posted July 30, 2020 08:58 PM            

Here is our story:
Last fall I met someone through work (while out of town for 4 weeks) that I instantly had a connection with. He felt like home to me. Like someone I had known all my life. Every interaction between us was very romantic. He’d help me get out of the van, opened doors for me and went out of the way to help me whenever I needed anything. I could sense there was something between us whenever I saw him look at me. Long story short, we ended up staying in the same hotel room a total of 4 nights during our stay. He made me feel loved. He said and did all the things I always dreamt about. For the first time in a very long time I actually felt appreciated for who I was. Well, our work project ended and we parted ways for about 3 weeks, then we got another assignment were we met again but this time it was slightly different since we were back in our hometown. He still acted very caring around me and if people actually paid attention they probably knew what was going on between us. Anyways, it turned out he was engaged (!) to someone else which I didn’t know. The last evening the whole crew went out for drinks and I went as well and sat next to him and it wasn’t because I wanted anything from him, I just couldn’t stand the thought that I would maybe never see him again. I just wanted to spend a little more time with him..and I probably should have left when he started talking about his fiancé but I didn’t and it all just made me feel even more stupid. We were the last to leave and I don’t even remember what I said but he said he was tired and needed to leave and he hugged me goodbye. Well, by now they are married and now he is stalking me on every single social media platform possible and liking every single one of my posts. And I don’t see it in our Synastry.

Can someone explain what aspects would make him do that and if there ever was a chance for us.. Anything significant I don’t see? Soulmate? Twin flame? Star crossed Lovers? Maybe I am just crazy?

Here is our Synastry:
[img]https://ibb.co/2Fs89YR[/img]

And Compsoite:
[img]https://ibb.co/mhqXTqq[/img]

posted July 30, 2020 10:34 PM            

So, your Vertex is conjunct his moon, which likely explains the "feels like home" stuff. That's an aspect that can feel very fated as well, and is likely very pleasant for both of you.

I don't understand Vesta honestly but maybe someone else could explain that Vesta/Mars conj? Seems intense.

Anyway, while his moon might bring a great sense of comfort to you, your moon is making hard aspects to his Sun, Jupiter, and Uranus, which would all be pretty unpleasant emotionally, but still lead to attraction. The Uranus square in particular can lead to exactly the situation you're describing, and I'd say it's likely made a lot worse by falling in your 7H. And perhaps the orb is particularly small?

The only positive aspect for your moon is to his Mars which is an instinctual and sexually charged aspect that could be great with other happy moon aspects but likely just makes things harder for you because of those harsh ones.

posted July 31, 2020 12:27 AM            

for the pics to show you have to take the "s" off the http.

posted July 31, 2020 01:04 AM            

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Originally posted by Stoika7:
Hi sidneyprescott,

for the pics to show you have to take the "s" off the http.

I'm looking at Composite. My take is that since Eros is opposite Sun and square to Saturn, he was (is?) genuinely infatuated or even in love with you, but since Saturn is conjunct Vertex and square to Sun/Venus, he likely wasnt allowed to establish a stable relationship, even though the pull, attraction and somehow "fated" bond was felt so intensely.
Unfortunately Neptune is square to the Nodes/IC/MC, this is strong and fated sign of parting ways and unattainable love.
Mars is trine to Chiron and Pluto, and quincunx to Mercury/South Node, with Uranus square to the Mercury/Venus midpoint, so this suggests that you're not delusional, he's actually following you as much as he can on the virtual dimension, and this is the only way he feels to be allowed to express his affection to you.

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Is Saturn conjuct vertex a bad aspect in composite?

posted July 31, 2020 01:55 AM            

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Originally posted by Stoika7:
Nope, but in this case the conjunction is square to Sun/Venus, so in this case suggests a block.

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posted August 01, 2020 12:01 AM            

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Originally posted by fennelstar:
I have a couple observations on the moons if nothing else.

So, your Vertex is conjunct his moon, which likely explains the "feels like home" stuff. That's an aspect that can feel very fated as well, and is likely very pleasant for both of you.

I don't understand Vesta honestly but maybe someone else could explain that Vesta/Mars conj? Seems intense.

Anyway, while his moon might bring a great sense of comfort to you, your moon is making hard aspects to his Sun, Jupiter, and Uranus, which would all be pretty unpleasant emotionally, but still lead to attraction. The Uranus square in particular can lead to exactly the situation you're describing, and I'd say it's likely made a lot worse by falling in your 7H. And perhaps the orb is particularly small?

The only positive aspect for your moon is to his Mars which is an instinctual and sexually charged aspect that could be great with other happy moon aspects but likely just makes things harder for you because of those harsh ones.

So yes, as you're well aware, your poor moon is really not happy in his chart, unfortunately. I know the pull you're suffering from, it really sucks.

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posted August 01, 2020 12:06 AM            

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Originally posted by Stoika7:
Hi sidneyprescott,

for the pics to show you have to take the "s" off the http.

I'm looking at Composite. My take is that since Eros is opposite Sun and square to Saturn, he was (is?) genuinely infatuated or even in love with you, but since Saturn is conjunct Vertex and square to Sun/Venus, he likely wasnt allowed to establish a stable relationship, even though the pull, attraction and somehow "fated" bond was felt so intensely.
Unfortunately Neptune is square to the Nodes/IC/MC, this is strong and fated sign of parting ways and unattainable love.
Mars is trine to Chiron and Pluto, and quincunx to Mercury/South Node, with Uranus square to the Mercury/Venus midpoint, so this suggests that you're not delusional, he's actually following you as much as he can on the virtual dimension, and this is the only way he feels to be allowed to express his affection to you.

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