posted November 05, 2019 10:01 AM            

Though I am not sure about his feeling, if it is romantic or not. From me, I clearly have romantic feeling for him. My problem is, there is certain aspect of him that oppose my values. Will we be able to compromise about it? And also do you think we have mutual feelings?

posted November 05, 2019 04:31 PM            

The sun-moon opposition shows how different you two are. The squares from Uranus and Neptune shows that there is a lot of hot and cold, erratic, unpredictable feelings and energies between you within this dynamic. Also some wishful, idealistic thinking and probably illusions/delusions too. You don’t see this relationship clearly. There could even be some deception going on with Neptune involved here.

The mars-Saturn opposition I always see when there are external obstacles/factors contributing to the relationship. Whether it be distance, ex’s, baggage, time, finances, other people meddling etc. It’s a really nasty aspect. Causes a lot of frustrated feelings, and always seems like something is getting in the way that is out of your control. Usually shows different lifestyles as well. Sex is usually not the greatest either, different timing and preferences in the bedroom is common.

Overall, I can confidently say this relationship is doomed in the long run, this is a very weak composite. No way a real romantic relationship is going to manifest, let alone thrive. Too much negative aspects at play here without enough positive to offset this. Honestly there isn’t much positive or strong aspects at all... even the overlays aren’t helping (mutable houses).
I’d say cut your losses hun

posted November 05, 2019 06:53 PM            

the most binding aspect,surprisngly ,is the sextile/ trine of mercury to the nodal axis. thi shows a very truthful connection and you your minds are very allaigned. it show you both are quite intelligent and canusually work out and differences.it is a favorable friendship aspect but unfortunately the emotional aspects are not stable..
the moon opposed to the sun/ceres conjunction dopes show a very sincere and support feeling for each other. but a t square is formed by Uranus to the sun/moon opposition which is very intense but unstable is usually shows that5 outside influences will cause a break up.

Venus is trine to Uranus which gives a excitement to your affection for each other, but it is not usually strong enough to counter the divisive energy around Uranus.

the venus/sun midpoint is square the node and opposed to eros so I don't want to under estimate how much you both love each other. this aspect is very favorable but again other aspects work against even this affectionate connection.

Saturn is conjunct the node opposed to chiron conjunct the south node and mars.

these aspects tend to be all of and cold and distant with a need to control the other. here you have aspects of attraction with aspects of dispersion. coupled with Uranus and the overall picture is very bipolar.. that is there are a lot of ups and downs.
the Saturn/sun midpoint is conjunct to pallas which suggest that he is not consistently sensitive to your feelings

Jupiter is square to pluto which is unfavorable for relationships. sometimes with great devotion a relationship can weather this square but here the relationship is very volatile, off and on, so i think the pluto/Jupiter square here would inhibit him from really committing to you. this aspect usually shows someone who is very ambitious and doesn't want to he held back by a relationship should he find something more to his advantage.
this aspect is very non compromising so it there are big differences as you said , then it is unlikely a serious relationship will form.
the Saturn/Uranus midpoint is opposed to mars which is another aspect indicating he is hesitant to really commit.

the transiting south node will be conjunct the composite Uranus on November 10th, and has been in 1 degree org since the middle of October. this could b a breakup aspect,if you and he have been having excessive difficulties

if the transit to Uranus does not cause irrevocable changes then with the node square the sun/moon/ceres opposition from nov 11th to jan 28th 2020, the supportive and devotional energies between you will strengthen the relationship.

posted November 05, 2019 09:33 PM            

Though I said I am not sure about his feeling, actually he shows it quite a bit. Maybe because I have saturn opposite venus natally, I have a hard time to believe someone like him likes me back. I know him through his friend which was my crush. I have a deep wound from his friend, and now I just dont want to show vulnerabilities because I don't want to be heart broken for second time.
I really want things to work with him. Do you think it will be good if I become more open with my romantic feeling toward him?

We both have possessive tendencies. I have scorpio moon-pluto, and he has scorpio ascendant and other aspects. My complain about him is actually about this, I believe he is a honorable and loyal but I don't like his way of making money, you see my saturn fall in his 2nd house. I think if he is able to compromise about that, I'll be able to compromise a lot for him including his possessiveness. If his friends flirt with me and I show politeness (in my opinion) he will give me some sort of punishment like e.g making me jealous back. Do you think I should show more of my feeling for him?

We come from different backgrounds, cultures, and religions. And I am fixed about my values. But as long as he can compromise about that, I am willing to be the submissive one for him and following him. I really really like him, there is no day that I don't miss him. But I have a difficulty to show him due to problems I mentioned above.

posted November 06, 2019 12:50 AM            

Sun/Moon square Uranus/Neptune does look challenging especially since you don't have other strong aspects as support even though the Sun-Moon opposition also means there's a great deal you can learn from each other. No conjunctions between the main planets means your energies are not in sync so very likely when you're together, things just don't work out as smoothly as you want.

You said that the way he makes money challenges your values and he tends to go *** -for-tat whenever he feels jealous, but you're willing to tolerate this if he changes the way he makes money. But these are two different things, aren't they? Relationship is about compromising, respect and supporting each other, not making deals i.e. if you stop doing this, I'll stop doing that... if you do this, I'll do that. Where will it end?

You said he feels jealous when you respond to his friends' flirtation. In your opinion, you're just being polite. But does he see it that way? I went through this with my guy before (on both ends) so I know how it feels. We had fights over it. In hindsight, we just have to be sensitive to each others' feelings.

posted November 06, 2019 02:44 AM            

I understand what you mean. It's not that I entirely hate his job. I just think there is certain things that shouldn't be done. I am actually very proud and admire him for his hard work. If only he can compromise about it....

I also have reduce my interaction with his friends. Sometimes I just want to flirt with him, but I am not bold enough. So I end up "flirting" with everyone to make it not so obvious that what I want is his attention.

posted November 07, 2019 09:48 PM            

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Sometimes I just want to flirt with him, but I am not bold enough. So I end up "flirting" with everyone to make it not so obvious that what I want is his attention.

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Haha, why do people always complicate things? My guy also used to pretend that he doesn't care by talking to other gals (which I saw as flirting) and he only got me thinking that he didn't like me. But when I walked away, he'd start looking for me. He also has natal Venus-Saturn.

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If only he can compromise about it....

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