posted January 19, 2021 08:06 AM            

I just had one of the most intense relationships of my life through November-December 2020. Just 2 months (it is over now) but felt like whooooooooo, you know?!

And we had some pretty explosive aspects in synastry as well as composite. Stoika and Todd very kindly read our charts out too, we had some troublesome saturn-chiron and uranus aspects that lent it the whole here-today-gone-tomorrow character but it started off with a bang and these were some of the aspects we had-

My MARS SEXTILE his ASCENDANT
My MOON SEXTILE his MARS

These were both in synastry and then in COMPOSITE,we had-

MOON CONJUNCT MARS
MARS CONJUNCT ASCENDANT
MOON CONJUNCT ASCENDANT

And then there were some other sun,moon, venus, mercury, jupiter, juno, vertex connections...

So anyway, we had met very veryyyyyyy briefly about 4 years ago but nothing happened then since he was with someone else. Then we just met out of the blue in November 2020, he is an actor and it was just like a lightning bolt to my heart. It was very very very surprising to me to feel this way for anyone, and it escalated pretty quickly for me. And then I found out he felt the same way.

We are very different people who come from different backgrounds, have different ambitions, are going on different paths...but we were very aggressively attracted to each other. I believe it was because of the mars and moon connections. Because I don't think sun-venus or saturn-jupiter mercury connections give this kind of intensity.

I am talking about rip-your-clothes-off kind of intensity and yup, unbelievable sexual attraction. And it went both ways. I saw my perfect man in him and I think because of my moon and his mars connection, he also found me very soft and attractive. It was explosive and aggressive. We are also both sort of hotheads, he a bit more than me, so we never had any arguments, but we would discuss something and really get high-strung over it...like not really arguing with each other but also being very aggressive and pushy, I suppose I was a bit more aggressive while talking than him in some ways while he was a bit more aggressive in other ways. Again, I think it must be due to mars.

posted January 19, 2021 08:41 AM            

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Originally posted by mee_chryssa:
I have it with his Mars conjunct my ASC, Jupiter, South Node, Chiron, and opposite Juno. His Moon and Juno is also conjunct my ASC.
Seems like too much martian energy - maybe is sexually and aggressive energy which could involve past life or childhood exposing of aggressive patterns or lack of assertiveness, being in Cancer, with the South Node and Chiron, and Jupiter expands all this, but it's not always a good sign, I suppose. I guess I will feel kind of attacked by him meanwhile he will feel attracted to me. Encouraging his drive, but also revealing some bad patterns.
Do you have a different view on this?

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I've never felt attacked by him in 2 years together and a previous 5 years of friendship. The sexual attraction is, however, off the charts. The conjunction is in Libra. We have argued occasionally and there wasn't even a raised voice, but this is probably more down to natal factors in how we express ourselves. I'm Libra rising (I can get shouty with Mars there, but it takes a lot with Saturn there) and he is Virgo rising.

posted January 19, 2021 03:50 PM            

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Originally posted by Travelman:
No, but I have my Mars opposite my gfs ASC with 2-degree orb and my ASC sextile her mars 4 degree orb.

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posted January 20, 2021 08:20 AM            

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Originally posted by mee_chryssa:
lovelyricha1, I might have read the thread. Is the one with ASC square Neptune that is an actor?
You didn't have some Saturn or Juno aspects?
The Moon/ASC conjunction is a pretty good aspect to have in synastry. I had it with my ex bf and now with this guy. We kind of get along well, even if he gets the hatred from other people often. He is kind of authoritarian, but to me he wasn't.

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Yup that's the one His natal neptune square his venus/ascendant. My dream man *sigh*

We had these saturn and juno aspects in synastry-
SATURN TRINE MERCURY
SATURN SQUARE CHIRON
JUNO SQUARE JUNO
JUNO OPPOSITION MOON

and in composite-
SATURN SEXTILE NORTH NODE
SATURN CONJUNCT URANUS
SATURN CONJUNCT NEPTUNE
JUNO TRINE MOON
JUNO SQUARE PLUTO

So I guess we did not have enough of binding aspects but mars-ascendant, moon-ascendant and mars-moon aspects sure gave it an unbelievably high strung sexual aspect which I think I won't be forgetting anytime soon. Also, we had Venus conjunct north node in composite which I believe is trademark for lovers so that tooo...

posted January 20, 2021 10:11 AM            

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Originally posted by mee_chryssa:
Thank you for your response on this!
I have it with my sister too, but I don't know how it would play out with a friend. I usually find Mars in hard aspect in any synastry chart I do with the people around me and I find them difficult to handle. Rarely I am the Mars and when I am is so frustrating. I guess I haven't learned how to control my drive.
My sister and I were fighting a lot when we were young, now we kind of learned how to treat each other and is a life long journey to separate this aspect since we have Mars conjunct South Node Dw. We also have North Node in 7th house in composite.

Voix, I guess you didn't find in your relationship the difficult traits of Mars in conjunct to Pluto/Saturn.

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Not yet anyway. It may be OK, as my partner has Scorpio Moon and Virgo Venus cj. Pluto. So he has some understanding of water and earth energies on the emotional and relational levels. But time will tell, I guess.

posted January 22, 2021 06:55 AM            

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Originally posted by mee_chryssa:
I seem to get the conjunction from Mars to all the planets or points in synastry a lot and I can't say I enjoy them. I don't like the rush or aggressiveness that comes with it, but seeing you enjoying it, I don't know what to say... I had with a guy Venus conjunct Mars within a degree DW and the attraction was that crazy that I had no control over it.

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Well in my case, his Mars is cj. my Mars, so there's an affinity there and an energetic match. If anything, I would hazard that he may at times find me a bit intense, as he is receiving my Saturn and Pluto along with my Mars. Could it maybe be that your Mars (Venus or Moon) needs more delicate handling than Mars can provide?

posted January 22, 2021 01:02 PM            

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Originally posted by mee_chryssa:
has anyone experienced mars conjunct ascendant in synastry?

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posted January 22, 2021 02:35 PM            

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Originally posted by anska5:
Yes, I had my mars conjunct my boyfriend's ascendant during University. It's difficult to determine what was due to that aspect and what was caused by all the other uncomfortable aspects. My mars was also opposite his saturn and his mars was in my 8th house. His mars was conjunct my venus. Also lots of squares, he was a triple aries, me a triple capricorn. It's difficult to describe the connection. I liked him, but was never in love. At the same time I was devestated when it ended.
I think the mars conjunct ascendant and other mars activitiy showed itself in that I was very combative with him. On the one hand strong sexual attraction and an almost obsessive relationship, at the same time repulsion (from my side). But this may have had more to do with all the pluto action going on. His sun, mercury and venus was opposite my pluto, his pluto was conjunct my moon. Not a healthy relationship to say the least.

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posted January 22, 2021 04:50 PM            

I was researching this synastry aspect a few days ago! I was frustrated by a particular friend who's Mars conjunct my ASC less than 2 degrees.

In our synastry, His Mars square Saturn/Jupiter. My Asc square Sun, oppose Neptune, trine Pluto, trine Jupiter.
So his Mars is contacted by the Planets in my chart and his Saturn/Jupiter oppose my Sun. I've also receiving his Saturnian energy. Jupiter not so much positive feeling but the feeling of overbearing kind.

I'm going to jump right in, I don't like this at all!!! At first it was okay but over time I feel he is stepping over my boundaries. He's a bit too touchy even when I was dating someone. I would try to step away but he comes closer. Now that I am single, he would guilt trip me for not going on a trip with him, I think it's because Mars is in Cancer and rules the emotions and using emotions as a way to persuade me. He admittingly said he was selfish, which made me uncomfortable like he was okay with his actions. He tried several sneaky attempts to get me to hang out but I didn't fall for any of it.

I don't think I have the healthiest friendship with him because his Mars square Saturn. There are times he would be mean towards me and criticized or judge me and would make passive aggressive statements. I would cry about it. I am not sure why I didn't stand up for myself. There were other things he had done, I am considering cutting my ties with him but I can't because he has my money. :\

I also had Mars conjunct Asc (me) with a female friend before, I also cut ties with her because it became one sided. She would try to push me to hang out with her when I clearly refused and it took a lot for her to stop. They both have Leo moon, I think that may play a part in the demanding.

posted January 22, 2021 05:11 PM            

I know how it feels like.
I know that Mars can bring some attraction, but it is best used in easy aspect, I think. I tend to attract them like crazy because my mother has her Mars conjunct my Sun. I don't know if you ever had it in your charts, but it is an impossible aspect. The people involved will become aggressive with each other, competitive and pushy, like you said, more on the Mars person and the Sun person becomes the one that is kind of abused, in a way, lack a boundaries or not considering boundaries. And there's no "cure" for it. I just had to stop the relationships with this people or keep them away from me.

I had it with my Sun, Venus, Mars, ASC, IC.

With this guy I have it in Cancer too and I also have it with my sister.

posted January 22, 2021 05:49 PM            

I see it a lot in synastry with friends and coworkers and even my boss. It's not always sexual, but it is like a magnet. I like the energy personally, but it then trines my sun and aspects my moon.

posted January 22, 2021 06:49 PM            

Sorry to hear you're going through this as well. I don't think it's easy either - pretty stressful isn't it? I once had someone's Capricorn square my Venus, I didn't like it either. She was rather pushy too but luckily I don't sit next to her or work with her. The more I became sensitive the more rude and annoyed she got. She tried to place dominance too.

I notice we have something in common - your SN conjunct ASC.. and my Moon (chart ruler) conjunct SN. Do you think SN plays a part?

Then again I do have poor experience with people being aggressive(Mars) towards me. My mother was a bit.. aggressive and easily upset. I wonder if it's from the experience you were exposed to in your family and when you picked up on these energy, unconsciously it triggers something in us and perhaps feeling tense - this is how I would feel when there are Mars harsh aspect to my ASC, Sun, Venus, Moon/Node and IC. I think we share similar experiences mee_chryssa.

I think I prefer softer Mars aspect. I had Mars sextile my ASC with a guy and there was immediate attraction. He was assertive in the right amount for me and respectful.

Also the relationships I cherish are ones with no harsh Mars aspects. It could be my Moon Libra oppose Venus. Also my dad comes off rather Venusian.

posted January 23, 2021 04:25 AM            

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mee_chryssa oh wow, i just read your post on the top - sometimes I miss posts and my brain is all over the place.

Sorry to hear you're going through this as well. I don't think it's easy either - pretty stressful isn't it? I once had someone's Capricorn square my Venus, I didn't like it either. She was rather pushy too but luckily I don't sit next to her or work with her. The more I became sensitive the more rude and annoyed she got. She tried to place dominance too.

I notice we have something in common - your SN conjunct ASC.. and my Moon (chart ruler) conjunct SN. Do you think SN plays a part?

Then again I do have poor experience with people being aggressive(Mars) towards me. My mother was a bit.. aggressive and easily upset. I wonder if it's from the experience you were exposed to in your family and when you picked up on these energy, unconsciously it triggers something in us and perhaps feeling tense - this is how I would feel when there are Mars harsh aspect to my ASC, Sun, Venus, Moon/Node and IC. I think we share similar experiences mee_chryssa.

I think I prefer softer Mars aspect. I had Mars sextile my ASC with a guy and there was immediate attraction. He was assertive in the right amount for me and respectful.

Also the relationships I cherish are ones with no harsh Mars aspects. It could be my Moon Libra oppose Venus. Also my dad comes off rather Venusian.

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Yeah, we attract the energy we were used to in our childhood. I tend to be attracted to people that I share Pisces placements in composites or Gemini placements, because of my mother and father, also with my North Node in Capricorn. But mostly I have Pisces Venus with people and I tend to like them more when it "falls" like that.
I also have Chiron on the South Node. )) I think this is both good and bad.

posted January 23, 2021 04:40 AM            

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Originally posted by StoneMoon:
I have this often. I have had it with lovers twice, and it was a very different experience with each. In fact, they were born only two weeks apart so the charts were very similar, and yet the outcome very different. One was completely passive partner, the other the very assertive dominant partner.

I see it a lot in synastry with friends and coworkers and even my boss. It's not always sexual, but it is like a magnet. I like the energy personally, but it then trines my sun and aspects my moon.

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Yeah, I guess with other easy aspects it can be quite good.

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Originally posted by StoneMoon:

I am not aware of any synastry where I was the Mars on their ASC. I think I prefer them being the suitor, rather than me.

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posted January 23, 2021 09:25 AM            

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Originally posted by StoneMoon:
@mee_chrysa.... I don't know about your chart, but I have Scorpio as ASC and Pluto themes throughout... I also have Mars in aspect to Sun, Moon, and Jupiter...

so perhaps that's why I tend to invite Martian energy in to my life? As opposed to me being the Martian energy for someone else?

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