posted April 22, 2018 11:44 PM            

Actually, don’t worry about it. I’ve figured something out. Thanks to everyone who gave me some of my senses back.

posted April 22, 2018 11:53 PM            

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Originally posted by hypatia238:
I don't like drama. I would just block her.

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posted April 23, 2018 12:03 AM            

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Originally posted by Solar_Leo_Queen:
Yes. But blocking is only effective online. There’s chances she can still get to me in real life because I’m a bible student at the church she’s in. I’m not about to stop attending just because of her.

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I see but you are not obligated to be her friend or tell her about your life or talk to her online.

You can be cordial if you come across her at church.

I suppose if I was in your situation I would not block her then but would ignore her online via messenger, she will get the hint you don't feel comfortable talking to her online about your life, no response says a lot.

posted April 23, 2018 12:19 AM            

You’re right. I can always do that. I’ve just not talked to her in the past few weeks because that’s my way of saying, “this is over and I don’t want anymore drama with you”.

She’s an Aries. I think she’ll somehow find a way to get in my face if her Libra/Scorpio tactics don’t work on me. I think she’ll get even more provoked if I don’t react to it or anything, to the point she will have to confront me. I think even if I establish boundaries, she’ll find a way to break in. But who knows. This is only the beginning of it.

I can get really petty, too, I gotta admit. But if there’s no point, I’m not gonna do anything.

I’ve stopped interacting with both of them—her and her friend. But like I said, if they don’t stop, I’m gonna have to do something about it.

posted April 23, 2018 12:23 AM            

Regardless, I don't think exes should contact new girlfriends. If she wants to talk, she should talk to him and get what she needs to out of her chest.

posted April 23, 2018 12:25 AM            

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Originally posted by Solar_Leo_Queen:

There are so many ways she can get to me. I’m only defending myself because I know now how manipulative she can get. I can get easily manipulated because I’m too emotional. I know that for a fact. Just trying to not fall for that trap in the future. That’s why I haven’t talked to her.

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posted April 23, 2018 12:25 AM            

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Originally posted by Orange:
ok so you told her that her ex boyfriend ( your current bf) was cheating on her with aa variety of other women, and then you thought you were done and that's about it? Of course she wont leave you alone, are you kidding me. You told her " the truth about her relationship which she didn't know while she was dating him" and then you thought you were done with her? Why did you tell her first of all? Did you get a level of satisfaction telling her that? You immediately entangled yourself in an unfinished business with her by telling her that. Now she wants to know more, naturally..She is hurt and humiliated, obviously.

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I told her because she wanted to know the truth. She thought he was cheating on her with me too but me and my bf were just friends at the time.

She knew we were close and wanted some closure. She was the one that started discussing what happened, how we started getting closer while their relationship was getting sour, and how he ended everything with her and the other girls, etc. So I told her everything. I thought she was ready for it. But apparently not.

posted April 23, 2018 12:32 AM            

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Originally posted by hypatia238:
^^Is not the ex approaching her, is the friend of his ex-girlfriend.

Regardless, I don't think exes should contact new girlfriends. If she wants to talk, she should talk to him and get what she needs to out of her chest.

This is between the ex and her boyfriend.

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I don’t know if they talked but I think that’s the path I should go next time. It’s better for them to talk and not get me involved in it.

posted April 23, 2018 11:16 AM            

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Originally posted by Solar_Leo_Queen:
But that’s not an excuse to be really nice to me and then try to manipulate me. She tried to break me and him up by getting to my head that one night she talked to me. I’ve been nothing but civil with her until then.

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Yes she put you in an uncomfortable position and you did the best you could. I personally would want to know if my ex cheated on me even if it was with one girl let alone a multitude of girls.

But I guess setting that boundary were you say I was honest with you but at this point I don't think is healthy that we continue interacting for either of us and if you have any more questions you need to ask him directly.

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Originally posted by Solar_Leo_Queen:
I don’t know if they talked but I think that’s the path I should go next time. It’s better for them to talk and not get me involved in it.

She does know though that she can use me to hurt him. But maybe if I tell her to talk to him directly, it might clear things up.

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