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ChildofVenus
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posted November 23, 2018 05:01 PM     Click Here to See the Profile for ChildofVenus     Edit/Delete Message   Reply w/Quote
If two people's Mars signs aren't compatible. Does that mean they won't be sexually compatible?

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posted November 23, 2018 06:19 PM     Click Here to See the Profile for MMarie     Edit/Delete Message   Reply w/Quote
Good question...would like to know the same. Are you talking about squares/oppositions or non aspected?

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posted November 23, 2018 07:00 PM     Click Here to See the Profile for ChildofVenus     Edit/Delete Message   Reply w/Quote
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Originally posted by MMarie:
Good question...would like to know the same. Are you talking about squares/oppositions or non aspected?

When two Mars signs are incompatible and there is no aspect.

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posted November 23, 2018 07:12 PM     Click Here to See the Profile for DualGemV2     Edit/Delete Message   Reply w/Quote
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Originally posted by MMarie:
Good question...would like to know the same. Are you talking about squares/oppositions or non aspected?

I think it may add some kind of sexually tension.

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I had Mars trine Moon, Mars conjunct Venus, Moon trine Moon...I think we both felt these placements, I was the mars.

We both could be open with how we feel with things because of the Moon trine Moon and... especially the Mars trine Moon.. All compatible placements

But we had Mars Square Mars so it felt as if there some kind of blockage from everything else happening.

I'd gather in the case of ChildOfVenus it whould be a no lose/gain situation.

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posted November 23, 2018 07:35 PM     Click Here to See the Profile for ChildofVenus     Edit/Delete Message   Reply w/Quote
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Originally posted by DualGemV2:
I think it may add some kind of sexually tension.

Example:

I had Mars trine Moon, Mars conjunct Venus, Moon trine Moon...I think we both felt these placements, I was the mars.

We both could be open with how we feel with things because of the Moon trine Moon and... especially the Mars trine Moon.. All compatible placements

But we had Mars Square Mars so it felt as if there some kind of blockage from everything else happening.

I'd gather in the case of ChildOfVenus it whould be a no lose/gain situation.

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What do you mean by no lose/gain situation? I have Mars trine Mars with someone. The sex is great but it lacks affection. There's no touching, caressing or kissing. This is why I don't think it's always about Mars/Mars in regards to sexual compatibility. My Mars is in Gemini but I want some sensual loving lol. I want to experience sex with a water or earth Mars.

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posted November 23, 2018 08:26 PM     Click Here to See the Profile for vertiver     Edit/Delete Message   Reply w/Quote
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Originally posted by ChildofVenus:
If two people's Mars signs aren't compatible. Does that mean they won't be sexually compatible?

Not at all. Mars-Mars sign compatibility doesn't seem to hinder sexual compatibility but some Mars signs mesh better together and it takes more adjustment. For example I have Aries Mars and I'm female and my boyfriend has Taurus Mars. I sometimes just want a quickie and he can't do that - you know what they say, Taurus Mars and that Stamina - so never a quickie and I've adjusted to it and prefer it - plus were both horn dogs!

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posted November 24, 2018 01:03 AM     Click Here to See the Profile for Hikaru29     Edit/Delete Message   Reply w/Quote
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Originally posted by ChildofVenus:
What do you mean by no lose/gain situation? I have Mars trine Mars with someone. The sex is great but it lacks affection. There's no touching, caressing or kissing. This is why I don't think it's always about Mars/Mars in regards to sexual compatibility. My Mars is in Gemini but I want some sensual loving lol. I want to experience sex with a water or earth Mars.

For love & affection you have to look at Moon/Venus aspects. Mars trine Mars is good and as you said, sex is great. Probably you and him are missing some "loving" aspects? Also, I personally find air Mars not exactly the touchy feely type. I used to date an Aquarius Mars.

My Pisces Mars trine my guy's Cancer Mars. Sex to us is a sweet, emotional affair with lots of kissing, touching, sweet talk, sex talk... I think this is what happens when 2 water Mars come together.

With my ex we have an opposition. Sex was great but not as emotional as with the trine.

With the Aquarius Mars - not enjoyable, even though we have Venus/Mars DW. Go figure.

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posted November 24, 2018 02:39 AM     Click Here to See the Profile for ChildofVenus     Edit/Delete Message   Reply w/Quote
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Originally posted by vertiver:
Not at all. Mars-Mars sign compatibility doesn't seem to hinder sexual compatibility but some Mars signs mesh better together and it takes more adjustment. For example I have Aries Mars and I'm female and my boyfriend has Taurus Mars. I sometimes just want a quickie and he can't do that - you know what they say, Taurus Mars and that Stamina - so never a quickie and I've adjusted to it and prefer it - plus were both horn dogs!

Yes I get what you mean Aries Mars with Taurus Mars. Seems like that could be difficult. Since Aries likes it fast while Taurus is slow. Glad you were able to adjust though.

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posted November 24, 2018 02:43 AM     Click Here to See the Profile for ChildofVenus     Edit/Delete Message   Reply w/Quote
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For love & affection you have to look at Moon/Venus aspects. Mars trine Mars is good and as you said, sex is great. Probably you and him are missing some "loving" aspects? Also, I personally find air Mars not exactly the touchy feely type. I used to date an Aquarius Mars.

My Pisces Mars trine my guy's Cancer Mars. Sex to us is a sweet, emotional affair with lots of kissing, touching, sweet talk, sex talk... I think this is what happens when 2 water Mars come together.

With my ex we have an opposition. Sex was great but not as emotional as with the trine.

With the Aquarius Mars - not enjoyable, even though we have Venus/Mars DW. Go figure.


Well I guess everyone is different. Me having a Gemini Mars for me it just means I like talking during sex. But even still I like kissing and touching. I can see why being with someone with an Aquarius Mars would be awkward. Mars in Pisces and Mars in Aquarius that's just way too different.

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posted November 24, 2018 03:20 AM     Click Here to See the Profile for ChildofVenus     Edit/Delete Message   Reply w/Quote
So far the best sex I've had is with a guy who has Mars in Libra conjunct Pluto. The conjunction is exact. Sometimes he's a little too rough lol. The last time I asked him if he ever likes touching during sex he said yes when he's in the mood lol. I get that I'm suppose to be compatible with fire and air Mars. But honestly Gemini is an adaptable sign. So I don't see why it couldn't work.

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posted November 24, 2018 03:26 AM     Click Here to See the Profile for LunaIscariot     Edit/Delete Message   Reply w/Quote
It’s the 8th house. Overlays, symbolism matching and especially aspects to the 8th house ruler, conjunctions and hard aspects especially if it’s 8th house ruler ASC ruler.
ASC conjunct DSC, ASC ruler conjunct DSC of the other or vice versa, DSC ruler conjunct ASC of the other or the rulers conjunct each osier. Any hard aspect connections between the ASC and DSC axis or it’s rulers is potent and shoes instant attraction/chemistry.
5th house overlays as well, if it’s mars/Venus in the 5th, mars conjunction ASC or in the first house.
Mars-Pluto hard aspects.
Moon-mars hard aspects.
Sometimes Venus-mars depending on the Natals of each person and what’s already going on with their Venus and Mars and which houses they rule.

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posted November 24, 2018 08:07 AM     Click Here to See the Profile for ChildofVenus     Edit/Delete Message   Reply w/Quote
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Originally posted by LunaIscariot:
It’s the 8th house. Overlays, symbolism matching and especially aspects to the 8th house ruler, conjunctions and hard aspects especially if it’s 8th house ruler ASC ruler.
ASC conjunct DSC, ASC ruler conjunct DSC of the other or vice versa, DSC ruler conjunct ASC of the other or the rulers conjunct each osier. Any hard aspect connections between the ASC and DSC axis or it’s rulers is potent and shoes instant attraction/chemistry.
5th house overlays as well, if it’s mars/Venus in the 5th, mars conjunction ASC or in the first house.
Mars-Pluto hard aspects.
Moon-mars hard aspects.
Sometimes Venus-mars depending on the Natals of each person and what’s already going on with their Venus and Mars and which houses they rule.

In regards to ASC conjunct DSC ruler your ASC or DSC ruler might conjunct several people's ASC or DSC ruler who are around your age.

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posted November 24, 2018 11:59 AM     Click Here to See the Profile for LunaIscariot     Edit/Delete Message   Reply w/Quote
What? Lol

That’s such a weird statement to make. Since you could say that about any aspects, like of course some rulers are going to be generational and therefore more common with your age group.
For example if you have Pisces rising and your ruler is Neptune saggitarius, and it conjuncts someone else’s DSC in saggitarius. Not everyone is going to have Gemini and therefore sagg DSC and within a certain degree?
The ASC and DSC axis and rulers are super personalized since they’re very time sensitive and the fastest moving parts of our chart. So why are you talking like it’s super common? It’s probably the least common thing in synasty since like I said they’re very time sensitive and change all the time...
You must not even understand what I’m saying.

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posted November 24, 2018 12:25 PM     Click Here to See the Profile for ChildofVenus     Edit/Delete Message   Reply w/Quote
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What? Lol

That’s such a weird statement to make. Since you could say that about any aspects, like of course some rulers are going to be generational and therefore more common with your age group.
For example if you have Pisces rising and your ruler is Neptune saggitarius, and it conjuncts someone else’s DSC in saggitarius. Not everyone is going to have Gemini and therefore sagg DSC and within a certain degree?
The ASC and DSC axis and rulers are super personalized since they’re very time sensitive and the fastest moving parts of our chart. So why are you talking like it’s super common? It’s probably the least common thing in synasty since like I said they’re very time sensitive and change all the time...
You must not even understand what I’m saying.


I do understand what you mean. I'm saying everyone that's my age or in my age group has Uranus and Saturn in Saggitaurus. My ASC is in Aquarius and a friend of mine has ASC in Cancer and DSC in Capricorn. We automatically have Uranus conjunct Saturn and Saturn conjunct Saturn. Because of our age is so close together. So of course my DSC ruler conjuncts their DSC ruler or my ASC ruler conjuncts their DSC ruler. But it's not significant because it's generational. Everyone close to our age probably has this conjunction. But my DSC ruler (Uranus) does conjunct their ASC ruler (Moon). I don't know if what I'm saying makes sense.

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posted November 24, 2018 01:10 PM     Click Here to See the Profile for LunaIscariot     Edit/Delete Message   Reply w/Quote
No.... not everyone close to your age has that conjunction? Unless they all have the same ascendant sign? Lol and around the same degree for the conjunction to count?
Like you do realize not everyone is going to have a cancer rising like him so not everyone’s DSC ruler is going to be Saturn? And not everyone has a Aquarius rising like you?
That’s why I’m saying it’s so personalized with the asc-DSC axis, those conjunctions don’t mean much on their own, someones Uranus conjunct the others Saturn sure, it’s generational, but if one of the planets is the RULER of their ASC or DSC, which is based on the ASC signs of each people (not generational at all, super personal and time sensitive) now it’s significant like in your case. That Uranus conjunct Saturn, since it’s the ASC ruler conjunct the DSC ruler of the other person with your Aqua rising and their cancer rising.
Sure, you could have this with other cancer rising people in your generation. But it’s still important and shows attraction on the DSC persons side. Not one aspect makes or breaks synasty, you need other things going on as well, but this is a significant/strong one. Especially if it’s mutual.

You really do not understand what I’m saying at all or you would realize how silly even trying to debate this is lol.
I’m not going any more in-depth it’s super straightforward this is painful.

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posted November 24, 2018 02:08 PM     Click Here to See the Profile for Solar_Leo_Queen     Edit/Delete Message   Reply w/Quote
It's okay. You can still have sex with it but it's not hot like it would be as with those who have Mars in aspect to yours. My boyfriend's early Mars in Cancer makes no aspect with my Mars and we both know and agree our sex life isn't the best. I have Mars in Libra in the later degrees and I like foreplay, roleplaying, and teasing. He doesn't get off of that. Even our Mars elements are very different. He always says he needs that emotional connection or just emotions involved to have sex. He can't have lustful or casual fun sex with someone he loves. Our sexual tastes are very different, but you can make it work with other aspects, especially with Moon/Venus in aspect to Mars.

Personally, I didn't like Mars in Aquarius, which is trine mine. I felt like it lacked something. They are just as freaky or even more than me, but they don't feel very masculine to me. I like Mars in Aries the best, but they just don't last very long.

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posted November 24, 2018 02:50 PM     Click Here to See the Profile for ChildofVenus     Edit/Delete Message   Reply w/Quote
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It's okay. You can still have sex with it but it's not hot like it would be as with those who have Mars in aspect to yours. My boyfriend's early Mars in Cancer makes no aspect with my Mars and we both know and agree our sex life isn't the best. I have Mars in Libra in the later degrees and I like foreplay, roleplaying, and teasing. He doesn't get off of that. Even our Mars elements are very different. He always says he needs that emotional connection or just emotions involved to have sex. He can't have lustful or casual fun sex with someone he loves. Our sexual tastes are very different, but you can make it work with other aspects, especially with Moon/Venus in aspect to Mars.

Personally, I didn't like Mars in Aquarius, which is trine mine. I felt like it lacked something. They are just as freaky or even more than me, but they don't feel very masculine to me. I like Mars in Aries the best, but they just don't last very long.


There isn't an aspect between our Mars. But we do have Mars parallel Mars I don't know if that helps. Mars in Cancer doesn't like foreplay or roleplay? Really? Men who have Sun in Cancer are into both. Does your boyfriend have any aspects to his Mars? I think that could make a difference. My ex of nine years has Mars in Leo and there isn't an aspect between our Mars. We didn't have any aspects between Mars or Venus either. I didn't like the sex at all.

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posted November 24, 2018 03:01 PM     Click Here to See the Profile for ChildofVenus     Edit/Delete Message   Reply w/Quote
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No.... not everyone close to your age has that conjunction? Unless they all have the same ascendant sign? Lol and around the same degree for the conjunction to count?
Like you do realize not everyone is going to have a cancer rising like him so not everyone’s DSC ruler is going to be Saturn? And not everyone has a Aquarius rising like you?
That’s why I’m saying it’s so personalized with the asc-DSC axis, those conjunctions don’t mean much on their own, someones Uranus conjunct the others Saturn sure, it’s generational, but if one of the planets is the RULER of their ASC or DSC, which is based on the ASC signs of each people (not generational at all, super personal and time sensitive) now it’s significant like in your case. That Uranus conjunct Saturn, since it’s the ASC ruler conjunct the DSC ruler of the other person with your Aqua rising and their cancer rising.
Sure, you could have this with other cancer rising people in your generation. But it’s still important and shows attraction on the DSC persons side. Not one aspect makes or breaks synasty, you need other things going on as well, but this is a significant/strong one. Especially if it’s mutual.

You really do not understand what I’m saying at all or you would realize how silly even trying to debate this is lol.
I’m not going any more in-depth it’s super straightforward this is painful.


Debate? No honestly I'm not trying to debate at all. I appreciate the information you are sharing. I'm still learning a lot of things. Sorry if it seems as though I'm trying to debate with you that's not the case. Thank you

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posted November 24, 2018 06:31 PM     Click Here to See the Profile for kani     Edit/Delete Message   Reply w/Quote
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Well I guess everyone is different. Me having a Gemini Mars for me it just means I like talking during sex. But even still I like kissing and touching. I can see why being with someone with an Aquarius Mars would be awkward. Mars in Pisces and Mars in Aquarius that's just way too different.

I have Mars in Pisces and had a fling with a Mars in Aquarius and it was the best. Much more sexual than with men who have compatible Marses with me

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posted November 24, 2018 07:26 PM     Click Here to See the Profile for StoneMoon     Edit/Delete Message   Reply w/Quote
The best relationship I had was with a Sag Mars that conjunct my ASC, but did nothing to my Mars. I also was with someone who had the exact same Sag Mars, and the sexual compatibility was terrible.

These men are born two weeks apart, so very similar charts but clearly different enough to be significant.

You have to look at your own chart and gather what needs you have for sexual fulfillment, then you will see what works for you in partners. I often find I am even with friends who have no mars-mars aspects with me. It's other points in my chart I need them to hit instead. In fact, if they did have trines to my mars it would NOT work bcs it would either conjunct my moon (too irritating) or square my mercury (not a good plan.)

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posted November 24, 2018 09:47 PM     Click Here to See the Profile for capricorncheriscty     Edit/Delete Message   Reply w/Quote
I don't think so. There is more to sexual compatibility than our Mars placements. So just because the two of you have incompatible Mars' by signs doesn't mean that you won't be compatible in Mars activities.

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posted November 25, 2018 02:50 AM     Click Here to See the Profile for Hikaru29     Edit/Delete Message   Reply w/Quote
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Originally posted by ChildofVenus:
Well I guess everyone is different. Me having a Gemini Mars for me it just means I like talking during sex. But even still I like kissing and touching. I can see why being with someone with an Aquarius Mars would be awkward. Mars in Pisces and Mars in Aquarius that's just way too different.

That's why I find Mars signs compatibility important (more so than Venus/Mars IME) because it affects our energies, the way we go about doing things and sexual styles as well.

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posted November 25, 2018 03:06 AM     Click Here to See the Profile for ChildofVenus     Edit/Delete Message   Reply w/Quote
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That's why I find Mars signs compatibility important (more so than Venus/Mars IME) because it affects our energies, the way we go about doing things and sexual styles as well.

But what if two people Marses are conjunct but in different elements?

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posted November 25, 2018 05:15 AM     Click Here to See the Profile for Hikaru29     Edit/Delete Message   Reply w/Quote
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But what if two people Marses are conjunct but in different elements?


I've never experienced that but I would imagine it will take more effort as they are of different elements and modality albeit having yin-yang balance.

Then again I generally don't like Mars conjunct Mars as too much of the same energies can be repelling esp Mars is an aggressive planet...So perhaps on good days, things will be rosy.. but on bad days, it can breed resentment.

Take for e.g. my two friends with Mars in Gemini. Chummy friends for many years until they had serious tension over the planning of a trip. Both couldn't stop saying sarcastic remarks to each other. After the trip they stopped talking and it's been 2yrs with no sight of reconciliation. This is just a severe case.

Another e.g. my friend has Pisces Mars like me, and while our energy levels match we can really "get lost" together and not get anything done. I feel extremely lethargic hanging out with him.

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best sex ive had is with my fiancee, she has scorpio venus conjunct pluto and a pisces mars

i'm a libra venus capricorn mars) worst (we still have sex he's just too passive for me) is an aquarius mars cap venus r

edit: she has the same issue with him, so it isnt just me, ive never ****** someone who moved around less

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