things that bother me and it makes me feel like an outcast. I struggle with finding and defining femininity as a set of values. The same way men are insecure that they won't live up to "what it means to be a man" I feel that way about being a woman. I need to work on my assertiveness and my will to achieve my goals. I need to clear up some negative beliefs from the "war of the sexes".

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Have you found peace?

I'm trying. I think it comes with age and experience.


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Do you see a connection between your Mars and the conflicts arising in your significant relationships?

I think it's more complex than just the Mars. It's everything working together.


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Are you learning how to tame your Mars as the years go by?

Hopefully yes. I definitely feel progress from my teenage years. More is needed though. In time hopefully.

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GrlyGirl200
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posted July 24, 2017 02:52 PM     Click Here to See the Profile for GrlyGirl200     Edit/Delete Message   Reply w/Quote
I have a traditionally weak Mars that is on steroids lol. My Mars is in Cancer in the 1st house.

Aspect wise:

- Conjunct my Sun (3 degrees)
- Conjunct my Asc (8 degrees)
- Trine Saturn (6 degrees)
- Trine my MC (5 degrees)
- Sextile my NN (1 degree)
- Opp my Moon (9 degrees)
- Inconjunct Uranus (1 degree)
- Inconjunct Jupiter (it's exact)

Things to Note:

**My Mars/Sun Conjunction forms a Yod with my Uranus Jupiter Sextile
**My Sun/Asc/Mars are all Conjunct each other

So yes I have a super Mars lol. As far as the questions go that haven't been addressed above aspect wise:

Does it make a significant connection in all of your romantic relationships?

- It does. I like Mars synastry more than I like Venus synastry. And I have a strong (Taurus) Venus. My Mars is very strong so I NEED friction and heat and a certain amount of not getting along (despite being a 7th house Moon), and I feel like that is achieved with Mars in synastry for me at least. In fact a lot of people may not like Squares in synastry, but to me I don't think they are that bad.

How does your mars affect your attraction to men as well as the type of men you attract?

- First off let me just say, I'm not big on a man hitting on me first. I like to make the first move and choose to get closer to a man. Secondly, it took me a while for me to learn what type of man was best for me. Ever since I can remember I've had a strong attraction for Aquarian men. In fact most of my relationships are with Aquarian men (Libra is second to this). This could go well depending on how much Water they had. If they were strong in Capricorn or Earth (my Moon and 7th) and minus any Water, I would be viewed as overly emotional. I also dated a few men who had their Mars on my Venus (I've also experienced it with my Mars on someones Venus), and again the Taurus Mars (he was all Air) made me feel like a possession. I've also dated Water Sun men and have found that it doesn't give me the necessary energy I need (even if they have Aquarian placements). I had experiences with Aries Mars men, and while there was friction and heat they hurt my feelings far too much. And they viewed me as touchy emotionally. I've just recently met a few Scorpio Mars guys (I actually knew of a Libra Mars who had his Mars Conjunct Pluto and he was similar to an extent)...and I've discovered that is the placement I need in a man. Not only is it a strong Mars (to deal with my over the top Mars), but they will also deal with any emotional issues or neediness I may have. They are unafraid of your more base level emotions and fears (for instance I regrettably had a major crush on one and saw him flirting with a girl right in front of me. I was frustrated with him, and pushed him. He didn't even flinch or think that was crazy. He was well aware how I felt). A Scorpio Mars would be well aware why I was upset and know I did it out of caring. That strength that I was seeking in Cap or Earth men is something they have.

How does it manifest in your dating life?

- I think it manifests in a very 1st house type of way. I really do love the thrill of the chase, and really in a lot of ways tend to lose interest once I get what I want. This is especially true when there is no friction or back and forth. I like a lot of heat. I have always said I need unstable stability. This feeds my Water and Earth...but helps my more out there placements. I'm currently in a 4 year relationship and he is amazing. He actually is an Aquarian Sun with Scorpio Moon so there is a strong element of him dealing with my emotional gunk. The only thing is he is a Taurus Asc and LOVES stability (or being bored in my view lol). It gets to me but he's amazing so I deal with it.

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posted July 24, 2017 03:46 PM     Click Here to See the Profile for GrlyGirl200     Edit/Delete Message   Reply w/Quote
How do you deal with a badly aspected Mars as a woman?

- You know I've never ever considered my Mars to be badly placed. In fact I love my Mars and how strong it is. I have met other Cancer Mars or (esp Pisces Mars...jeez they are soooooo weak) and I don't like them because I view them as weak. And for some reason I've never come across a Pisces Mars woman who actually likes me.

Have you found peace?
- I don't have any internal strife. I think because my Conjunctions occur to both my Sun and Asc. So really it reaffirms to both myself and (def) others what type of person I am. If anything I think my Moon, and when I was younger (teenager/early 20's) my Venus Opp Saturn caused the most problems. I did go through a period where I felt bad that I was aggressive and assertive. But thanfully I am who I am. I also think what really really helps me is my Mars forms a Yod to both Uranus and Jupiter. My Mars is Conjunct my Sun and Asc...so it does help me have the ability to step back.

Do you see a connection between your Mars and the conflicts arising in your significant relationships?

- To an extent. I think I come across so strong that I can sometimes overwhelm people. This is not ever my intent, and I don't ever want someone to feel put upon. Having said that, I do know I can come off very strongly. I think only a specific type of man will appreciate that (Scorpio Mars tend to be fine with it). That has caused me to (esp) in the past feel bad. I'm learning to try to feel better about my aggressiveness, and learned to embrace that. It just took me years lol.

Are you learning how to tame your Mars as the years go by?

- Nope. I honestly don't think my Mars needs to be tamed. I am who I am, and not everyone is going to like me. That does hurt my Cancer self, esp if I actually care about and like the person. But at the end of the day I am literally always going to be me.

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posted August 03, 2017 12:50 PM     Click Here to See the Profile for Randall     Edit/Delete Message   Reply w/Quote
Good info.

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posted August 07, 2017 07:50 AM     Click Here to See the Profile for Randall     Edit/Delete Message   Reply w/Quote
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posted August 07, 2017 10:02 AM     Click Here to See the Profile for Solar_Leo_Queen     Edit/Delete Message   Reply w/Quote
I would say I have a pretty beat up Mars 😒 kinda wish my Mars was a little stronger but oh well.

Mars in Libra
Mars square Neptune
Mars opposite Saturn
Mars rules my 5th house

I kind of hate it because in relationships, rather than say how I really feel or express my anger, I usually just keep it in thinking maybe they'll figure it out (typical woman huh). I hesitate to bring up things that bother me because I'd rather not "rock the boat" per se or feel tension with my partner. When I do get into confrontations with my partner or arguments, I usually just leave for a quiet walk to clear my head. This is the only part I like because it gives me time to re-think things.

I'm not gonna lie, I tend to go after men that I like rather than them coming after me. Maybe this is why I used to never attract the men that I actually liked but attract the ones I don't like instead. I often attract feminine men, which I'm not particularly happy about. My boyfriend even said he saw that I wasn't very attracted to dominant men. I think Mars in Libra is a lot like Venus in Aries in that sense (for a woman, of course).

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Thank you all for your in-depth replies and analysis.

What I will add is, being a woman with a heavily aspected and/ or afflicted mars isn't easy by a long shir.

One similarity I gained from this thread is: our type of women are forced to live unconventionally in some way. There's no way around it. Most people view women playing a certain role and displaying a certain type of behavior in the presence of a man, as an individual, and within society as a whole but our mars won't allow it. Either we conform or suffer and judging by these replies, there will be conformity whatsoever! I admire the strength in all of you and I hope we keep growing, developing, and learning about the deepest darkest parts of our character and come out the other side, happy and okay.

Thanks again for the wonderful insight.

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Mars square Saturn, mars in gemini ( communication) Saturn in Virgo( critical) ... I can fly off the handle when mad, mouthy, most verbal. I read that it has something to do with learning how to properly assert yourself. ( I try)

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posted August 20, 2017 10:55 AM     Click Here to See the Profile for teasel     Edit/Delete Message   Reply w/Quote
quote:
Originally posted by GrlyGirl200:
How do you deal with a badly aspected Mars as a woman?

- You know I've never ever considered my Mars to be badly placed. In fact I love my Mars and how strong it is. I have met other Cancer Mars or (esp Pisces Mars...jeez they are soooooo weak) and I don't like them because I view them as weak. And for some reason I've never come across a Pisces Mars woman who actually likes me.



You must be talking about offline "in real life"?

I'm Mars in Pisces, and not weak. I think people have different definitions of strong and weak, and where we draw our strength. So many people out there act as though they are entirely independent, when some of their strength comes from their good relationships with others. Best friends, family, etc. Some might really only need their own company; I'm not that way.

My Mars is slightly afflicted, so I might be back to answer the questions. It also has good aspects, though.

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posted August 21, 2017 12:50 AM     Click Here to See the Profile for GrlyGirl200     Edit/Delete Message   Reply w/Quote
@Teasel

Well I wouldn't say "weak" as in not strong (strength wise or character wise). I mean weak in standing up for yourself, and what you will take and won't take from someone else. I mean that (at least from my perspective) they can be passive, and very very romantic (so) to the point where you wonder if they even see reality. They also tend to not like me. I actually hate saying this but it almost seems like women who are intimated by me tend to have a Pisces Mars. This hasn't happened much, but when it does they always have a Pisces Mars.

I've also seen far toooooo many Pisces Mars girls stay in relationships with guys who really really don't want to commit or are cheating. But they either don't see it, or choose not to see it. And let's say they do see it, they tend to go after (passively) the other woman (if he is cheating) because the man can do no wrong. It could it's just the types of people I've come across, but maybe it's me lol.

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Do any of you constantly feel like your actions/ motivations/ intentions are misjudged?

I notice I tend to rub people the wrong way without meaning to. I ALMOST ALWAYS come off as overly aggressive. It's annoying because although I AM rough around the edges, I'm also very sensual and reserved.


I upgraded my phone today and had an incident with the store manager. He was a man (like that's a surprise) and since TSun is applying to my mars with a square nearing exact, I thought I'd have a conversation with my Martian self..

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Yanmorg
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I want to revive this post.

I struggle with my mars incessantly and it’s destroying everything in my life. Literally.

How can you get a handle on a 12th house mars?


How do I tame my mars when it’s in Sagittarius and conjunct my NN?

Is it my mission or purpose in life to learn from all these mars lessons? and specifically with my relationships?

Because I AM DEFINITELY living that one out.


I thought awareness made things easier (pouts*)

I want to be a normal girl!

I always feel like I’m too aggressive and intense for most men.

Please share more stories ladies!

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posted March 15, 2018 03:08 PM     Click Here to See the Profile for manderin     Edit/Delete Message   Reply w/Quote
Not all mars afflictions are the same.

In my case it is opposing my moon. I have often found myself with men who are very insensitive to my feelings and will hurt me emotionally. My father was also emotionally abusive.

Mars is also squaring my ascendant which makes me less physically attractive. Mars squaring the ascendant often has this affect in the looks of the person- especially if the native is female.

There are other mars issues in my chart, but I'll leave it at that for now.

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Scorpio mars in 8th conjunct Pluto, trine Jupiter, sextile venus, Saturn, Uranus, and Neptune. I am very sweet but also come off very strongly, even when I don’t want to. Some people are drawn to this kind of energy, but most (especially certain men) are not. I think I’m seen as threatening :/

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Scorpio mars in 8th conjunct Pluto, trine Jupiter, sextile venus, Saturn, Uranus, and Neptune. I am very sweet but also come off very strongly, even when I don’t want to. Some people are drawn to this kind of energy, but most (especially certain men) are not. I think I’m seen as threatening :/

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