posted January 16, 2021 03:11 PM
This happens to me often because I have a stellium. In general I feel like I am more impacted as the planet person.My stellium (Sun, Moon, Mercury, Venus) fell in two people's 12th houses that each had a big impact in my life. Everything on this website resonates with me about one of them in particular. Overall, deep unconscious unsettling stuff. An unwanted obsession!
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The Sun person sees the house person as exotic, fascinating, and even other-worldly or strange. You have a strange fascination with the house person that you can’t quite understand since the house person seems so different from you... You (the Sun person) are attracted to the house person almost against your good judgment. The house person is a mystery to you. You can’t read them, you can’t understand the way they think. You find them unpredictable. You think they don’t understand you, nor approve of you.
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If your Venus is in your partner’s 12th house of a synastry overlay, you find yourself deeply moved in strange ways by the house person. For example, you may not be a needy person, but you find yourself being very needy or vulnerable around the house person.
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Because you’re sensing so much, you may feel overwhelmed around your partner... Depending on your partner’s individual preference, they may or may not be comfortable with your ability to peer right into their subconscious. Your partner can, obviously, feel violated. This would compel them to act in a self-protective way.
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Instead of love, this overlay can breed paranoia. Even if there is an initial attraction between you, this overlay can make you unsure of each other.
I also had this with my long-term high school sweetheart. I was definitely jealous, paranoid, and obsessive, but it wasn't as painful for me. I think that's because at the same time, he had a stellium fall mostly in my 6th house, which "balanced" the 12th house stellium.
It's weird because I would expect the house person to be the one affected, but it seems to vary. In both cases I was the obsessive and addicted one. It's like all my energy (planets) were concentrated on a deep unconscious and unwanted obsession (12th house) about these people.
However, I will say that my high school sweetheart clung to me more than I ever thought he would (as a Sag sun Aqua moon), and we remain close. The other person also seems to feel an unacknowledged connection with me that prevents us from letting go of one another, but as a Cancer sun and moon he's much more guarded and tight-lipped about his feelings.
With my partner, my stellium falls, more happily, in his 5th house. We have a lot of fun together, we can be childlike together, and he dreamed of me for the two years between our first meeting and when we finally saw each other again and got together.
Edit: I also had a huge crush on someone and my stellium fell across his 8th and 9th houses. It was a very cerebral fascination and came through reading his books (9th house and publishing!). I've read that the planet person "lights up" the relevant house for the other person, but I've found it's the opposite. It's awful, I wish someone would be obsessed with me for once! lol! Instead it just leads to me feeling heartbroken and pathetic. I end up stuck with an unwanted obsession that intrudes into my daily life. It's like I become addicted to these people - to wanting to know them in ways I can't (12th house), to reading their work (9th house), to having lighthearted fun (5th house). At least I have settled down with this last one!
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