posted February 10, 2019 05:31 PM            

I know he has feelings for me, he found out I was talking to someone else at work and became very stalkerish with finding out the dynamic between the two of us. He got pretty Jealous. I found out he was messing with someone else and literally vomited. (So humiliating that someone can trigger that kind of response from me.)

I think the nature of our relationship has made this hard on the both of us. We've had some explosive fights... I mean VERY explosive (mars square mars exact in synastry). We get so jealous. We seem to get under each other's skin very easily. I heard this was a thing when moon/pluto aspects comes into play. Except there's this wall when it comes to being together. Most likely due to his Saturn Square my Venus in synastry (but it's trine in the composite). We have tons of Saturn binds between us. I just cant seem to get what I want and I've been patient for a year and a half now. I hate waiting. I want to move on.

Does anyone have any insight on this?? Can I break free??? Even though I've tried MULTIPLE times, it doesn't seem like I'm able to no matter how hard I've attempted. And believe me I've tried everything: (going to HR to try to switch managers, looking for other jobs, keeping my distance... No one will help me.) When he found out he freaked out. Did so many things to keep me around but he was so mad at me first. SO MUCH MANIPULATION!!! I can't take it :'(.

posted February 18, 2019 01:57 PM            

We too have saturn aspects both natally and in synastry, to venus aswell. I'm plutonian, and in composite the is sun trine pluto and moon oppo pluto. Scorpio stellium with moon in scorpio conjunct pluto in davison etc.

Hard to break obsession, thats all.

Yes you can of course break free! And when you do, don't "try" stuff, just walk away cold turkey. Thats the only way we plutonians can break free from our obsessions in my opinion anyway.

Why are you still in this situation? You may like the emotional intensity. Or you like having this type of crisis in your life? (unconciously it is). It may help you keep yourself distracted from other things in your life you have to tend to etc. Maybe you are processing things about yourself through him?

posted February 26, 2019 11:12 PM            

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Originally posted by Melinn:
I have been in a similar situation but I did break free last month, in a totally plutonian way, cut it right off... (but for me it was a friend and crush)

We too have saturn aspects both natally and in synastry, to venus aswell. I'm plutonian, and in composite the is sun trine pluto and moon oppo pluto. Scorpio stellium with moon in scorpio conjunct pluto in davison etc.

Hard to break obsession, thats all.

Yes you can of course break free! And when you do, don't "try" stuff, just walk away cold turkey. Thats the only way we plutonians can break free from our obsessions in my opinion anyway.

Why are you still in this situation? You may like the emotional intensity. Or you like having this type of crisis in your life? (unconciously it is). It may help you keep yourself distracted from other things in your life you have to tend to etc. Maybe you are processing things about yourself through him?

I can just tell you that, when you really are ready and sick of it in your core, you will be able to walk away "just like that".
Just my two cents. I don't know you our your situation of course! I'm just familiar all to well with the pluto energy^^

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Hi @Melinn! Thanks for your response! I knew I wasn't the only one lol.

So an update: I posted this a while ago but needed feedback about it since I just joined. I'm out of the situation now, have been for four months. I cut it off. essentially I was betrayed by him. This was back in October During Venus retrograde. There was a plot against me at work. Probably one of the worst experiences of my life. Too many people got in our business. Many of them females and jealous. I cut it off mostly because I was forced to. He totally ghosted be during such a crucial time. Never even explained himself. Acted like such a coward. I guess his 'career' was more important than his integrity or just being a decent, honest human being.

To this day, I still have no answers. I still don't know his exact role in things, whether it was passive or active, but of course being Plutonic I froze [him] out the minute it happened. Blocked him on social media and haven't attempted a word since. I have too much dignity.

It's been 4 months and I have dreams from time to time but not as vivid as when it first happened. I blame the way things ended on our Venus Square Saturn and Venus square Neptune on top of the other Plutonic placements. Honestly, I should've known it wouldn't end well. Sedna was thrown in the mix too. Now I'm questioning everything but you know how it is when you really care for someone and you fall for potential.

I'm doing much better now, I have a new job and I'm STAYING single. But I also just want clarity about the past. Spoke to an astrologer and I also had a tarot reading done not long ago. I have this nagging feeling like I'm being stalked [by him] I get random messages by anonymous entities and it just feels like him seeking my attention because he's not used to being ignored. (He has merc square pluto natally and I heard this was a stalker aspect). The tarot reader pulled Death, Temperance, the fool, two of cups (in that order) when I asked if the messages were from him. She confirmed that based on those cards, there's a high likelihood that it is. Said something about temperance meaning someone hanging out it the background. I just don't know what to make about any of it and to be honest I hate that I haven't really gotten any closure after almost two years of this annoying Mars square Uranus energy (make up break up, make up break up.)

What about you? How is your situation now? Do you feel him attempting to clandestinely come back into your life? Do you still have feelings? Any one else with any insight is more than welcome! <3