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MilaBirkin
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From: Cordoba, Argentina
Registered: Jul 2015

posted March 29, 2020 01:10 AM     Click Here to See the Profile for MilaBirkin     Edit/Delete Message   Reply w/Quote
We met in 2018 in a German class, we both like to learn languages. He was staring at me most of the time and he was very obvious. We started talking and spent time together in college when we had breaks. We were in a group chat of all the people in our class and he got my number from there and started talking to me privately. He acted weirdly and my intuition told me that he was in love with someone else and sometimes I didn't like what he was doing. We both left the class before the end of that class but we remain in contact to this day.
I feel that he is one of the few people who will be there for me if I need support and he feels the same way about me but we never see each other personally, it's only virtual. We have a lot of fun, we have interesting conversations although it is not stable; there are unexpected distances for a few weeks or something, since we have known each other it happens. He recently acted like an idiot and we had a fight over something stupid he said (well, more than one thing), he was disrespectful to something that is important to me but we talk to each other again. Sometimes I say that I hate him but I say-feel that because he is really important to me and some things are annoying to me, I'm much more free/openminded than he is, he seems to still live in the last century but I still feel love for him, although I have a hard time accepting it, haha.
I would like to know what you think of this relationship. I feel that it is not a very easy one but that it can last.
I'm not looking for a relationship right now. I need time and space. I'm not ready but whenever I think about having a boyfriend, I think of him. I can usually let people go, especially men, but with him it's different. I don't want to imagine my life without him being a part of it. This is annoying.

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SolInaspectado
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From: Lima, Peru.
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posted March 30, 2020 12:00 PM     Click Here to See the Profile for SolInaspectado     Edit/Delete Message   Reply w/Quote
Hello, MilaBirkin~
This is just a guessing, but are you the person in the inner side? You said you're more free and openminded, so I thought you could be the one with aquarian venus and he the one with taurus moon, hm. Also the red person in the synastry has no earthy planets (personal planets), hm. I will speak in terms of red or blue, so that if my guess is incorrect you could still understand. I feel it must be kinda difficult for the person with taurus moon, since you feel in a way that the other person cannot understand/feel. Also, the red person has a lot of scorpio influence, which must be difficult to handle (individually), because it's the opposite of the moon in taurus.

There are aspects I like, for example, those trines between pisces and scorpio. We have saturn there, and saturn is like a "glue". It means compromise and supporting the other. Blue person maybe is really good at making the red person feel understood. Red person's pluto makes trine to blue person's moon. I think for red person that energy must be easy to handle but for blue person it must be... difficult, to say the least. However, blue person has north node in scorpio, so I would say blue person is attracted like crazy lmao North node makes us feel as if it's our mission to go into that energy, is where life is taking us. Not necessarily romantic, but still strong (above all when you don't have natally that energy).

However, there are aspects I worry about. Both persons have mars in leo. Meaning they both get mad in the same way and they both share the same passion. Both are proud (I feel ceres softens the impact, though). However, blue person's mars is squaring red person's moon and venus. And that makes things spicy and hot. Red person's mars is also opposite blue person's venus. What worries me is the aspect between mars and the moon.

I have lived this aspect in two different ways, that's why it worries me lol The first time I was mars and the guy I was dating was the moon. He never told me anything, but I feel my way of doing thing was really ******* him off. I have mars in pisces and he had moon in sag. The second time I was the moon and a co worker had his mars conjunct my moon. Whatever he said, whatever he did would **** me off, but in an ugly way. Since it was my moon I would feel really hurt, and it was weird because we were not that close. He did flirt with me, I could feel it, and I turned him down because at the moment I was dating with the sag moon guy, and It was not right. After some months, he also stopped talking to me (the co worker) and then I stopped talking to him. Then he got vacations but he would visit the workplace and walk around my area and I couldn't avoid to have stomachache, out of the nothing lmao I hated how he tried to flirt with me, even telling me bad things about the gay I was dating and then getting himself in the middle whenever I talked to other co worker, he also asked me if I wanted to have children (lmao). I've never been that irrational towards somebody, and I decided to quit the job because my mental peace was first (also, the conjunction was in scorpio, totally unbearable). My point is... a person's moon is not something to play around, and whoever you are (red or blue person), you must be careful.

On the other hand, red person's sun and mercury are squaring blue person's moon. Both moons are getting hit by squares. That is passion, but also pain. This is just a guessing, but I think blue person's way of doing things and also things this person likes/way of giving affection (aquarian venus is all about words, words, words lmao) may make red person unconfortable, and a bit out of place. Taurus moon feels good with no flashy things and with actions/objects more than words. Home made food, staying home and watch Netflix with the smell of something delicious in the air, and soft caresses will make this person get the message. On the other hand, red person's way of expressing ideas and this person's identity would hit blue person hard. Red person seems the classic romantic type that always is neutral and keeps perspective, while blue person is confortable and safe when the other person gives everything (even reason itself) to protect him/her. So here blue person probably will like the scorpian side of red person, but not the libra side. But when you love someone you accept everything, so... I think IF these people have authentic interest in one another, they should be careful not to hurt the other person's moon, because both do that. Maybe they can focus in the saturn aspects, so that they will be able to work for a healthy relationship, getting mature together and not expecting only the other to change. That will be difficult because both have mars in leo and leo is not used to get rid of the ego, but who knows? I do think it's possible with hard work. Also sun in libra and aqua venus are good friends and have a lot of fun together.

That's my opinion until now, I am not an expert but I liked this synastry. Good luck with this matter!

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MilaBirkin
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From: Cordoba, Argentina
Registered: Jul 2015

posted April 04, 2020 12:52 PM     Click Here to See the Profile for MilaBirkin     Edit/Delete Message   Reply w/Quote
quote:
Originally posted by SolInaspectado:
Hello, MilaBirkin~
This is just a guessing, but are you the person in the inner side? You said you're more free and openminded, so I thought you could be the one with aquarian venus and he the one with taurus moon, hm. Also the red person in the synastry has no earthy planets (personal planets), hm. I will speak in terms of red or blue, so that if my guess is incorrect you could still understand. I feel it must be kinda difficult for the person with taurus moon, since you feel in a way that the other person cannot understand/feel. Also, the red person has a lot of scorpio influence, which must be difficult to handle (individually), because it's the opposite of the moon in taurus.

There are aspects I like, for example, those trines between pisces and scorpio. We have saturn there, and saturn is like a "glue". It means compromise and supporting the other. Blue person maybe is really good at making the red person feel understood. Red person's pluto makes trine to blue person's moon. I think for red person that energy must be easy to handle but for blue person it must be... difficult, to say the least. However, blue person has north node in scorpio, so I would say blue person is attracted like crazy lmao North node makes us feel as if it's our mission to go into that energy, is where life is taking us. Not necessarily romantic, but still strong (above all when you don't have natally that energy).

However, there are aspects I worry about. Both persons have mars in leo. Meaning they both get mad in the same way and they both share the same passion. Both are proud (I feel ceres softens the impact, though). However, blue person's mars is squaring red person's moon and venus. And that makes things spicy and hot. Red person's mars is also opposite blue person's venus. What worries me is the aspect between mars and the moon.

I have lived this aspect in two different ways, that's why it worries me lol The first time I was mars and the guy I was dating was the moon. He never told me anything, but I feel my way of doing thing was really ******* him off. I have mars in pisces and he had moon in sag. The second time I was the moon and a co worker had his mars conjunct my moon. Whatever he said, whatever he did would **** me off, but in an ugly way. Since it was my moon I would feel really hurt, and it was weird because we were not that close. He did flirt with me, I could feel it, and I turned him down because at the moment I was dating with the sag moon guy, and It was not right. After some months, he also stopped talking to me (the co worker) and then I stopped talking to him. Then he got vacations but he would visit the workplace and walk around my area and I couldn't avoid to have stomachache, out of the nothing lmao I hated how he tried to flirt with me, even telling me bad things about the gay I was dating and then getting himself in the middle whenever I talked to other co worker, he also asked me if I wanted to have children (lmao). I've never been that irrational towards somebody, and I decided to quit the job because my mental peace was first (also, the conjunction was in scorpio, totally unbearable). My point is... a person's moon is not something to play around, and whoever you are (red or blue person), you must be careful.

On the other hand, red person's sun and mercury are squaring blue person's moon. Both moons are getting hit by squares. That is passion, but also pain. This is just a guessing, but I think blue person's way of doing things and also things this person likes/way of giving affection (aquarian venus is all about words, words, words lmao) may make red person unconfortable, and a bit out of place. Taurus moon feels good with no flashy things and with actions/objects more than words. Home made food, staying home and watch Netflix with the smell of something delicious in the air, and soft caresses will make this person get the message. On the other hand, red person's way of expressing ideas and this person's identity would hit blue person hard. Red person seems the classic romantic type that always is neutral and keeps perspective, while blue person is confortable and safe when the other person gives everything (even reason itself) to protect him/her. So here blue person probably will like the scorpian side of red person, but not the libra side. But when you love someone you accept everything, so... I think IF these people have authentic interest in one another, they should be careful not to hurt the other person's moon, because both do that. Maybe they can focus in the saturn aspects, so that they will be able to work for a healthy relationship, getting mature together and not expecting only the other to change. That will be difficult because both have mars in leo and leo is not used to get rid of the ego, but who knows? I do think it's possible with hard work. Also sun in libra and aqua venus are good friends and have a lot of fun together.

That's my opinion until now, I am not an expert but I liked this synastry. Good luck with this matter!


Hello🌸. Yes, I am the person who has Venus in Aquarius.
How interesting everything you tell me. I think we experienced similar things.
I feel fine but also sometimes I feel, maybe frustrated or confused. Definitely, I'm more communicative than him, which is curious because I don't like to talk a lot but I do like to express myself.
Thanks for your help.

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Randall
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