posted September 18, 2018 03:48 PM            

Unlike my brother, I don't have that easy emotional bond with her. She has always looked up to me as a role model but I always had trouble getting through to her emotionally. My brother and I have Moon trine Moon, but my Moon does not make any of her planets. Her Moon makes aspects to mine, though.

We also have Moon square Neptune and Moon opposite Mars.

She has Moon in Aries and I have Moon in the 1st. I can definitely relate to the part about her wanting emotional independence. My mom has Venus in Cancer conjunct Saturn in the 5th, so she can be very smothering and judgmental. I don't think my sister likes that. She has seen females, me and my mom, handle our own problems on our own, so she wants to be like that. My mom not trusting her has really let her down and I have already explained this to my mom. I just have to get through to my sister now.

I am not sure if the Moon conjunct Saturn is helpful in any way, especially in a sibling dynamic. I don't wanna be one of those restricting her because that's not the type of example I showed. I hope she doesn't see me this way.

posted September 26, 2018 01:48 AM            

This compounds the inability for open communication as my Sun feels distant from both.

Saturn is certainly a potent glue. It is difficult to sever ties or leave someone whom you have strong Saturn contacts with. Especially when those contacts happen on the angles.

But Saturn is not sentimental at all nor "soft". So hopefully if there are mitigating Moon/Venus or Neptune contacts to losen the grip, it can help.

I have also been the Saturn person in relationships and I see how it can play out.

Saturn can be harsh on the planet it contacts and critical of it. Finding it almost impossible to allow affection.

The result is often a relationship that is formal, cordial but not warm at all. There is usually "expectation" on the non Saturn individual or some type of obligation that sticks for a long time between he two people(whether conscious or unconscious)

My sister and I share a double whammy Sun-Saturn in synastry i.e. her Saturn conjuncts my Sun and my Saturn opposes her Sun.

Its difficult for us to be affectionate with each other. Our relationship tends to be quite formal and businesslike.

But it is offset a little by Moon conjunct Moon,Venus conjunct Asc and Jupiter conj Asc.

Hopefully there are mitigating factors to it. But who is the Saturn? And who is the Moon?