posted November 01, 2020 11:28 AM            

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Originally posted by efaki94:
Because she is his student and she is very good looking
And they have some good aspects in synastry.
I know I'm being jealous but can't handle it.

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posted November 02, 2020 12:10 PM            

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Originally posted by Librapurr:
His Sun opp. Saturn and Venus/mars Virgo conj. Mercury - he won’t leave for a reason to be bored with one person.

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posted November 02, 2020 11:57 PM            

He could be a tinker, taylor, soldier, sailor, spy or the Dalia Lama and you would still be fearful of him meeting someone younger/prettier/sexier/etc.

So ... "if you do not bring out (confront) that (issue) which is within you, will (eventually) destroy this relationship" ... because you will actually push him into having an affair - when he (eventually) decides "might as well be hung for a sheep, rather than a lamb".

Stop being your own worst enemy ... as (like the biblical Jonah) "the thing you fear will come upon you" (and you'll be telling us here that you were "right all along").

posted November 03, 2020 02:05 AM            

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Originally posted by Graham:

You are exploring this on the wrong forum ... because it is a childhood-conditioned natal chart issue of your's, rather than an issue in your relationship.

He could be a tinker, taylor, soldier, sailor, spy or the Dalia Lama and you would still be fearful of him meeting someone younger/prettier/sexier/etc.

So ... "if you do not bring out (confront) that (issue) which is within you, will (eventually) destroy this relationship" ... because you will actually push him into having an affair - when he (eventually) decides "might as well be hung for a sheep, rather than a lamb".

Stop being your own worst enemy ... as (like the biblical Jonah) "the thing you fear will come upon you" (and you'll be telling us here that you were "right all along").

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Graham you are right..as I said before I stopped make arguments with him about it
I stopped searching on Instagram because it s making the things worse.
But I can't control my mind of making scenarios... The more I try not to think about it the more I think it in the end.
I was always that jealous in my relationships so like you said it s my childhood (maybe) issue.

posted November 03, 2020 02:43 AM            

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Originally posted by Hikaru29:
When you're with someone you cannot constantly entertain such jealous feelings. You'll drive him and yourself crazy. That's his job and it's not his fault he has good-looking students. If you over-react what you fear most will happen.

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posted November 03, 2020 08:41 AM            

No one incessantly worries about things they themselves don’t/won’t do.

So, you a cheater or what? What are your values—why are you even tripping? Whatever you *worry* your boyfriend is doing, there is high-chance you’re unconsciously doing these things then projecting your fear/shame onto him. Entertain the idea of other guys much, like even rhetorically, in your head?

Do you even like him? (Apparently not.) This behavior is so disrespectful but maybe there’s already some entirely other reason to not respect him—that you’re ignoring—and it reappears as this nonsense. Um, hello?????

Get some therapy. Stop pushing your problems on him.

If you don’t trust yourself nor him, you shouldn’t be the relationship. On the flip side: if you’re actually with a narcissist and being gaslit all the time causing these psychological issues and destabilization, I repeat, get some therapy!! Either way, you’re playing with fire.

posted November 03, 2020 09:19 AM            

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Originally posted by vansio:
If I were your partner and you were behaving this way towards me, 🚩(red flag) I would actually interpret this deep-seated fear as meaning YOU might eventually cheat on ME. You’re bringing this to our table.

No one incessantly worries about things they themselves don’t/won’t do.

So, you a cheater or what? What are your values—why are you even tripping? Whatever you *worry* your boyfriend is doing, there is high-chance you’re unconsciously doing these things then projecting your fear/shame onto him. Entertain the idea of other guys much, like even rhetorically, in your head?

[b]Do you even like him? (Apparently not.) This behavior is so disrespectful but maybe there’s already some other reason to not respect him, that you’re ignoring, and it reappears as this nonsense. Um, hello?????

Get some therapy. Stop pushing your problems on him.[/B]

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posted November 03, 2020 09:52 AM            

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Originally posted by MMarie:
Hi Efaki,

Maybe there are other things coming into play here. It is possible being unemployed has caused some self esteem issues? I know when recently I was out of a job I did not feel as good about myself as I usually do. And had more time to fuss about unnecessary things due to boredom. Don’t underestimate being bored! I’m not saying it is solely this, but it could be even him having a new job which is triggering other emotions in you.

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MMarie thanks for the response
The truth is that I have one year now unemployed
I just started searching for a job again
But till now it's true I have self esteem issues
I'm sure I ll feel better if I find a job.
I ll be jealous for sure but I wont have time to think so much about it.

posted November 04, 2020 04:43 AM            

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Originally posted by Sauerkraut:
why are you being so toxic to yourself?

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posted November 04, 2020 06:16 AM            

vansio made very valid points. tell me, are you okay if he thinks about other girls the way you think about other boys?

posted November 08, 2020 02:30 PM            

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Originally posted by Librapurr:
If you check charts of all women around him and get jealous about it, you gonna go insane. You could find the signs of attraction with many people around. Also, you can see stories on this forum where nothing happens with the strong affection in charts. You shouldn’t use astrology this way.

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posted November 10, 2020 04:34 AM            

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Originally posted by efaki94:

Librapurr
I know
I do this everytime
Because in my head I think everyone
Likes him in a romantic way.
Thanks for you response

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You either trust HIM, or you do not. ... And, if you do not (or cannot) trust him, this relationship cannot last.

Do whatever is required to sort out YOUR issue of being unable to trust romantic partners. ... THAT (and only that) will prevent your insecurity from (eventually) driving him into a relationship with someone else.

So ... whenever you are pointing the finger of accusation at him ... take note of the three fingers that are pointing back at you, and focus upon sorting out your own issues.

[Perhaps the starting point is to ask yourself why you get comfort/psychological-reward from beating yourself up about the possibility of him being unfaithful.}