posted July 26, 2013 12:01 PM            

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Originally posted by I'm so cappy:
What's wrong about Mars-Uranus?

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Nothing if the two people aren't naturally aggressive.

If they're more temperamental, it can get ugly.

A lot of synastry charts between people who were in an abusive relationship show a Mars / Uranus connection, sometimes Mars / Saturn or even Neptune.
Actually, Mars in hard aspect to *anything* has the potential to lead to violence / abuse.

posted July 26, 2013 12:30 PM            

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Originally posted by I'm so cappy:
Yeah. I have an opposition in my chart and I'm a good girl

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posted July 26, 2013 01:08 PM            

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Originally posted by Doux Rêve:
You're welcome, saturn_rising.
Hmm. No afflicted Mars, then..
What does your DSC do? Any planets in the 7th?
What about your Sun?
I'm trying to figure out where the abuse came from, in your natal chart (usually there are indicators).

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posted July 26, 2013 01:15 PM            

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Originally posted by saturn_rising:
Sun opp Moon (by 1 degree), Sun opp Saturn, Sun opp Pluto (but a rather wide orb).

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Now that's interesting, because the Sun traditionally represents the 'husband' in a woman's chart, or more generally the kind of partner she's likely to attract.
And your Sun just happens to be afflicted by both Saturn and Pluto - the two bad guys.
Makes sense.

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I also have Moon conjunct Saturn and Pluto

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Here again, the same theme is repeated, but it's even more emphasised because the Moon rules your DSC, which represents your partner / relationship.
The conjunction isn't that bad though.

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Sun conjunct Dejanira (asteroid of being the victim of abuse and of submission), as well as Nessus square Dejanira.

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There may be something to it..

posted July 26, 2013 01:33 PM            

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Originally posted by Doux Rêve:
There may be something to it..

Take good care of yourself!

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posted August 02, 2013 06:37 AM            

There may be an easier way to read and understand complicated Synastry pie chart aspects. Pie chart aspects can also be produced onto a basic Synastry Aspect Chart. Review the sample chart at your leisure. It may help you gain even more insight than you currently have.
http://risingpeople.wix.com/synastry-aspecting

posted August 12, 2018 11:39 AM            

I just now looked up his chart. It is odd... MY Leo nessus is conjunct HIS moon and north node, exact. I mean, it makes sense...

HIS nessus is conjunct MY Cancer venus.

He did abuse my love. But I do believe I have highly disrupted his emotional and mental balance, and life path for that matter. I believe his girlfriend of 12 years finally left him.

posted August 12, 2018 05:38 PM            

As listed in the original post, it is aspect patterns, aggregate effect of numerous aspects together that show there may be an unhealthy dynamic to the relationship unless both parties are living out the responsibilities of healing and awakening.

This is further supported from the self-reports of people commenting in this thread.

Fear is promoted and more damage done by astrologers who personally have too many issues of their own with abuse, alerting to it too quickly and easily, even over-alerting to astrological factors that might seem to be the culprits in bad relational outcomes.

Folks, it is not our planets that relate to each other. It is WE souls being humans.

There is NO single synastry aspect that makes bad outcomes. Even a few stressful or challenging so-called bad aspects do not make a relationship turn out bad or end. It is what you bring or don't bring to the relationship that feeds a good or bad outcome.

If I used the kind of astrology logic seen here in this sub-forum to choose a mate, I'd still be looking -- and I would not have married my wife.

Seriously -- learn astrology fundamentals thoroughly before attempting synastry assessment. It is important to have a well rounded knowledge of astrology as well, meaning the ability to work with transits and progressions so as to apply synastry assessment in reasonable fashion. Synastry dynamics astrologically speaking are more like transits to our own charts, requiring similar orbs, and with a very similar ranking of planetary influences (Sun, Jupiter, outer planets very influential), but with the added matter of Venus=affection, Mercury=communication.

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