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posted December 02, 2019 09:03 AM            

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What kind of aspects would bring out insecurities you didn't even know you had? I feel like I'm working through some severe emotions that I guess I've buried years ago and didn't even realize were a thing in my life. From our synastry, it looks as though I'm the one who's stirring up his insecurities but in reality, it's me struggling....HARD. I could go into details about my childhood but to save time, my mother hated me and I was not loved and I'm pretty sure this relationship is forcing me to work on all of that crap that I thought I had handled. What gets me though is he seems to be cool and collected and not really dealing with anything like I am. Or at least he definitely doesn't talk about it. I feel like I don't really have an affect on him at all, probably my paranoia telling me he couldn't possibly feel towards me how I feel towards him. Am I the only one who's going to be affected by this r/s? Or how does my chart affect his?

Here's our synastry... Again. I've posted it before a few times. I'm blue

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posted December 02, 2019 04:46 PM            

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Im just guessing here but could it be related to his mc and chiron right at your Venus in your 12th?

I feel kinda uneasy when people with their sun in my 12th is around me because im completely unable to read them, or see them, in the way i see and understand most people.

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posted December 02, 2019 05:08 PM            

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He has North Node in his Ascendant and South Node in his Descendant, this means he will have a lot of relationships in his life but will not be able to have any long lasting relationship. There will be lots of break ups and if he gets married it will not last.

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posted December 02, 2019 06:54 PM            

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Originally posted by jyeshthatequila:
He has North Node in his Ascendant and South Node in his Descendant, this means he will have a lot of relationships in his life but will not be able to have any long lasting relationship. There will be lots of break ups and if he gets married it will not last.

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I have the same aspect only mine is exact lol. We're both pretty conservative in r/s and cheating is not at all on my list of worries though. I just feel completely inadequate for some reason and this is the first time I've ever felt that way at all, with anyone. I thought venus on the MC was a good thing, I have helped his image just from us being together. His status has been boosted I guess because I've offered him stability where there was absolutely none in his life. In our composite we have saturn conjunct Pluto in the 4H square moon on the descendant. There is a deep yearning to be emotionally close with each other but, we just can't get there and it's really messing with me and causing me to run through every possibility as to why? The love is definitely there, but my mind won't let me believe it and I keep thinking it's all my fault.

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posted December 02, 2019 07:31 PM            

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Originally posted by ScandinavianCrab:
Im just guessing here but could it be related to his mc and chiron right at your Venus in your 12th?

I feel kinda uneasy when people with their sun in my 12th is around me because im completely unable to read them, or see them, in the way i see and understand most people.

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I don't think so. I've been in r/s where his sun fell into my 12H and we lasted 7 years. Having so much energy already there makes me really comfortable with people dropping their stuff into my 12H.

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posted December 03, 2019 04:47 AM            

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It's that chiron conjunct venus! Chiron aspects are NOT to be trifled with. They can and will mess you up.

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posted December 03, 2019 07:55 AM            

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Originally posted by TheMusician00:
It's that chiron conjunct venus! Chiron aspects are NOT to be trifled with. They can and will mess you up.

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I keep hearing conflicting meanings for this. One says it's terrible and the other says it's a marriage placement??? I've had this before and a lot of people close to my age have their chiron close to my venus because of how slow chiron moves. His is just on his MC making that much stronger. I'm so confused lol.

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posted December 03, 2019 07:47 PM            

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I had my Moon opposite my ex's chiron and he wounded me in a major way. Brought up all these issues from childhood, reopened emotional wounds, the whole nine yards really. I opened myself to those things, I allowed myself to be vulnerable with him which was entirely a conscious decision that had disastrous results. I think Chiron really facilities that type of dynamic. And then depending on other factors and how the relationship progresses, Chiron can either heal (and bring the couple closer) or wound (and tear the couple apart). It seems like smth similar is happening with his chiron on your venus, the planet of love, by bringing out these deep insecurities from childhood that told you and made you believe that you're unlovable.

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posted December 03, 2019 09:02 PM            

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Right away I said "Chiron" reading your title and I agree with everyone that it's the exact Chiron/Venus conjunction especially considering that you're the Venus.

Chiron is like a doctor with a scalpel, cutting away at an infestation ruthlessly. There is so much humiliation and inner child sh*t that get released with Chironic energy. Luckily though we tend to come out better for them if we have healthy coping mechanisms and understand our inner lives a decent amount.

I had a Chiron/Moon DW with my ex (my Moon conjunct his Chiron and my Chiron opposite his Moon). Jesus that one was a doozy. I'm better for going through it but it could seriously be hellish. It did bring out A LOT of my insecurities but much of them have vanished post-relationship in general.

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posted December 03, 2019 09:39 PM            

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Well that gives me hope actually, thank you. That line like a doctor with a scalpel hit me kind of hard. It's exactly like that and there's literally no where to hide.

My last relationship we had chiron exactly conjunct venus but I was chiron and I feel like I was greatly disappointed and unsatisfied with the r/s as a whole. We learned a ton from each other but it ended, mutually but still it was a long difficult r/s. We have two sons and we co-parent really well but we bring out the absolute worst in each other so we have to have very set boundaries.

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posted December 09, 2019 01:01 PM            

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posted December 09, 2019 01:16 PM            

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Originally posted by jyeshthatequila:
He has North Node in his Ascendant and South Node in his Descendant, this means he will have a lot of relationships in his life but will not be able to have any long lasting relationship. There will be lots of break ups and if he gets married it will not last.

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I have SN in my 1st house and NN in 7th house? Would that mean the opposite then.. because actually I always happen to be in a relationship and it’s always very challenging for me. Like.. of course I want someone to love and love me back, but it also takes up all of my time and energy. I‘ve never had a peaceful supportive relationship. They‘re always pretty challenging and ultimately disappointing.

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posted December 13, 2019 02:59 PM            

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