posted December 12, 2019 01:52 PM            

there is a guy I fell in love with.
He seemed to be interested intially, but this attraction seems to be gone from his side...
What do you see in your synastry chart? Is there such a big difference between him and me, would I be the one who has the stronger "attraction" part? He is the "red" one, I am the "blue" on the chart below.

I would really appreciate any comments, bad or good ones...

Much love,
Rainbow...

posted December 12, 2019 02:31 PM            

Transit Uranus is conjunct his Chiron, possibly opening up childhood wounds for him

Transit Chiron is around his South Node, reiterating the theme of pain and healing

Transit Saturn and Pluto look to be opposite his Mars, causing some retreat inwards and maybe leading to isolation on his part

Could just be that he's in somewhat of a dark place right now, hence him "cooling" off

I'm not sure if anyone has the "advantage" in this synastry necessarily

He puts his Mars in your 10th
You put your Venus in his 10th
Your Sun is in his 11th
His Moon is in your 9th

His Sun/Mercury is in your 5th
Your Moon/Jupiter is in his 8th
Your (unaspected) Mars is in his 5th
You both have Mars retrograde, sort of mirroring each others reserved energy here (even though the Mars are square by sign, not by aspect)

Seems that things are pretty evened out here, house-wise

I think the issue may be that while there is chemistry and comfort, there is some inherent lack of compatibility here that's setting you on edge?

His Venus is in Pisces, in the 4th house.

So we need to see if you have Piscean, Neptunian, 12th house, 4th house, or Cancerian traits.

You have your big intergenerational stellium in the 4th, that could count for something (maybe not significant, but something).
You don't have anything in Cancer, movign on
You don't have anything in the 12th
You don't have anything in Pisces besides your DSC/NN, which will count for something but not necessarily anything too significant

He has Moon in Taurus, in the 7th house
So now we're looking for Venusian qualities

Perfect, you have Sun and Mercury in Libra!
And Mars in the 7th!
And your Mercury and Pluto is in the 2nd (house of Taurus)

The issue is that he wants earthy, watery elements and your pretty air/fire heavy (Sun/Moon in Air, Mars and Venus in fire)

So you might be experiencing some intuitive dissatisfaction from him, feeling that you're not really his type even though there are probably a lot of wonderful merits to this relationship, but still there's an anxiety that might be acute for you here, not allowing you to wholly relax

It seems like he's your type in a sense

You have Sun in Libra, he has Moon in the 7th in the Venusian sign of Taurus
You have a retrograde Mars, he has a retrograde Mars
You have Mars in Aries, he has Mars square Pluto natally

So he kinda matches you somewhat, not necessarily your perfect type but thematically something is there

posted December 12, 2019 02:48 PM            

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Originally posted by athenaia:
I feel like it's important to note that this guy is going through some really gnarly transits right now?

Transit Uranus is conjunct his Chiron, possibly opening up childhood wounds for him

Transit Chiron is around his South Node, reiterating the theme of pain and healing

Transit Saturn and Pluto look to be opposite his Mars, causing some retreat inwards and maybe leading to isolation on his part

Could just be that he's in somewhat of a dark place right now, hence him "cooling" off

I'm not sure if anyone has the "advantage" in this synastry necessarily

He puts his Mars in your 10th
You put your Venus in his 10th
Your Sun is in his 11th
His Moon is in your 9th

His Sun/Mercury is in your 5th
Your Moon/Jupiter is in his 8th
Your (unaspected) Mars is in his 5th
You both have Mars retrograde, sort of mirroring each others reserved energy here (even though the Mars are square by sign, not by aspect)

Seems that things are pretty evened out here, house-wise

I think the issue may be that while there is chemistry and comfort, there is some inherent lack of compatibility here that's setting you on edge?

His Venus is in Pisces, in the 4th house.

So we need to see if you have Piscean, Neptunian, 12th house, 4th house, or Cancerian traits.

You have your big intergenerational stellium in the 4th, that could count for something (maybe not significant, but something).
You don't have anything in Cancer, movign on
You don't have anything in the 12th
You don't have anything in Pisces besides your DSC/NN, which will count for something but not necessarily anything too significant

He has Moon in Taurus, in the 7th house
So now we're looking for Venusian qualities

Perfect, you have Sun and Mercury in Libra!
And Mars in the 7th!
And your Mercury and Pluto is in the 2nd (house of Taurus)

The issue is that he wants earthy, watery elements and your pretty air/fire heavy (Sun/Moon in Air, Mars and Venus in fire)

So you might be experiencing some intuitive dissatisfaction from him, feeling that you're not really his type even though there are probably a lot of wonderful merits to this relationship, but still there's an anxiety that might be acute for you here, not allowing you to wholly relax

It seems like he's your type in a sense

You have Sun in Libra, he has Moon in the 7th in the Venusian sign of Taurus
You have a retrograde Mars, he has a retrograde Mars
You have Mars in Aries, he has Mars square Pluto natally

So he kinda matches you somewhat, not necessarily your perfect type but thematically something is there

Kinda curious about what the composite looks like?

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WOW! thank you so much for taking the time and send me such a long reply. I am so thankful, you cannot imagine.
Yes, you are absolutely right about him, going through a very dark period...He feels lost and he "does not know anything anymore"....

About myself:
I am 31 years old, but never had one requited love in my life and this make me very depressed. Especially, because I am always getting tons of compliments from "womanizers" and I always get the attention of men, no matter where I go... so it is not like I don't like myself as a woman, but due to this "missing requited love" I feel like nothing...I have no self-confidence in love and I don't know why I always seem to attract guys who simply does not seem to be interested...

This is the composite...(I don't know why the image is not displayed like before...but it is a clickable link)

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posted December 12, 2019 03:11 PM            

On January 12th, transit Pluto/Saturn in Capricorn will be conjunct the composite IC, loosely squaring the composite ASC and the composite Saturn/Pluto conjunction.

So while I'm no Todd when it comes to predictive astrology, I don't know how well your relationship will bode these upcoming transits. I recently had transit Saturn conjunct my composite IC with my ex and we ended up breaking up, kind of a classic thing to happen with this transit..

Transit Neptune is square that giant Gemini/Sagittarius axis right now so you may not be seeing the relationship clearly, there may be more faults and cracks in the foundation of you guys then you may be consciously aware of right now. Seems the Full Moon yesterday sort of gave you some intuitive preominition about this (the Full Moon was almost exact on your composite Sun/Mercury and Jupiter) which is why your post is on here today

As for you.. you have a ridiculously charming chart! I think I would fall in love with you if I met you lol what could be better then a sweet and demure Virgo ASC, a charismatic Libra Sun in the 1st and an intelligent and witty Gemini Moon in the 9th?

I would say that dating guys with more Neptunian influence (whether it's through the planet Neptune or through the sign of Pisces) would be good for you, as it's the sign of your DSC and North Node, meaning they'll better align you with your destiny as both a woman and a future partner

Find a guy with a stronger Mars, I also have Mars around my DSC and people with firm, strong wills and sense of selves help imbue purpose onto me as well

The ruler of your 7th is in your 4th, so a guy with Saturnine (Capricorn) and Lunar (Cancer) aspects would also be really healing for you romantically

And of course Aquarius would mesh gorgeously with your chart, landing in your 5th house and forming some kind of wide grand trine with your Sun and Moon

posted December 12, 2019 03:53 PM            

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Originally posted by athenaia:
Oh wow! Okay so transit Saturn will be square the composite Saturn/Pluto conjunction soon. Around mid-January until mid-March.

On January 12th, transit Pluto/Saturn in Capricorn will be conjunct the composite IC, loosely squaring the composite ASC and the composite Saturn/Pluto conjunction.

So while I'm no Todd when it comes to predictive astrology, I don't know how well your relationship will bode these upcoming transits. I recently had transit Saturn conjunct my composite IC with my ex and we ended up breaking up, kind of a classic thing to happen with this transit..

Transit Neptune is square that giant Gemini/Sagittarius axis right now so you may not be seeing the relationship clearly, there may be more faults and cracks in the foundation of you guys then you may be consciously aware of right now. Seems the Full Moon yesterday sort of gave you some intuitive preominition about this (the Full Moon was almost exact on your composite Sun/Mercury and Jupiter) which is why your post is on here today

As for you.. you have a ridiculously charming chart! I think I would fall in love with you if I met you lol what could be better then a sweet and demure Virgo ASC, a charismatic Libra Sun in the 1st and an intelligent and witty Gemini Moon in the 9th?

I would say that dating guys with more Neptunian influence (whether it's through the planet Neptune or through the sign of Pisces) would be good for you, as it's the sign of your DSC and North Node, meaning they'll better align you with your destiny as both a woman and a future partner

Find a guy with a stronger Mars, I also have Mars around my DSC and people with firm, strong wills and sense of selves help imbue purpose onto me as well

The ruler of your 7th is in your 4th, so a guy with Saturnine (Capricorn) and Lunar (Cancer) aspects would also be really healing for you romantically

And of course Aquarius would mesh gorgeously with your chart, landing in your 5th house and forming some kind of wide grand trine with your Sun and Moon

I think with your generational stellium in the 4th, you need to seriously consider analyzing the trauma you went through in childhood in relation to your parents. They did something to you that made you feel worthless, like nothing you do will ever be good enough, and their lack of unconditional love has perhaps driven you to desperately seek it in others. First you need to heal your inner child - honor her fears, her desires, no matter how "silly" they seem, and let her know she was well within her rights to ask for what she wanted, and it wasn't fair that she was failed in this and it wasn't right. I have Uranus/Saturn/Neptune in my 4th too (I'm also a Virgo rising) and I have A LOT of terrible family karma. We gotta heal this in ourselves as adults so that we break this intergenerational curse we inherited. When we do that, then love flows to us much more freely from more enlightened people

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Dear athenaia,

thank you so much...I see we have some similarities...

So altogether you say, it is better if this guy and I part ways? We are not fitting enough? He already has a child from his previous relationship and we met through work...