posted July 04, 2019 06:52 PM            

First love:

Friend and neighbor that committed suicide. We only knew each other for 4 months but had a strong bond and connected:

It took forever for me to get over this guy:

Longest relationship. We dated for two years. We found out after our breakup that he is a psychopath as well which explained some of our emotional upheaval and his coldness. We remain good friends:

posted July 04, 2019 07:07 PM            

I’m the same way cancer rising people. Literally every guy I’ve ever been in a relationship with or that has liked me is ALWAYS cancer rising. All 4.

I have my asc ruler Venus in cap in my 10th house (falls/matches their 7th) and 2 other planets in my 10th, my sun in aqua which falls into their 8th house and my mars in libra which matches or falls into their 5th house in libra, my moon in Virgo also falls into their 4th house. Plus our angles are usually conjunct too (asc and IC) in cancer since im a Taurus rising lol.

posted July 04, 2019 07:53 PM            

The Cap Asc makes sense. I completely overlooked that. I've always felt like I liked these guys more than them me because of them touching my 5th house whereas I have nearly nothing gemni/taurus that would speak to their 5th and only a Leo asc to speak to their 8th

posted July 04, 2019 11:22 PM            

And it’s the 7th house. But it’s important to have the 5th too for a real true deep abiding love. Ideally you want the 7th, 5th, 8th and the Venus or mars activated and aspected and symbolism matching.

The 7th house is THE house of relationships, it represents our ideal partner, the person we would describe if we could pick our perfect partner. We would mainly describe our 7th, that’s why it’s the house of marriage. The 5th is the house of dating. It’s the bf/gf but it’s not serious or committed. We date lots of people but only marry a few.

I’ve seen couples with one person only matching the others 7th, and some only matching the 5th, and some matching both.
And the 7th always wins out in the end. Usually the one that only has the 5th cheats or strays (with someone who DOES match their 7th lol). 7th is more committed. 5th isn’t! It’s the house of the sun (fun), 7th is the house of Venus (love). It’s a lot deeper and more abiding and sincere when it’s the 7th.

But I’ve also really noticed that for men in particular, but not always mars for the women, it’s really important the mans venus gets aspected and has a good symbolism match to the women’s chart. Without this even if you have the 5th, 7th and 8th it won’t be as strong.
All long term couples the mans Venus is highly aspected or sign matches to woman’s chart.
Say he has a venus in Taurus, even if it’s not aspected, the woman has a 2nd house stellium (symbolism match).

posted July 05, 2019 06:25 PM            

Btw what is his Venus doing? What aspects is it making to your chart? Any symbolism matching too?

posted July 06, 2019 03:49 PM            

I've recently started seeing a man that is the first person that has probably touched all of my houses and I touch many of theirs. It is a casual relationship that will not go far (more than likely) due to specific circumstances. However, we were friends for a year and he wanted to try a casual relationship with me. He asked me two months ago. When we worked before it was completely platonic and we were just good friends

What's interesting is that I have always felt at home around him. Sort of like he's familiar and that we both understand and respect each other for who we are. This is probably due to my S. Node being in Gemini as well as planets in my 11th house of friendship. I wasn't initially attracted to him until we began this relationship because due to circumstances I didn't think about it. Now I can see him as attractive. He is not like the guy above that I pined for for forever. The man above could walk into a room and everything went slow motion. Looking at him actually hurt because I thought he was so attractive. But then again, as you pointed out, that's probably all that 5th house crap he activated in me.

But with the new guy as much as we get along and whatnot, I don't have strong feelings for being long term committed. It's kind of like if we parted ways tomorrow I would miss him but go on living. I read online that because of my moon square venus natal that I could have a mismatch between who I find attractive physically and who I am emotionally compatible with. I think this is why I like my 5th hosue being activated. It hooks into my Aries Venus with excitement (esp when they're Sag), and although I get along well with my 7th house contacts they don't tend to physically ignite me. It makes dating hard. Anyway here's the chart between me and the new guy:

posted July 06, 2019 06:33 PM            

I’d say cut your losses. You don’t want to waste his or your own time if it’s not going to lead up to anymore more than a fling ya’know

You’re quite Capricorn/Saturnian. With your sun conjunct Saturn and moon in cap. Plus sun is your asc ruler so Saturn conjunct your asc ruler is going to make you even more Saturn like and look like it too. Try find someone with a cancer rising. They will really adore your responsible, emotionally controlled, ambitious and more reserved/practical qualities. Your mars conjunct their asc will give you that sexual/physical attraction too. Your sun will be in their 8th or maybe their 7th depending on the time.
You’d finally be able to experience someone feel the way towards you that you felt about those cap asc guys lol. And try make sure they have like a sun in Capricorn would be ideal, since you have a Leo rising and if it’s conjunct their DSC or in their 7th that’s perfect also because their sun would conjunct YOUR DSC ruler. Make sure they have something in sag, libra, aqua or Leo and you’re all set or Jupiter, Venus, Uranus, sun conjunct their asc or asc ruler or conjunct personal planets or they have a stellium in one of these houses.