posted December 12, 2018 03:55 PM            

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"Drift like a cloud and flow like water, seeing that all life is a magnificent illusion, a playing of energy, and there is absolutely nothing fundamentally to be afraid of." -- Alan Watts

posted December 13, 2018 12:06 AM            

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Originally posted by charlie:
Would an absolute horrible synastry be trumped by a great composite and vice versa?? What would you prefer to see/have?

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I have definitely experienced a bad Composite ruining my relationship despite a decent synastry, so I believe the other way can be said - a good Composite will help a pale synastry.

I think this article explains it well - https://sasstrology.com/2015/09/the-difference-between-synastry-and-composite-aspects.html

"Composite aspects are like natal aspects of a third entity. If you’ve ever been in a relationship that takes on a life of its own, or where you feel like a totally different person, that’s the composite chart in action. The feeling between them will never change. And it will actually grow stronger over time; the longer a couple is together, the stronger all the composite energies become."

In synastry, both parties can adjust themselves to better suit each other, but in a Composite, the energies simply get stronger over time and you can't do anything because it is not your energy on their energy. It's a combined energy enveloping the r/s.

"I receive many enquiries asking what the fix is for a particularly difficult composite aspect. The answer is, there is no fix. You either accept that it will always be part of your relationship (and you and your partner work around it) or you move on."

Real-life e.g.: my friend and her husband have really super synastry aspects (Sun trine Sun, Sun conj/trine Moon, Moon conj Moon, Sun/Moon/Mercury conj Asc, Sun trine Mercury DW) and they're like great friends who understand each other very well... so it puzzles me why they're now separated. So I took a look at their composite and they have Saturn square Moon, quincunx Mercury/Venus. Chiron is also in harsh aspects to Sun/Moon/Venus/Mars and Mars opposes Sun/Mercury/Venus + Pluto square Mercury. What my friend told me was she often shut her husband down emotionally and they were always arguing (can't see eye-to-eye in a lot of important matters including career choices, social lives, educating their kid, etc).

So IMO, bad synastry aspects can be overcome with awareness, effort and a willingness to compromise. But in a Composite, there's like really nothing you can do. Therefore I put more emphasis on Composite. If I see really bad aspects there, I run.

posted December 13, 2018 05:32 PM            

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Originally posted by StoneMoon:
I think you need both, because both play out. The synastry is the day to day interaction while the composite is the overall energy. And I agree with girl that you also need the composite to strongly aspect the charts of each individual for there to be true meaning.

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posted December 14, 2018 01:16 AM            

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Originally posted by StoneMoon:
I think you need both, because both play out. The synastry is the day to day interaction while the composite is the overall energy. And I agree with girl that you also need the composite to strongly aspect the charts of each individual for there to be true meaning.

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Originally posted by ChildofVenus:
Do you mean like Composite Venus conjunct one persons natal Sun? Why is it important that the composite aspect the charts of each person? Do conjunctions only count? Or are trines, sextiles and oppositions relevant?

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I actually hope to reconcile something...perhaps StoneMoon can shed light.

In synastry you see how each feels about the other and one big indication is how they're hitting each other's angles, houses etc. If one isn't hitting all the relationship houses/angles of the other, it is interpreted that the house/angle person does not feel strongly for the other. At the same time, when you see composite planets hitting natal planets strongly, it means the relationship is of significance to this person. How do you define "strongly" btw? How strong is strong?