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Topic: Synastry & Composite with Serious Issues in Letting Go
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HieronymusTush
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Registered: Aug 2018
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posted June 27, 2020 12:26 PM
  
Posting for a very close friend. Synastry and composite of a 10-month dynamic which turned into a serious case of enmeshment and not being able to let go, with an amount of dissatisfaction on both parts. Also my friend (who is inside in the synastry) worries excessively that the person inside is not interested in them romantically and wonders why that might be. What is the basis of these people's inability to draw limits and be apart? What sticks out to you in this dynamic? She doesn't feel like she's in a good place currently. So all insights very welcome. Thank you so much, guys.  
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LeoSagRisingTaurusMoon
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From: Quintiles land, next to Neptune conjunct Asc
Registered: Nov 2019
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posted June 27, 2020 02:33 PM
She has a whole lot going on in her 7th house natally. I reckon she is a very relationship-oriented woman, possibly with issues related to being needy when a man is in the equation. Maybe she still hasn't learned to be single and happy, and would rather make do with someone unsuitable.
His situation is no better... He has a 12th house venus, per se complicated, that falls in her packed 7th house. I'm sure that venus-mars conjunction gives them lots of sexual chemistry but in a way this adds up to the general mess.
I see his venus conjuncts her neptune too, so illusions, projections and deception too. Maybe from her side due to dissatisfaction?
On top of it all his sun falls in her 8th house, possibly (and inadvertently) bringing up memory of past trauma? Looks like a very transformative bond but would take lots of awareness for both of them to manage it without hurting each other. IP: Logged |
serendipity20
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posted June 28, 2020 05:27 AM
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Originally posted by HieronymusTush:
Posting for a very close friend. Synastry and composite of a 10-month dynamic which turned into a serious case of enmeshment and not being able to let go, with an amount of dissatisfaction on both parts. Also my friend (who is inside in the synastry) worries excessively that the person inside is not interested in them romantically and wonders why that might be. What is the basis of these people's inability to draw limits and be apart? What sticks out to you in this dynamic? She doesn't feel like she's in a good place currently. So all insights very welcome. Thank you so much, guys.
If I understand correctly, your friend's planets are in blue and her partner's planets are in red. The first thing I noticed are the house overlays. She doesn't seem to hit the other person's "love & relationship" houses nearly as much as they hit hers. Their Sun and Mercury are in her 8H, their Venus in her 7H, their Jupiter and Pluto are in her 5H. Her partner arouses a lot of deep feelings in her and she seems to be very attracted to them. She might also consider the person to be ideal in some ways (their Venus in her 7H conjunct her descendant). It doesn't seem to be the case the other way around as she only puts her Moon in their 5H. I'm also personally not a fan of Mars in 12H overlay as it often suggests hidden motives or cheating. As for the inability to draw limits, I'd probably look to Neptune. The couple appears to have quite a few Neptune contacts going on in Synastry. I checked the parallels and it's the same story! They have: Sun parallel Neptune, Venus parallel Neptune, Mercury parallel Neptune, Ascendant parallel Neptune, all under 1orb. It's a major theme in their interaction with each other. With Neptune there's always the possibility of illusions, as well as the absence of boundaries which could ultimately lead to dissatisfaction. IP: Logged |
anska5
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posted June 28, 2020 02:12 PM
I agree with everything that has already been said (her relationship houses are hit strongly, the other way around not really exc 5th house). Plus, if I see this correctly, her venus is opposite the other person's pluto AND saturn. You mentioned "Also my friend (who is inside in the synastry) worries excessively that the person inside is not interested in them romantically and wonders why that might be." Pluto opposite her Venus makes her feel obsessed and saturn opposite her venus makes her feel rejected (have had that in synastry) all at the same time. The rejection feeling may be excerbated by the fact that the other person's venus in her 7th house makes them seem so ideal in her eyes, yet she feels not good enough. Why they both can't let go...maybe the pluto in the composite 7th house has something to do with that? I've had that as well before and there was this (quite unhealthy) compulsivenss about the connection.IP: Logged |
Randall
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posted July 04, 2020 03:04 PM
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