posted December 17, 2020 12:36 PM            

Would like to see if this is heading for platonic friendship or something more?

I know basics of natal chart readings and I know that I have natal venus-pluto-neptune connections that give me ultra dose of 'tinted rose glasses' as well as obsessive streaks in terms of relationships..so I have decided to not blabber unnecessarily about how I am feeling about this even though it has just been a month.. and want to let the more experienced ones here take a look at these charts

I am a complete noob at understanding synastries, composites, davisons, so just call it as you see it, appreciate the honesty most of all

This is SYNASTRY

This is COMPOSITE MID POINT METHOD

This is DAVISON UNCORRECTED

posted December 24, 2020 03:27 PM            

I wouldn't say I am experienced but hopefully I can help you out here.

With your natal 8th house stellium (assuming you're the blue), your saturn in their 8th in synastry, composite jupiter in 8th and pluto in scorpio in 7h all add to the intensity and obsessiveness of this relationship.

My advice from one obsessive lover to another, remember to be realistic, no matter how hard it may be. Be practical and do what will work the best for both of you.

Idk much about Davidson charts so I don't look at them.

So let's see what else:

I'm seeing a lot of friendship placements in your charts with composite venus in 11th house. Their sun, mercury and moon cusping the 11th and 12th house and your mars in their 11th house I would say those are very nice placements for a nice friendship. Their Jupiter in your 6th suggests they may make your daily routine fun (you may like talking to them every day) but with Jupiter square Jupiter, there may be a difference in beliefs or interests. And with their venus squaring your Jupiter, this may be an issue. I personally don't like venus in the 12th, their love is subdued.

With double whammy pluto in 7th and in composite, the relationship is transformative indefinitely. With it trining Venus in composite, it is a mutual possessiveness of each other and you may be intense friends.

Sun square mars though tightly conjunct ascendant is something I don't like, arguing is common but with mars in the 12th, there is pent up aggression.

With venus conjunct nn, the relationship seems fated from the start.

For a long term romantic situation, I don't see anything here personally. With Juno (commitment) square pluto, I feel the relationship will be consuming. There will be power struggles especially with mercury square pluto maybe with idea of career and with the sun in the 10th house of reputation etc. I think I have this aspect with an ex and it's a relationship you won't forget, most likely for worse but it is what it is.

posted December 25, 2020 09:53 AM            

I am glad to bump into another 'obsessive lover'...life is tough for us innit I mean, I can go months without thinking about someone and then I will cross paths with someone and thats all I will think about for next couple of months. And I am not an expert in astrology but I know I have some troublesome natal placements that give me the obsessive streak about everything. Freaking everything. I like a movie, I will watch it 10000 times. I like a song, I will listen to it on loop for a million times. I like a person, wellllllll you get the drift. And I have no clue what to do about this. How do you tame this complusive obsessive streak in your mind??? I know we are all on this planet to learn lessons but what the f is my lesson.

And you know the funny part, it is not even that I have had the fantasy of being in some grand relationship...like if you had met me as a child I would have been all 'relationships are stupid, better study, get a career, earn money, die' and I can totally do that. But I feel like every 4-5 years fate pushes someone in my path and then just when I get in a comfort zone of 'maybe this is it', the rug is pulled from under my feet I don't even go out seeking relationships, I meet men in the strangest of circumstances out of the blue, so in a sense all my encounters seem 'fated' and then a few months down the line, BAM, its over

So that's why I put this up here...because I am fed up of feeling like a loser when it comes to relationships and I want to have a chat with fate, like why are you making me meet these guys if nothing is going to happen long term.

(rant over. sorry)

Well, I AM the inner in synastry and he IS subdued. I dont know what is happening in his mind. He is closed off..not in a bad way, just he is the quietest person around, one who has the uncanny ability to meld in the background. But he is also funny and kind and yes we both love to laugh and we laugh together a lot. A LOT.

But we do come from very different backgrounds-financially, socially, completely completely different. So maybe thats what you saw in the jupiter venus square *sigh* What took me by surprise was the intense physical attraction we have for each other which is weird since off the top, we are not each other's types (that feels like such a phony thing to say but its true).

We both are sort of intensely possessive about each other...I just explained about my obsessiveness, I dont know about him but I feel like he is obsessed with me too...so that is probably the venus trine pluto thing you talked about. The fated part that you mentioned-venus conjunct nn-what does that entail? I mean, I put these charts up here because the intensity of our relationship took me by surprise and it did seem fated to me, so hearing you say that also validates my feeling So what does that mean, and how does that usually work out?

posted December 25, 2020 11:36 AM            

And yeah that totally different element is so potent in your charts man like major but with it in the 8th house and with your strong Scorpic and 8th house elements even in the composite, that will remain potent as hell.

Tbh with the not being each other's types I feel like it's the differing backgrounds more than physical attraction because your venuses are aspected quite well (the ones that are aspected because there are not many aspects). Your venus trines his mercury so you like talking to him and how he talks.

With these encounters, I have had many (many) short encounters and I often find myself thinking the same but I just realise that these are lessons for me to take. Reflect on all your situations and think about your lessons. I often find myself in similar situations when I haven't grasped that lesson ygm.

Gosh I want to know moreee, please keep updating because we're quite similar.

posted December 25, 2020 03:23 PM            

Yeah I guess the differing backgrounds do bring a spark, I never met anyone like him, so it is probably responsible for all the intense attraction for now.

You know I keep thinking about why and how we have met so suddenly and developed feelings like this...and we had met very briefly 4 years ago but at that time it was just a glance and look away but not this time.