posted November 13, 2019 09:49 PM            

One of the Synastry books I have: Planets in Synastry: Astrological Patterns of Relationships by E W Neville outlines the latter--that it's the person's whose Planets are "captured" in particular Houses who feels the attraction the most.

posted November 14, 2019 07:50 AM            

E.g. my Sun drops into my partner's 5th and I incite in him the feeling of romance, fun, playfulness and wanting children. As the house person, he stimulates these feelings in me - makes me feel that I can and want to do a lot of fun things with him. He also makes me want to have children even though I wasn't thinking about it.

posted November 14, 2019 10:44 AM            

Mars conjunct the ASC or MC will often times be interpreted as too aggressive and controlling by the angle person.

Moon in someone's 8th might actually see a part of that person that they like, or it might scare them.

What people don't seem to understand about astrology is that it's not just about "energy." These energies have physical/mental/emotional manifestations.

posted November 14, 2019 12:29 PM            

I like fellow Aries Mooners and Venuses, but they also were interested in me.

But I also tend to attract Scorpions.

posted November 14, 2019 01:43 PM            

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Originally posted by anska5:
I agree with everything that has already been said. How responsive you are when a particular house is triggered may also depend on how much this house is already 'covered' by your natal planets i.e. if you already have that energy natally, you might not yearn for it in someone else. For instance, I'm extremely saturnian with sun, mercury and venus in capricorn in 7th house. Saturn not only rules my 7th house and 8th house, but I also have my natal saturn in 1st house. My 5th house ruler venus...is also in capricorn.

I have liked people with venus or ascendnat in capricorn, but bascially if someone hits my 7th and 8th house with lots of capricorn planets...I'm bored even though on paper they seem perfect and someone analysing my chart would probably see that as 'proof' that it's not the house person that is affected. But in actual fact I'm just so capricornian myself, it's too familiar to offer a spark. Instead I seek more the energy that I lack and my mars energy in a man.

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posted November 14, 2019 01:52 PM            

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Originally posted by anska5:
all these planetary conjunctions to my capricorn sun, mercury, venus planets were supposedly very 'good' aspects and lots of interaspects. At least in those cases where the super capricorn guys left me completely cold, it really can't be argued that it was down to bad aspects, why i didnt react.

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Since your 7th and 8th rulers are in your first, your shadowside is probably too well incorporated into your personality for you to actively seek it out. That could be a viable explanation.

Another thing to remember is that every sign has a positive and negative expression.

posted November 26, 2019 08:38 AM            

There are some real life examples that I have observed where this is the case.

During his high school years, my brother had a long time friend who was absolutely obsessed with him. If he had said, "I want to be the father of your children", she would have dropped everything and everyone instantly, and been like, "Ok, let's make this happen NOW".

My brother has Libra Sun, Virgo Rising/Venus/Mars, and Scorp Moon. Aries is on his 8th. She has Aries Sun, Mercury, Rising, and Mars. All that Aries is in his 8th House, and in general 8th House relationship to his Venus and Mars as well. While he had some general attraction to her, he was not that into her sexually/romantically. I think part of it was their respective level of physical attractiveness. He's a lot more physically attractive than she is. If she had been smoking hot, he might have felt a bit different, but I suspect even then she would have still been more intensely attracted to him than he to her.

Astrologically, him "capturing" so much of her chart in his 8th seems to apply. Especially her Rising, Sun, and Mars would all tend to indicate a very strong lust and intensely wanting to merge type attraction, on the border of obsessive. (The strongly opposite energies of Libra and Aries certainly didn't help either). Clearly also some karmic connections as well.

I have a female friend with Pisces Sun and Mercury. I didn't ever think she had any kind of romantic sexual attraction to me. I was very shocked when one night at a party, she was pretty drunk and we were dancing together, when she leaned in and whispered "I'm REALLY curious about your talents (my partner had boasted of my abilities/talents during lovemaking apparently) and want to experience them..." and then tried to kiss me. Though I was also pretty drunk (not as much as her though) and definitely kind of turned on, I gently rebuffed her, and said something like, "I love you friend" and gave her hug.

I was pretty shocked for a few reasons, she was in a non open relationship with a mutual friend who was there at the party (lol, my partner had gone on a couple dates with him before my female friend and he had met, but my partner didn't end up being romantically into him), and I just never had suspected she had any interest in me like that. I know some of it was her being sloppy drunk, but she obviously had given it some thought/energy previously.

I do have some romantic attraction to her, but it's not strong. But how I do correlate the above with astrology? Her Sun and Mercury are in my 8th. I think particularly for relatively straight women in connection with relatively straight men, that their Sun or Mars in a man's 8th and 5th is particularly strong, since for women Sun and Mars say a lot about the type of man they are attracted to.

As to mutual attraction, her Moon is on my Mars Jupiter conjunction, and while not in aspect, her Aries Venus is generally opposite my Libra Moon. She does capture some of my Virgo planets in her 5th.

Women with strong Scorpio, seem to either really respect/admire and/or be very attracted to my partner if they are towards the bisexual. I think this is a combo of their placements being in her 10th House and her having Aries Moon.

Strong Aries has an 8th House pull/attraction to strong Scorpio. Many people with Aries Ascendant have Scorpio 8th House cusp. Since the Moon corresponds to women and female energy in general, it seems she exerts a particularly magnetic pull on bisexually leaning women with strong Scorpio.

There are and have been exceptions to this trend though. The person who I fell in love with, but who coldly cut me off, well her Venus-Saturn (ruler of her 5th and which is in her 7th) conjunction is in my 8th, and the faster moving ruler of her 7th and 4th, is in my 5th. She told me that she was not that strongly attracted to me.

I did find this a bit curious because during our first meetup where we spent 5 hrs together, at one point she said, "I'm sorry I keep staring at you. You're just so nice to look at." And then later, we were standing next to each other (during karaoke, and watching others sing), and I started to lightly rub my fingers up and down her back, her neck, and the back of her head, at times with more intense pressure (it's hard to explain but in a sense I was sort of energetically-symbolically making love to her via my hand and my energy), as well as some nuzzling the back of her head with my nose. I asked her towards the beginning of it if she liked it, and she said yes, but more importantly to me, she looked/felt completely blissed out in pleasure, like a cat who hadn't had affection in years and who was purring very loudly.

Hence, tbh, I'm a bit confused by her and that whole situation. In the psychic reading I got recently, the intuitive indicated that she was wearing a false mask.