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Topic: Have you ever picked a person based on synastry?
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ChildofVenus
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posted December 02, 2018 05:02 PM
  
Like if you are involved with multiple people. Have you ever used synastry to pick which person would be better for you?IP: Logged |
TaurusVenusGirl
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posted December 02, 2018 05:21 PM
I've been talking to someone for months. He is shy and introverted and everything the opposite of me and has characteristics I would never normally go for.We stopped chatting a while ago due to him being to shy to ask me out. I am trying to chat with him again, all because of what I think is good synastry between us. Nothing else.. I want to see if we click and he'll want to rip my clothes off me  If it wasn't for the synastry I wouldn't care if I never hear from him again.
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ChildofVenus
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posted December 02, 2018 05:36 PM
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Originally posted by TaurusVenusGirl:
I've been talking to someone for months. He is shy and introverted and everything the opposite of me and has characteristics I would never normally go for.We stopped chatting a while ago due to him being to shy to ask me out. I am trying to chat with him again, all because of what I think is good synastry between us. Nothing else.. I want to see if we click and he'll want to rip my clothes off me If it wasn't for the synastry I wouldn't care if I never hear from him again.
It's hard for me because I have an attachment to someone. He and I have a rough synastry. But we have a lot of 4th house overlays. Our synastry is karmic It's hard for me to let him go. I don't really think I can we started talking in 2014. It's been rough but I don't feel close to anyone else the way that I feel with him. He knows about my issues and I've shared so much with him. But then there is someone else that I like. We don't have any 4th house overlays. There is a trine between our IC rulers but it's 5th and 8th overlays. I don't feel as strongly about him though well not yet anyway. He's nicer to me though than the other guy. If it weren't for the stupid hard mercury aspects I think it would perfect. I guess I don't need to actually pick. But I don't like the idea of having sex with multiple guys at once.
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Hikaru29
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posted December 03, 2018 12:41 AM
Don't let astrology direct your life. It is not 100% accurate, I find, becos people are more complex than that. You should choose based on your feelings and wise observations. IP: Logged |
TaurusVenusGirl
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posted December 03, 2018 06:37 AM
I find listening to this helps with letting someone go. I mean if you were meant to be with them you would.Theres a line in this that I think is really powerful "By letting out your heartbreak you can manifest your soulmate" https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=-UTvYkROCWk&index=2&list=PLn0htMu1BT1A7qXnmvO0dM89HozZRe2cr&t=0s IP: Logged |
llewsacm
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posted December 03, 2018 07:15 PM
When I first became interested in astrology, I would look for patterns completion, mystic rectangles, grand trines, kites, and make a decision on who I wanted to date as a result. Turns out, none of those things "forced" a relationship to come into play. I analyzed everything, from synastry, to progressions, to composites...you get the idea. Beautiful synastries and composites ..and although it was intiguing at first, many fizzled or never started heating up to begin with. You know it, just like grandma or mom or whoever said it to you during your lifetime. You just know. And although I believe you can gain a better understanding of who you are and what a partner brings to your life through astrology, it does not dictate your path. Nor should you let it. There's a reason why we may be drawn to someone who brings hard aspects to our moon. Maybe we need a part of our pysche to be shaken awake. There could be a reason why we are attracted to someone who we would normally find repulsive. Something is stirred inside us...and you can see the root cause from astrology. I've come to understand myself through my own chart over the years...and self awareness has really helped me understand what I need from a partner. Do I need someone to challenge my ideas? To keep things lively? To bring the unexpected? Yes, I do. I know that about myself. It's what drives me to live fully. Does that mean I have harsh aspects with this person between our charts? Yes, of course it does. But I know myself...see? Those grand kite relationships would never hold my attention in an intimate relationship. It would become complacent and boring, and I've experienced that for sure. So, I suppose my take on it is to feel your own evergy, get in tune with that, and what makes you thrive. As you go through life and meet potential suitors along the way, you shouldn't have to think about how you are supposed to feel because of the charts. You'll just know how you feel and figure out how to understand the energy better and what it does to each of you.
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StoneMoon
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posted December 03, 2018 08:41 PM
I so agree. That was beautifully stated.Yes, I pour over charts and potential, and sometimes I follow relationships to see how the synastry or composite could feel. But at the end of the day, I can't force myself to be with someone I don't really feel anything for. And to speak to the other side, I also won't stay away from someone based on astrology if I truly feel drawn to see them again. IP: Logged |
ChildofVenus
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posted December 03, 2018 10:16 PM
@llewsacm and StoneMoon that makes a lot of sense. I've learned a lot about myself and people with astrology. I think things do play out as it shows in synastry and composite. But I think certain people come into our lives for a reason. I try to think about what I've learned from relationships I have with people. IP: Logged |
LunaIscariot
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posted December 03, 2018 10:44 PM
I agree with a lot of what the others have said. Trust your heart/gut, if you feel strongly attracted or a pull towards someone, follow it despite what the charts might say. I think certain people come into our life for a reason and those feelings are there in order for us to engage with them further, usually to teach us or them or both a lesson.
And IME, all the most significant relationships/connections in my life show in the synasty anyways, so astrology does back it up. I think it’s useful once a relationship is already off the ground, and you want to learn more about each other and how you connect and maybe problem areas etc.
Only time I would seriously ever use astrology as a make or break thing is if I was planning to marry someone or was thinking about the long-term. Because again IME, I’ve been able to spot long term or marriage potential with astrology so if the charts didn’t look good I wouldn’t do it. But that’s just me personally lol. And like I said, my feelings are always confirmed with the charts anyways so if I was feeling like I wanted to marry someone I’m sure the chars would say the same thing anyways  IP: Logged |
Hikaru29
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posted December 04, 2018 02:13 AM
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Originally posted by llewsacm:
When I first became interested in astrology, I would look for patterns completion, mystic rectangles, grand trines, kites, and make a decision on who I wanted to date as a result. Turns out, none of those things "forced" a relationship to come into play. I analyzed everything, from synastry, to progressions, to composites...you get the idea. Beautiful synastries and composites ..and although it was intiguing at first, many fizzled or never started heating up to begin with. You know it, just like grandma or mom or whoever said it to you during your lifetime. You just know. And although I believe you can gain a better understanding of who you are and what a partner brings to your life through astrology, it does not dictate your path. Nor should you let it. There's a reason why we may be drawn to someone who brings hard aspects to our moon. Maybe we need a part of our pysche to be shaken awake. There could be a reason why we are attracted to someone who we would normally find repulsive. Something is stirred inside us...and you can see the root cause from astrology. I've come to understand myself through my own chart over the years...and self awareness has really helped me understand what I need from a partner. Do I need someone to challenge my ideas? To keep things lively? To bring the unexpected? Yes, I do. I know that about myself. It's what drives me to live fully. Does that mean I have harsh aspects with this person between our charts? Yes, of course it does. But I know myself...see? Those grand kite relationships would never hold my attention in an intimate relationship. It would become complacent and boring, and I've experienced that for sure. So, I suppose my take on it is to feel your own evergy, get in tune with that, and what makes you thrive. As you go through life and meet potential suitors along the way, you shouldn't have to think about how you are supposed to feel because of the charts. You'll just know how you feel and figure out how to understand the energy better and what it does to each of you.
I agree. I see a lot of long-term relationships with t-squares and they're close and loving. It's really what you make of it... what drives you. My brother has a kite formation in composite with his wife and while they're similar in many ways, he also always complain about her behaviour... comes and goes as she wishes and doesn't keep to agreed schedule (lotsa Uranus in their chart). IP: Logged |
ChildofVenus
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posted December 08, 2018 09:20 AM
There is a reason why I asked this question. I had someone read a synastry chart for me. And the person said that the relationship would be short and it would be bad. They said because we have Mercury square Mercury and Mercury square Mars that it wouldn't work. And since the other person has Venus in Gemini they would need good communication and good rapport. And that we wouldn't because of the harsh Mercury aspects and that the guy would just end up leaving. They said they were speaking from experience. And that they had a similar experience with someone with a similar synastry. They also stated that they didn't think we had enough easy aspects to help with the harsh Mercury aspects. So now I've basically just said forget about getting involved with the person. Even though I do really like him. But really it's like what's the point if the relationship will just be over. So now I've just been avoiding the person. Not meeting up with them etc. I just feel like it'll be bad now I wish I wouldn't even had asked the person to read the chart. IP: Logged |
Hikaru29
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posted December 08, 2018 09:40 AM
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Originally posted by ChildofVenus:
There is a reason why I asked this question. I had someone read a synastry chart for me. And the person said that the relationship would be short and it would be bad. They said because we have Mercury square Mercury and Mercury square Mars that it wouldn't work. And since the other person has Venus in Gemini they would need good communication and good rapport. And that we wouldn't because of the harsh Mercury aspects and that the guy would just end up leaving. They said they were speaking from experience. And that they had a similar experience with someone with a similar synastry. They also stated that they didn't think we had enough easy aspects to help with the harsh Mercury aspects. So now I've basically just said forget about getting involved with the person. Even though I do really like him. But really it's like what's the point if the relationship will just be over. So now I've just been avoiding the person. Not meeting up with them etc. I just feel like it'll be bad now I wish I wouldn't even had asked the person to read the chart.
So why did u let the chart dictate what you choose? If you really like the guy, go for it! I seriously DO NOT think that astrology is 100% and if you've been reading the discussions you will notice lotsa different views which goes to show same aspects can work out differently for different people. I've seen really bad aspects in charts of long-term couples which many say this kinda r/s will never last or will not be happy blah blah... but I see them worked out. Another e.g. my brother and his wife has harsh Sun-Pluto DW which everywhere I read say this kinda r/s is unhealthy and cannot work etc but it did for them for the last 10+yrs and yes they're happy. They celebrate their wedding anniversary every year. It is not without challenges but they managed to work it out and they're close, I can tell. So don't just listen to chart interpretations. Nothing beats reality. Trust your instincts. IP: Logged |
ChildofVenus
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posted December 08, 2018 11:09 AM
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Originally posted by Hikaru29:
So why did u let the chart dictate what you choose? If you really like the guy, go for it! I seriously DO NOT think that astrology is 100% and if you've been reading the discussions you will notice lotsa different views which goes to show same aspects can work out differently for different people. I've seen really bad aspects in charts of long-term couples which many say this kinda r/s will never last or will not be happy blah blah... but I see them worked out. Another e.g. my brother and his wife has harsh Sun-Pluto DW which everywhere I read say this kinda r/s is unhealthy and cannot work etc but it did for them for the last 10+yrs and yes they're happy. They celebrate their wedding anniversary every year. It is not without challenges but they managed to work it out and they're close, I can tell.So don't just listen to chart interpretations. Nothing beats reality. Trust your instincts.
Yes I know you are right.
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ChildofVenus
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posted December 08, 2018 12:16 PM
I really have issues with my emotions. And I have Moon square Pluto and Moon parallel Saturn in my chart. And with my Moon in their 8th house square their Pluto it just makes me feel uneasy. It's like I want to be close to them. But I'm afraid because they could really hurt me. Of course Venus/Uranus and Venus/Saturn doesn't help. IP: Logged |
kani
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posted December 08, 2018 01:14 PM
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Originally posted by Hikaru29:
So why did u let the chart dictate what you choose? If you really like the guy, go for it! I seriously DO NOT think that astrology is 100% and if you've been reading the discussions you will notice lotsa different views which goes to show same aspects can work out differently for different people. I've seen really bad aspects in charts of long-term couples which many say this kinda r/s will never last or will not be happy blah blah... but I see them worked out. Another e.g. my brother and his wife has harsh Sun-Pluto DW which everywhere I read say this kinda r/s is unhealthy and cannot work etc but it did for them for the last 10+yrs and yes they're happy. They celebrate their wedding anniversary every year. It is not without challenges but they managed to work it out and they're close, I can tell.So don't just listen to chart interpretations. Nothing beats reality. Trust your instincts.
Really really well put. My gradnparents have lots and lots of challenging aspects and they have been together all their life until my grandad died. They also dearly loved each other.
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Hikaru29
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posted December 08, 2018 09:54 PM
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Originally posted by kani:
Really really well put. My gradnparents have lots and lots of challenging aspects and they have been together all their life until my grandad died. They also dearly loved each other.
And some people will tell you they stuck together out of responsibilities and duty, haha. But I totally believe you.. hard aspects don't necessarily mean that the 2 people don't love each other. It simply means more effort to merge...and it also depends on each person's natal chart. On the contrary, I know a couple with lotsa harmonious aspects but divorcing (quarrels, cheating, lying, sexual attraction gone). Main problem is also things became bland between them. It makes me wonder if that's what too many harmonious aspects do to some people? Some say you must have certain aspects and not have certain aspects to guarantee that love will thrive but I disagree. They show you what you have that's good and bad, that's all. You can't predict how they feel (whether they love you or not) and what they will do. Another e.g. my parents' composite has Mars square Uranus which some say this aspect means the man will cheat and leave the r/s. What?? My dad has never cheated on my mom and has never thought of leaving her. I see this aspect as generating an erratic energy, that's all. So people really shouldn't take astrology reading so blatantly, and don't take it wholesale. IP: Logged |
Hikaru29
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posted December 09, 2018 08:49 AM
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Originally posted by ChildofVenus:
I really have issues with my emotions. And I have Moon square Pluto and Moon parallel Saturn in my chart. And with my Moon in their 8th house square their Pluto it just makes me feel uneasy. It's like I want to be close to them. But I'm afraid because they could really hurt me. Of course Venus/Uranus and Venus/Saturn doesn't help.
Pls join the Pluto-Moon discussion thread. I'm interested to know more about this aspect. You've both Venus-Uranus and Venus-Saturn? That's like 2 contradicting force but they should kinda balance it out, isn't it? IP: Logged |
anonymidarkness
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posted December 09, 2018 10:45 AM
Yaa I was looking for some girls who had their Venus on my Mars, found few, but then I thought choosing them like that would kill the fun of hunting, there's always this chance that you might love something that you're not supposed to.IP: Logged |
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