posted April 02, 2021 02:06 PM            

Im coming here for help.

We have a big argument between my long term partner and me around a week ago, since then, we haven't talked at all. I have been trying to reach him out because I feel in some way it was my fault and I hurted him, he is a very sensitive person but also a very closed person. We have been together for almost a decade.

I wonder if is possible to see a reconciliation between us? I know it was my mistake but I think we can make it out.

I will post our charts with transits.

SYNASTRY

COMPOSITE

I checked we have saturn transiting our 7th house and Im very scared with that, also the transit chiron is squaring to composite saturn and pluto.

Any help would be very much appreacciated, we love deeply but sometimes when there a fights things can get quite rocky between us, I feel like something is missing with me when I have this kind of arguments. I can keep going with things but it's just I deeply care and want to get old with him. you know? hahaha I just hate when this kind of situations happen between us.

posted April 02, 2021 06:18 PM            

Sorry to hear about your breakup

These are things I notice -

Your Mars opposite his Neptune - he may feel you have the upper hand in arguments, like he bruises more easily than you, or is more sensitive in the areas which are activated in you both when you fight, so I wonder if he may become extra secretive/withdrawn, to try & regain some sense of control in himself?

I also use progressed synastry, here is what I notice:
His progressed Sun, opposite your natal Moon-Venus conjunction, on the cusp of Pisces/Aries, forming a T-square with his natal Neptune & your natal Mars -

The progressed Sun-natal Venus opposition doesn’t signify the absence of attraction, far from it, but I wonder if your breakup is partly a manifestation of an inner tension or confusion within him, as he may be desiring to take more of an active or responsible role in your relationship, but doesn’t know how how to initiate this change in your dynamic? Maybe he is even unconsciously testing your boundaries to see if you will respond well to him being more direct & assertive?

posted April 02, 2021 07:30 PM            

OMG, yes! He becomes extra secretive when we have an argument, like he just dissapear and make me wonder what is going on and make me feel like looking and looking just because probably he wants to regain control. I never have seen it in that way, how do you think I can help him to not feel that way?

What do you mean with doesn’t signify the absence of attraction? I’m sorry, my English sometimes isn’t very good.

You are so right, like sometimes I feel he push my boundaries and I don’t really respond well, like probably I make drama or start thinking about random things that aren’t even real lol Damn, i hate insecurities . Honestly I love when he takes charge lol, and when he is responsible, and probably he does love that, but maybe he doesn’t feel that way and I’m not happy about it but in the last months the things are complicated because he isn’t having a good time, he is having his nodal return and I’m always there for him.

Pd: we didn’t have a formal break up, it’s like i pushed him to talk and decide but he just hasn’t answered at all. So I’m not really sure if he is thinking what to say, fixing his life, I don’t really know, or if we absolutely have a break up. It wasn’t something like oh lets have space or lets break this. Haha, that’s why im so anxious. Isn’t the first time this happens, it’s been like 2 or 3 times during our relationship that he just dissapear haha, isn’t like I hate that, but I just hate not to be sure what is going on with his mind. It’s kind of crazy

posted April 02, 2021 07:47 PM            

Maybe you can show him you understand things are hard for him right now, but also show you enjoy it when he takes the lead, & you could work on not being too insecure when he gets it wrong or doesn’t do it exactly right, so then he is comfortable learning with you

if he feels he cannot learn about taking the lead with you without feeling embarrassed, he will be afraid of making a mistake, feel frustrated & give up, & not be there when you need comforting you can be the one place he feels good about himself, confident & worthy of praise when everything else is hard

posted April 04, 2021 12:20 PM            

I don’t know if you notice Saturn Conjunt the DC, isn’t this some serious aspect?

In addition to what you said, I must said isn’t the first time like a break up in communication happens like in an abrupt way. I have been feeling Uranus and Saturn opposite and squaring Mercury in our composite for a while, and I have been checking and that transits are going to last for a while. I just decide to not look for him, I have been trying to look for him without success, the thing is that we didn’t absolutely break up, that’s why I’m so clueless about it. It’s been a week.

posted April 07, 2021 12:00 PM            

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Originally posted by Stoika7:
Hi dear maleja.rangel!

The Mercury/Uranus midpoint is conjunct Jupiter square Mars... this can give such abrupt communication and issue, with difficult compromise when it happens...
Transiting Saturn in 7th house, especially in Aquarius, may bring distance and isolation... but doesn't necessarily mean break up. In the context of your Composite and current transits, it looks more like a burden, the square to Mercury is quite harsh at communication level... I think you will talk again as Saturn leaves this square.

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Oh wow, pretty accurated.

So probably will we talk again until next year????

Saturn will leave this square at the end of the year, probably more time so thats probably a pretty much break up hahaha. :S

Been trying to contact him with any success.

Thank you Stoika.