posted November 12, 2018 05:58 AM            

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Originally posted by featherlightly:
Sure thing. First, I’ve actually found that Mars-Saturn hard aspects are some of the most common in marriages a long-term relationships, especially the square and conjunction. It can be really tough energy to work with, but it sure does lend endurance, and brings a sense of challenge/purpose that can keep two people fighting to stay together even when it’s miserable. Cosmic glue. I personally struggle with the square in synastry because it turns my natal Mars-Saturn opposition into a T-square and activates the conflict of those energies not only with the other person, but also within me. The natal charts have a lot to do with whether Mars/Saturn feels too burdensome to bear, or like a worthwhile challenge that produces future fruit (in the form of commitment and mutual responsibility to each other). Personally, I’m a freedom chaser and my Venus in Aries hates feeling restricted, so hard Mars/Saturn feels like a prison to me after awhile and I usually bail.

My longest relationship was with someone whose Saturn was exactly opposite my Saturn and conjunct my Mars. The conjunction is easier than the square, but still created a feeling of being unpleasantly stuck together and saddled with obligations and restrictions that wore down my free-spiritedness. This relationship spanned my Saturn return, so obviously it was time to become more responsible and learn how to work with Saturnian energy. I don’t know if there’s anyone else I’ve ever known other than my ex who I would’ve stuck it out with for three years in the midst of so many hardships. That was the Mars/Saturn glue.

My parents also have the conjunction and have been together 30-odd years. Despite having very little in common and bickering all the time, but their commitment to each other is palpable.

My experience with the square has always been much more difficult and typically resulted in mismatched interest in the relationship — one person would be super into the idea of commitment and wanting to make things serious while the other wasn’t ready for that, and then it would switch the other way around. Super out of synch. Hard to get on the same page. And often life goals/directions were incompatible and there was an extreme level of compromise needed to make it work out.

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Hi featherlightly, in your opinion will having Mars-Saturn natally make this aspect easier to manage in synastry/composite? I have Mars trine Saturn natally and he has Mars semisquare Saturn. In Synastry we have Mars conj Saturn (I'm Saturn) and in Composite it turns into a square.

I also have the same conjunction (in synastry) and square (in composite) with my mom and we used to clash like hell but our clashes were always about she trying to control everything I do (right down to what I wear) and I'm Saturn. I thought it would be Saturn restricting Mars? She has Mars-Saturn quintile natally. However, I'm not sure if she's a good e.g. as she controls everyone in the family, LOL.