posted December 16, 2018 06:35 PM            

I did hurt his feelings, but he also hurt mine and his Mars did not aspect my Moon. Now that I think about it though, maybe this aspect did lead to our downfall? He finally opened up to me, and it scared me. So the way I responded (acted), hurt his emotional self and he withdrew and we never fully recovered.

posted December 17, 2018 02:24 AM            

They're always arguing...what she does hurts him and what he does hurts her. She's quite convinced that he doesn't love her because of his hot/cold behaviour. But to him, he's just being himself so he finds her complaints nonsensical and she feels even more hurt because he doesn't take her insecurities seriously. On the other hand, he feels that she's always against him even though it was never her intention.

posted December 17, 2018 03:52 AM            

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Originally posted by Brenda_S:
@Hikaru What modality are their squares? And do they have any other aspects softening it?

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All in mutable.
Her Sag Moon square his Pisces Mars.
Her Gemini Mars square his Pisces Moon.

In composite it's cardinal signs.

posted December 17, 2018 03:57 AM            

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Originally posted by Brenda_S:
What about other softening aspects?

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posted December 17, 2018 04:24 AM            

Sun to ascendant would I think just result in a physical comfortability and recognizable energy between one another. Don't think ascendant aspects would mitigate fights unless the person is just gorgeous and the other is just flabbergasted by 'em lol hence muting the tension (jk) although maybe if they deal with it in a charming way it may evoke the moon to AC (is it the same person in this case?)...

posted December 17, 2018 04:39 AM            

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Originally posted by Brenda_S:
I think to personal planets would probably help the most. Like I would really assume that the Venus/Mercury/Jupiter would help? Unless dunno maybe it's an Aries Mercury and Jupiter will just aggravate it.

Sun to ascendant would I think just result in a physical comfortability and recognizable energy between one another. Don't think ascendant aspects would mitigate fights unless the person is just gorgeous and the other is just flabbergasted by 'em lol hence muting the tension (jk) although maybe if they deal with it in a charming way it may evoke the moon to AC (is it the same person in this case?)...

Who owns the Mercury in this case? And how is its' natal aspects? And is this the moon person too (that sextiles the others' asc?)

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Lemme see...

His Pisces Moon sextile her Taurus Asc and Cap Jupiter.
Her Gemini Venus trine his Cap Mercury.
His Venus conjunct her Jupiter in Cap.
Her Aries Sun sextile his Aqua Asc.
His Pluto trine her Venus.

posted December 17, 2018 07:15 AM            

i think it can make her defensive towards me sometimes, a little explosive emotionally, but it hasnt put me off more than temporarily

i have the aspect natally and we have the same moon sign so that could be why i'm not bothered

but i tend to understand why shes acting that way better than she can, and ive known her so long that i don't really get offended by the overemotional behavior though i can find it frustrating

posted December 17, 2018 07:33 AM            

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Originally posted by Dumuzi:
my fiancee's moon squares my mars (but her venus/pluto conjunction sextiles it and her neptune conjuncts it) and i love her though there is a huge part of our relationship that's sexual

i think it can make her defensive towards me sometimes, a little explosive emotionally, but it hasnt put me off more than temporarily

i have the aspect natally and we have the same moon sign so that could be why i'm not bothered

but i tend to understand why shes acting that way better than she can, and ive known her so long that i don't really get offended by the overemotional behavior though i can find it frustrating

she's been through a lot and is emotionally vulnerable as a result and i set her off worse than other people can, but that sort of thing passes

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posted December 17, 2018 09:12 AM            

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Originally posted by Hikaru29:
In your opinion does having compatible moon signs help a lot in attraction and/or affection? I'm looking at 2 very similar synastries and the aspect that stood out was one has Moon sextile Moon and the other one has Moon square Moon.

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i think it helps us understand each other in spite of our differences

she's similar to me in enough ways where i can understand where she's coming from whether or not either of us is communicating it well in that moment where we're just not getting along

we do argue often, and we go through phases where we break up once a week during an argument and are back together by the end of it

because in a lot of ways, most things are ultimately frivolous to us both aside from the connection between us

and really we can both just be difficult people so it's going to happen

posted December 17, 2018 09:29 AM            

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Originally posted by Dumuzi:
i think it helps us understand each other in spite of our differences

she's similar to me in enough ways where i can understand where she's coming from whether or not either of us is communicating it well in that moment where we're just not getting along

we do argue often, and we go through phases where we break up once a week during an argument and are back together by the end of it

because in a lot of ways, most things are ultimately frivolous to us both aside from the connection between us

and really we can both just be difficult people so it's going to happen

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posted December 17, 2018 09:46 AM            

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Originally posted by Hikaru29:
Do you have a lot of Pluto contacts?

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her and i? my pluto is conjunct her scorpio venus/pluto conjunction, and trine her jupiter/mars conjunction in pisces and my sun is in a minor trine with my pluto/neptune (sun and neptune both sextile pluto and trine each other) so there's that too

she has a scorpio mercury so her chart is fairly plutonic too

posted December 17, 2018 09:51 AM            

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Originally posted by Dumuzi:
her and i? my pluto is conjunct her scorpio venus/pluto conjunction, and trine her jupiter/mars conjunction in pisces and my sun is in a minor trine with my pluto/neptune (sun and neptune both sextile pluto and trine each other) so there's that too

she has a scorpio mercury so her chart is fairly plutonic too

in placidus i have a 1st house pluto (libra ascendant conjunct venus and south node though)

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posted December 17, 2018 10:00 AM            

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Originally posted by Hikaru29:
I mean in Synastry and Composite because what you described sounds plutonic.

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i told you the synastry and our charts individually since that adds to how something plays out

i didn't know the composite offhand, just looked at it for you

my pluto is trine her mars and jupiter conjunction and conjunct her venus/pluto conjunction, but we both have individual pluto stuff going on too which i think is part of why that works out

in our composite venus is conjunct pluto (we have venus conjunct sun too but the sun and pluto are too far to be conjunct, sun and venus in libra and pluto in scorpio)

pluto squares mars in our chart too

scorpio rules the 12th house but in placidus sun/venus/pluto is all 11th house

posted December 17, 2018 11:45 AM            

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Originally posted by Dumuzi:
i told you the synastry and our charts individually since that adds to how something plays out

i didn't know the composite offhand, just looked at it for you

my pluto is trine her mars and jupiter conjunction and conjunct her venus/pluto conjunction, but we both have individual pluto stuff going on too which i think is part of why that works out

in our composite venus is conjunct pluto (we have venus conjunct sun too but the sun and pluto are too far to be conjunct, sun and venus in libra and pluto in scorpio)

pluto squares mars in our chart too

scorpio rules the 12th house but in placidus sun/venus/pluto is all 11th house

edit: btw just to give you a clearer picture mars only squares pluto not venus or the sun

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posted December 17, 2018 11:52 AM            

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Originally posted by Hikaru29:
Thanks. That's quite a fair bit of Pluto, IMO. When you mentioned breaking up and patching back within the same week I thought of Pluto instead of Moon square Mars, lol.

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yeah i seem to go for pluto heavy relationships, friendships and not

same hour usually, getting back together it's a mid fight thing usually

posted December 17, 2018 12:30 PM            

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Originally posted by Dumuzi:
yeah i seem to go for pluto heavy relationships, friendships and not

same hour usually, getting back together it's a mid fight thing usually

one day she'll kill me in my sleep or some **** lol

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posted December 17, 2018 12:40 PM            

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Originally posted by Hikaru29:
Haha, totally get that. My guy and I can fight one moment, kiss the next, and yet the next moment I'm deleting his number angrily saying I'll never contact him again. We have a lot of Pluto going on in synastry/composite. Natally we both have Moon square Mars and in composite Moon opposite Mars.

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yeah it's like that, i've had sex with her not being totally sure of where we were at otherwise and just a lot of ups and downs

very high highs and low lows with not much in between

when we're good things are essentially perfect, when we're not it's a huge mess