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Bubbles0o
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posted February 20, 2018 08:18 AM     Click Here to See the Profile for Bubbles0o     Edit/Delete Message   Reply w/Quote
Him: 1/18/1986 @ 6:00AM Hengyang, Hunan, China

Her: 3/14/1991 @ 12:26PM Eau Claire, Wisconsin, USA

I'm not sure how to post a synastry chart but I'm looking to see how we fair as a couple.

Here's the background:

I fell in love with this man because we both feel a deep connection as though we'd known each other previously. Initially, I think he just wanted a one night stand, but I'm not that kind of girl so we haven't been intimate. He says he respects my decision. I must say it's difficult not to want physical intimacy. I can tell he gets turned on just looking or talking with me. I feel so deeply for him it's hard not to want to express it physically.

After almost half a year of talking he claims to love me. Sadly, he is married with two children. I would gladly raise his children, but divorce is not an option. I know status is important for this sign and a divorce could lead to him losing his job or just looking bad in general, so I do not push it.

He claims to love me and says sex is not the goal. He said his deepest regret is that he cannot find a way to stand by my side. He wants to remain friends, and see me happy.

But he does get jealous of other men, and I think he fears I will take another since we cannot deepen our relationship. He says if I wanted to deepen our relationship and his wife found out then he would admit the affair openly. I told him I could not allow that, since she's an Aquarius (born on 2/14/1986) I think she wouldn't leave him even if she found out.

Noticing he would have intimate relations but cannot get divorced was a red flag, but when he said he'd admit it despite the obvious repercussions I became confused. He tries to message me every day still even just to say he misses me.

We met in the US while he was studying at a University. I am a nurse and if I work late he is jealous of my boss. I also dance and he is jealous of my dance partner. He flew to my city twice although he couldn't see me. He said he just wanted to be close and breathe the same air as me. When he went back to China he cried and said I am the one. I told him he already found the one and that I would gladly remain his friend forever. He said he feels so lucky because I am important and special to him.

If anyone can give me any insight to this relationship, or what he could be feeling I would greatly appreciate it. Is there any possibility of this working out? I thought maybe I can remain his friend and see if his marriage would deteriorate naturally, but I know Capricorns stay with their life partner pretty solidly. I think it's the same for his Aquarius wife. He met her while he was young in school so I think I don't stand a chance and am afraid he's just putting me on. I realize astrology doesn't account for all actions/things but it'd be interesting to see if it can explain our feelings for one another. Thank you all. Please be respectful.

**Update** thanks for the advice JJJ that's what I'm told but I'm already deeply attached. I'm hoping to get purely astrological advice here.

Synastry:

Natal w/partner outside:
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Composite:
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jjj
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posted February 20, 2018 09:01 AM     Click Here to See the Profile for jjj     Edit/Delete Message   Reply w/Quote
All my life I fell in love with married men... sometimes the feelings were very strong and mutual. I wasted all my best years on them. Fortunately I have children from my own divorced marriage, so it is not bad, but from 25 to 47 I was in love with taken men.
Nothing came out of it, ever, even though the feelings were nearly always very strong and mutual.
Such situations are just corrupted at their core, with very very few exceptions.
I regret this wasted time, but I have at least my children... and ofc a better future.
Please dont waste your time. You have the age of my children, I really wish you all the best.
And Im a capricorn btw, always attracted to pisces men lol.

UPDaTE - I was deeply attached too every time.

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Bubbles0o
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posted February 22, 2018 02:09 PM     Click Here to See the Profile for Bubbles0o     Edit/Delete Message   Reply w/Quote
His wife has a lover and doesn't mind if he takes me as one because they are together for appearances and financial reasons. Since they have two children they wanted to raise them in the same household.

In my culture this behavior is permissible, and it's not shameful to be someone's lover if circumstances will not permit marriage.

Do these factors change your opinion? Again thank you so much for your opinion on this matter I greatly appreciate it.

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posted February 22, 2018 05:10 PM     Click Here to See the Profile for mereiposa     Edit/Delete Message   Reply w/Quote
Having replied on your other thread- here's the red flags. Your Neptune conjunct his Mercury. You can't hear his words clearly. Your Neptune in his first house, he is seeing you how he wants to.

If you want to be his mistress and are ok with it, and his wife is ok, and he is ok, and your culture is ok... what is stopping you? Will you be satisfied with being a lover and not a spouse?

You already know how he feels about you. But you should know there are some issues in the synastry that point to deception. And it appears to be playing out already.

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posted February 22, 2018 07:33 PM     Click Here to See the Profile for Solar_Leo_Queen     Edit/Delete Message   Reply w/Quote
Please have some respect for yourself and move on with your life. I know it is hard to leave someone especially when you are intoxicated with romance, but do what is right. I have been in both situations (sorta)—I was in love with someone who was already taken but I also had a dad who had a delusional mistress. It was hard dealing with the affair. I felt emotionally insecure because I was always thinking about “when will we ever happen” or “will he ever break up with her”. He was also making a lot of excuses not to break up with the girl. He also claimed it wasn’t about the sex. In the end, I did find out it was about the sex. He ended up breaking up with his ex and me and went for this other girl instead. This might sound extreme to you, but chances are, you’re also not the only one. My dad had multiple mistresses too. The delusional one was the one he got pregnant and tries to act like they’re married, but they’re not. My dad is seeing a bunch of other women besides her since after he divorced my mom.

Also, think about their children. Coming from a broken family is difficult and definitely takes a toll on how the children grow up to see their own relationships. His wife might be doing the same thing, but that doesn’t mean he should. If he can’t even be a man enough to admit his marriage is failing and get a divorce (regardless of what the reason may be), what makes you think he’ll be man enough to actually be with you and only you? I know in the end, the choice is up to you, but you came here for advice. My advice is that it’s not gonna even work out if he’s not willing to make sacrifices for you. He can’t expect you to keep waiting around on him. If you start a relationship in the wrong way, it doesn’t usually end right either.

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posted February 23, 2018 10:58 AM     Click Here to See the Profile for jjj     Edit/Delete Message   Reply w/Quote
I didnt mean it about morals at all.. you shouldnt care about him/his wife, but about YOU.
Its just that he is living with her/their children, he doesnt have enough time/dedication to satify your (emotional, sexual, partnership) needs. You will always be alone waiting for him. Only when you will have another nesting partner and will see him as a side lover, it can work... do you want this?

I had recently a relation with a man whose wife knew of us... I broke it off, because he couldnt give me enough of his time/attention.

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posted February 23, 2018 04:15 PM     Click Here to See the Profile for Bubbles0o     Edit/Delete Message   Reply w/Quote
Thank you all so much for your feedback it's a lot to consider and I'm so thankful for your sound advice. I appreciate all the info you have given me and will take steps to make the situation right.

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posted February 23, 2018 04:54 PM     Click Here to See the Profile for bluestskies88     Edit/Delete Message   Reply w/Quote
can you post the synastry chart please.
www.imgur.com

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Bubbles0o
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posted February 23, 2018 08:31 PM     Click Here to See the Profile for Bubbles0o     Edit/Delete Message   Reply w/Quote
@Blueskies, there you go. I appreciate your input.

Thanks to all who taught me how to post it.

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posted February 24, 2018 04:42 AM     Click Here to See the Profile for Aries23Degrees     Edit/Delete Message   Reply w/Quote
I am not one to ever think that sharing a person with another works out well. Even when there is an "arrangement" between those committed to allow a 3rd party in.

Not once have we ever imagined in our life that we want to get someone who is already married/taken, get them away from the said party and then have them for ourselves.

Its just not our intent to build happiness on top of borrowed time. That is why such things are the stuff of tragedies and long term heartache. Despite whatever "intense" connection we believe there may be

I know Cap Sun people to be all about status. And with Venus/Sun conjunct in Cap, the marriage status is even more so.

But marriage status is not love or romance to them. And if there is one thing that Capricorn pushes waaaay down on the priorities list,its romantic love.

So if they can get a no strings attached shag. That's cool .But don't expect emotional involvement from them. Especially when their married status means that much more to them.

Venus/Moon are square. Not great. You have been warned. As I see someone who wants to have his cake and eat it too.

You may have feelings and be willing to do all you can to be with him. He on the other hand may see you as naive and easy to manipulate to his own end.

You are earnest. But this situation will not play out well for you as you are a lot more sacrificial than what he deserves to get.

Capricorns love a principled person. Someone who stands their ground about what they want and doesn't bend easily.

Walk away or if you can't, disengage as much as you can and don't invest in this guy.

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posted February 24, 2018 08:26 PM     Click Here to See the Profile for Solar_Leo_Queen     Edit/Delete Message   Reply w/Quote
Butting in again because I saw your synastry chart..

Is that his correct birth time? Because if so, I can see the attraction mostly coming from you than him.

His Capricorn planets are on your 7th house. I would see why you would see him as an ideal mate. You have natal Juno in Capricorn. Juno represents what a woman’s spouse is supposed to be (as I’ve read from somewhere). He embodies basically most of what you are looking for in a partner. I noticed some of his personal planets are also conjunct your north node. I’m not an expert on the nodes but I have heard that when people’s personal planets conjunct the north node, it means they’re there to teach you a lesson. In this case, the lesson you are being taught is a lesson about relationships. In Capricorn, I think you will go through a lot of struggles to get to where you really want. With Saturn in your 7th house as well, I would interpret this as having to learn what you want from a relationship and what you are willing to give in return. Based on that, I think you are to learn how to build relationships from a solid foundation and not settling for anything less.

Your Venus conjunct his Moon in Aries makes him feel emotionally secure in your relationship. However, you guys also have Venus square Venus. Your relationship styles are in conflict, completely different. While you might want a passionate fleeting romance, he wants a steady and stable relationship with not too much gooeyness.

I see his Mars conjunct your Pluto. I would see this as an obsession or extreme sexual attraction between the two. His Uranus also opposite your Mars. This one, I would say he really triggers your sexual feelings. You like the excitement being with him provides you. There is also a downside to this aspect. He’s also most likely to provoke your anger when you least expect it.

His Saturn is square your Moon (I have this with my current bf, my moon receiving the square too). You might not be able to tell him how you feel all the time because you may feel judged. Another reason could be if you did tell him how you feel and what you needed emotionally, it may be to your disadvantage. The more you ask for emotional support, the more he withdraws it (Saturn). You’ll never feel comfortable enough to be vulnerable around him. This aspect sucks but unless there are other mitigating factors in the synastry chart, this is a very difficult aspect to take on.

The rest of the chart looks messy because of all the other asteroids involved. These are just a couple things that popped out when I saw your chart.

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posted February 25, 2018 02:25 PM     Click Here to See the Profile for jjj     Edit/Delete Message   Reply w/Quote
The first thing I noticed is your NN conjunct his venus/sun. You are moving towards cappy energy and he incarnates it. This conjunction can give a pleasant feeling and create a bond ... but I think its more intense on your (NN) side. You have to look if there are aspects from his NN to your planets.

Plus your Valentine conjunct his Venus make you very romantic towards him and the mars/pluto conjunction creates a very strong sexual attraction.

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posted February 25, 2018 04:23 PM     Click Here to See the Profile for Bubbles0o     Edit/Delete Message   Reply w/Quote
Wow, that's a lot of great information. That is as close to his birth time as I can get. He said he was born around 6:00AM but wasn't sure of the exact time. Thank you all so much for all of your assistance.

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