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posted October 13, 2019 10:34 AM            

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Hey everyone,

I tagged stoika and todd as they've helped me with this situationship of mine months ago, but please feel free to leave your comments too.

I'm not sure if you can remember the synastry I posted of my ex and I. After we broke up late 2016, I lost contact with him and avoided it at all cost. But when time went by, and as he keeps asking me to talk to him, I always find myself lost again in our connection.

I remember stoika saying that we need to change how we view each other and the relationship as a whole if we want to take it a step further. Which is what I said to him.

But I just need to understand, why we can't get over it. Even though I have no problem with losing contact with him again, as I rather not talk to him than be hurt again. I must admit that I still have love for him. It's something I can't explain. Even if we don't talk at all, or even if he ends up being with someone else, or even if I end up with someone else, I just know that I'll always love him. It's just a different kind of feeling.

And it's been really bugging me lately. Since it didn't work out with us and ended really badly, I'm afraid our synastry doesn't show supportive romantic placements...??

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posted October 13, 2019 10:49 AM            

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Edit : He was in a relationship when he got in contact with me again for the 7 billion time, and I didn't answer most of his calls/texts because we just can't be friends and he knows that.

And I think he broke up with her as he moved abroad. And now he keeps calling me at least 3 times a day. And I just want to scream.

We randomly met when he was getting his papers ready to move abroad, I don't know how that happened. It was VERY weird.
It's that kind of situation you see in movies, where 4 people are double dating, A with B & C with D. But you know B & D are meant to be together.

At this point, I just don't know how we can be away from each other. I have blocked him, fought with him, told him to stay away from me, tried to date other people, he dated other people. But it keeps going round round and around until bam we're talking again.

It just..... uuugggghhhhh

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posted October 13, 2019 10:52 AM            

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Composite :

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posted October 14, 2019 06:15 PM            

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You have 2 grand trines in water from what I can see.

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Composite Grand Trines: A Relationship Gift With an Edge
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Grand TrineA Composite Grand Trine is the mother of all relationship stabilizers. In this configuration, planets in all three signs of the same element in a composite chart (read this PDF to learn about composite charts) form a harmonious angle (approximately 120 degrees) with each other. A magnetic, closed circuit of energy is created and the resulting relationship can become an island for two people. This sounds ideal, but the inherent harmony can become too much of a good thing. Energy in a trine follows the path of least resistance, so a stable but repetitive cycle dominates the entire relationship.

The Composite Grand Water Trine
Think of a cross between an oasis and a whirlpool. This couple is so emotionally connected they can draw complete sustenance from each other. They not only share each other’s joy and pain, they are each other’s joy and pain. Let’s say the trine consists of composite Saturn in Cancer, Venus in Scorpio and Moon in Pisces. Saturn in Cancer can give the relationship an “us against them” attitude. The restrictive qualities of Saturn combine with sheltering Cancer to provide a bulwark against the outside world. The trine to Venus in possessive Scorpio can indicate controlling and/or exclusive love for each other. The Moon in Pisces (fantasy) hooked into Saturn (reality) can mean that this couple creates their own dream world. What was comforting can easily become stagnant."

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posted October 16, 2019 10:13 PM            

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Hi itsmeyaz,

you have a deep psychic and karmic tie with this person. You share a past wound, i.e. you have a similar natal pattern with Saturn in 5th house opposite Chiron in 11th house, this might come from your childhoods maybe giving you both difficult social relationships and maybe a inner sense of being detached from the world or not belonging to any kind of group you can refer as reflecting your own individuality, in any case you have mirrored each other subconsciouly based on a very similar trait coming from a past wound. The problem is that you also have DW Saturn square Mars in synastry, so instead of having a learning experience and self-awareness through your relationship, you just seem to have denied such similarity sending negative vibes to each other and triggering your individual issues. He seems to feel your relationship is unsolved and he didn't detach from you for this reason, he might see you as a deep stable point in his life as you might represent someone through whom he can find support to his self-worth, in fact your NN is conjunct to his Venus square to his Neptune conjunct your Jupiter. So he might still feel your bond very powerfully as he won't ever find someone else like you.
But it seems you never really understood each other and never accepted that the other was different than how you had imagined. The Composte Sun/Mercury forming the tale of the kites opposite Neptune/Uranus looks like you need to "recognize" each other as for who you really are and be more compassionate towards each other. But it seems you always had a more selfish approach towards each other though, while you're actually deeply bonded in a karmic way, in fact Composite NN is in 12th house conjunct ASC (Scorpio). This looks very transformative but you might not have caught the actual awareness you should have achieved through your relationship, using an emotional power against each other and actually demaging such an emotional bond this way. The Kite usually points to the fact that a karmic unsolved issue can be solved in order to find an actual balance in your emotional bond, this means again, as I seem to have told you before, that you need to approach to each other in a different way from the past, i.e. change your view about the other in a less selfish way and recognize what you deeply share instead of denying it, no matter if you stay just friends or start a romantic relationship again. This is what Composite Chiron in 11th house conjunct Ceres suggests me. There's something you might have to get free from inside yourselves, and this relationship seems meant to hit your individual awareness about some issues you might share.

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