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Topic: Which one should I choose (Composite + Synastry)
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ScoSAg
Newflake Posts: 11
From: Spain
Registered: Jan 2019
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posted January 10, 2019 06:37 AM
  
Hi everybody! I've been reading and learning from this forum since many years ago and now I feel I could really use some advice on who would be better suited to me long-term.This is Synastry and Composite with no.1 (don't know if this will be clickable..if not copy paste pls)
(don't know how to upload the chart directly  ...)
https://imgur.com/a/0qlEsOJ
Synastry and Composite with no.2:
https://imgur.com/a/KoFdvEr I'm on the inside in both synastries. Some background:
I've known no. 1 since 9 years ago...Main problems with him are severe enmeshment with family of origin and his emotional repression. His problems with me are my inability to commit (to him) and stick to plans and my disregard for daily routines. My subjective point of view is that of low significant emotional interaction between us but good friendship overall. I feel there is a barrier in sharing emotional content with him but if I really push myself to do it and brave rejection and criticism then beautiful moments come out of it. It’s just that I seem to have this predefined expectation of criticism. I've met no.2 two and a half years ago. It took me some time to consider him as a potential love interest. I have an age difference with both. No. 1 is 7 years older than me, no. 2 is seven years younger (I know...funny right?).Because of his age I thought about him as a friend but day after day we got so close (we work closely together) that his comments made it obvious that he wanted more.
Both say they want to go the long way with me and have a home and a family together. No. 1 is not pushy and seems to have no rush about this. Very weird for me since he’s a Sun Mars conjunction so I naturally thought aggressive. Also, he’s older so I thought he would be more anxious about the settling down and the kids part.
No. 2 on the other hand is constantly demanding more time together, exclusivity and says he is ready to consider having a family. Also he is super romantic, writing love letters and demanding that I dedicate to him small love phrases and songs. There are things that I like and don’t like about both of them and I have strong feelings for both. No. 2 in general awakens more visceral feelings I guess but I’m reticent because my intuition tells me he might suffocate me or try to isolate me from from the social interaction I’m used to (he's kind of a loner and a homebody). No. 1 just seems so…passive. As if he’s expecting me to take charge and somehow I’m not that comfortable with that.
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virgoscorpio
Knowflake Posts: 62
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Registered: Aug 2018
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posted January 10, 2019 10:06 AM
Well from my personal experience I would avoid number 1 because you have the moon square the uranus/venus conjunction. I had this in composite with someone and the relationship never felt stable or secure. On the other hand, if you feel that number 2 could isolate you or suffocate you, that it not good or healthy at all, regardless of what your chart with him says. So I guess I recommend neither of them? In my opinion, if you are unsure about both of them then it probably means that neither of them are right for you and you should find someone else who you feel more sure about. IP: Logged |
comdoc
Knowflake Posts: 915
From: Tucson
Registered: Feb 2015
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posted January 10, 2019 10:25 AM
ScoSAg, to upload the charts directly, remove the "s" after http in the links.IP: Logged |
ScoSAg
Newflake Posts: 11
From: Spain
Registered: Jan 2019
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posted January 10, 2019 01:11 PM
Comdoc, thanks for the tip!!Let's give it a try:
Here's no 1 composite and synastry http://imgur.com/a/0qlEsOJ IP: Logged |
ScoSAg
Newflake Posts: 11
From: Spain
Registered: Jan 2019
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posted January 10, 2019 01:12 PM
no 2. composite and synastry http://imgur.com/a/KoFdvEr IP: Logged |
ScoSAg
Newflake Posts: 11
From: Spain
Registered: Jan 2019
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posted January 10, 2019 01:17 PM
virgoscorpio I understand your point and I wish I could command my feelings to go away. But I can’t…
I’ve met many people over the years and felt passing attraction toward some of them, yes. But it was fleeting and not very deep and many of those cases were just short lived projections. These two…each one in his different way…they have me hooked.
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virgoscorpio
Knowflake Posts: 62
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Registered: Aug 2018
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posted January 10, 2019 01:31 PM
I understand I'm the same way. If I still have feelings it's hard to let go. I just realized that #2 has the moon opposition Uranus, which could also cause instability. So I guess I'm going to change my mind and lean towards #1 since there is that nice trine from Jupiter and the sextiles from Pluto, Saturn, and the Moon. I'm no expert though, so hopefully someone who is more experienced can weigh in. IP: Logged |
ScoSAg
Newflake Posts: 11
From: Spain
Registered: Jan 2019
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posted January 10, 2019 01:48 PM
With all the people that get to mean something important to me, all my long-term relationships, for instance, have bad aspects to the Moon in composite. These composite charts here are no exception. Both have hard Moon/Uranus although with no 2 it’s out of sign. I do consider it though. I think I am drawn to these types of relationships because my Moon is badly aspected in natal so it’s a theme for me to explore the way I emotionally project myself and my complicated security needs. On the other hand, something that I should have said from the start: we are from different cultures…I came to Spain to study some 9 years ago and relocated here after that from Eastern Europe. Both of them are Spanish. So the Moon / Uranus can point to cultural differences, I guess. With no. 1 we came a long way in knowing each other…when I first met him he was so closed to everything foreign. Didn’t like to travel, had no interest in doing not even the shortest stay abroad…I don’t know…Never met anybody this closed off and it’s weird because he has a stellium in Sag including Moon so you’d think he’d be interested in foreign cultures. I think to everybody that knows him I am a very surprising part of his life. But little by little I have helped him change so many of his preconceived ideas and helped him to enjoy being in a new place travelwise. It hasn’t been all warm and fuzzy though (I guess the Moon Uranus dw opposition and conjunction in synastry).
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ScoSAg
Newflake Posts: 11
From: Spain
Registered: Jan 2019
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posted January 25, 2019 11:49 AM
Just trying to see if this works...Synastry1
[IMG]https://i.imgur.com/4ayJPWu.png[/IMG]
Composite1
[IMG]https://i.imgur.com/vPVAcEe.png[/IMG]
Synastry2
[IMG]https://i.imgur.com/lz78yrF.png[/IMG]
Composite2
[IMG]https://i.imgur.com/L6rrD5a.png[/IMG]
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margym0o
Knowflake Posts: 1159
From: The Great White North
Registered: Jul 2014
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posted January 25, 2019 04:49 PM
quote:
Originally posted by ScoSAg:
Just trying to see if this works...Synastry1
<img src=" https://i.imgur.com/4ayJPWu.png">
Composite1
<img src=" https://i.imgur.com/vPVAcEe.png"> Synastry2
<img src="https://i.imgur.com/lz78yrF.png">
Composite2
[img]https://i.imgur.com/L6rrD5a.png Ok...I have no idea!! HEELP! how do I directly insert an image?
1. Go to http://tinypic.com/
2. Upload image (assuming you've taken a screenshot or equivalent of your chart)
3. Copy the entire line of code under where it says "IMG Code for Forums & Message Boards"
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ScoSAg
Newflake Posts: 11
From: Spain
Registered: Jan 2019
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posted January 25, 2019 05:20 PM
margym0o thanks!!! IP: Logged |
ScoSAg
Newflake Posts: 11
From: Spain
Registered: Jan 2019
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posted January 25, 2019 05:31 PM
synastry1
composite1
 synastry2
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