posted April 12, 2021 11:08 PM            

UPDATE #2: Hi everyone. I haven't seen Todd very active on this board lately. Has anyone heard from him at all? I'm worried

Anyway, can someone look at the below charts and let me know if this will be a good working relationship between us? Or any other insights you might have? Again, should I be worried about anything? Thank you!!!

UPDATE #1: Hi Todd! I don't know if you remember me. I actually got this man's time of birth wrong initially! I will update it here. Can you take a look again at our charts? I did actually agree to start working with him in the last few weeks......I know I said I wouldn't, but I'M TOO NICE. Anyway, things are going okay. I couldn't help but notice that my progressed moon is conjunct his natal Ascendant, and the recent eclipse on June 10th hit this point exactly which is when I decided to start working with him! That's kind of cool! And I also remember an astrologer telling me quite a few months ago that this eclipse would bring on the start of an idyllic friendship. So maybe that is him?? I feel like this relationship will be very meaningful in my life. I don't know if there's too much difference but there seems to be some good 2nd, 6th and 10th house activation which might be good for our working relationship. Thanks Todd, hope you're doing well!

Our new synastry chart (I am red and my name is crossed out in light blue):

Our new composite chart (again my name is crossed out in light blue):

And my progressed chart with transits for June 10th

Composite chart with my coworker and myself. I feel like he's showing interest even though I'm married, he's a lot older and we work together. But maybe I'm imagining it? It feels like I'm not though......

posted April 13, 2021 07:18 PM            

Venus/Juno/list/valentine are square amber/node.
Saturn is conjunct vertex and Lilith.

His will is strong though shadowed now.
Your passions and attraction is unearthly as is his.

This is a karmic situation as the node,vertex and Lilith are all actively creating reactions.
The problem is that anything could happen.we foecescof destiny are pushing your thoughts. ..greatest dreams with possible equal downside.

As it looks,if you act on him then your marriage is likely over.a dream of marriage to your boss is a driving feeling.....
It looks like you will proceed out of the light.

Man I can see this a favorable.mars/Venus midpoint conjunct to Uranus is extremely emotional and sexual but unstable.
Uranus/Venus midpoint is a maddening attraction yet the midpoint is conjunct to pluto which can initially be very carnal but in the end the passions are not nurtured and intimacy never developed
In addition Pluto et al.are square to the Saturn/vertex conjunction.a most dark and constrictive emotional outlook.
You need to reign your imagination in or look for another job.

posted April 13, 2021 09:16 PM            

This man is someone I work with who is older and I feel has been coming on to me for the last couple months. I’ve been very open with my husband about his behavior since day 1. You see, I work as an assistant for a few realtors and he recently asked me to start helping him out with his paperwork as well so we will be working a lot more closely. This is the reason I posted our composite. I wanted to see how our working relationship would play out. My husband does not want me to start working directly with him and I don’t know what to do.

What do you mean our passions/attraction is unearthly? I'm sorry, I'm dense sometimes. You say there is maddening attraction - is that on his end? I am not attracted to him apart from feeling emotionally close to him, like a very comfortable warm feeling. Basically, I feel a very paternal feeling like I wish he was my dad. I even wanted to set him up with my mother who is single. I do not dream about a marriage with him and he is not my boss. My husband is more successful than him - it would be a serious downgrade for me in more ways than one if I'm being brutally honest. I most certainly do not want to be with him or leave my husband and daughter for him. No no no. And this is NOT the reason why I posted my multi composite family chart. That is a totally separate thing - mainly I wanted to see how we function as a family. I have been wanting out of my marriage, yes, but not because of him!! It’s been very rocky for the last few years and I’m craving a fresh start. I'm also in love currently with another man but I have finally accepted I will never have him, and again, this is NOT that man. I am not trying to sound rude or defensive, I just want to be very clear how I feel here LOL!!

Are you saying this will not be a good working relationship? How will it be disastrous, like due to what? We seem to get along very well personality wise and he is always showing concern towards me.

The composite chart shows I will want to leave my daughter and husband!?

His will is strong though shadowed now?? What does that mean? He has a strong desire for me that he is hiding currently?

I guess I don’t feel any kind of “destined” feeling at all, just a good friend who’s attention towards me has started to change. Does he feel the destiny part?

I need to look for another job?? Why - do you think he will attempt something with me??

What do you mean I will proceed out of the light?

I'm sorry for all the questions but I finally found my dream job after decades of crappy experiences and I'm so happy, I don't want to leave. That would be very upsetting to me to have to leave this job. How do you think he would respond if I politely declined to work for him? Can we continue to work in the same office together long term?

posted April 13, 2021 09:52 PM            

Also you said in the composite “Saturn is conjunct vertex and Lilith.” Did you mean Saturn is conjunct vertex and moon conjunct Lilith?

posted April 15, 2021 05:36 PM            

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Originally posted by AmberMoon:
Composite chart with my coworker and myself. I feel like he's showing interest even though I'm married, he's a lot older and we work together. But maybe I'm imagining it? It feels like I'm not though......

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I'd have to as you seem mixed up.the above words can be construed very differently from your reaction to my response.

Anyway everything stands.it seems you are not in tune with your words and expectations.

You are putting out mixed signals in this post and I have to assume you have put out mixed signals to your boss.

posted April 15, 2021 07:52 PM            

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Originally posted by todd:
I'd have to as you seem mixed up.the above words can be construed very differently from your reaction to my response.

Anyway everything stands.it seems you are not in tune with your words and expectations.

You are putting out mixed signals in this post and I have to assume you have put out mixed signals to your boss.

All I can say is stop your imagination and set to work to become a integral member of your workplace.stand on your accomplishments and forget about emotional compatibility with your boss.
(Sorry for my many word errors,i use a phone,and don't run checks myself enough)

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Todd, that's quite a hefty accusation to throw at me that I'm giving him mixed signals and is a little hurtful if I'm being honest. Nowhere in my original post did I say I was interested or wanted him. That was your assumption. Please show me other examples of how I am putting out mixed signals. I have said right from the start that I am not romantically interested in this man and see him as only a good friend/coworker, and just became worried because he has started to change his behavior towards me - trying to get me alone, wanting to take me out for drinks, standing and talking too close to me, excessively asking about my husband's whereabouts - and now wants me to start assisting him as well. I even said I am willing to decline to work directly with him if there is any interest on his side. Are you saying that I'm imagining everything?? If you are, then GOOD! I hope and pray that you're right, that I'm imagining it, and that he's just a really really nice guy. I don't want to be put in that position or have to deal with unwanted advances in the workplace. I've got enough sh*t going on in my life right now. Only, I wouldn't necessarily label it "imagining," but more being "hyper vigilant."

I didn't mention it at first because it's difficult to talk about, but I have been sexually harassed and nearly sexually assaulted in the workplace before. I'm SCARED, Todd. It took me a while to recover and trust again after that - and now that I've found a career/job I love FINALLY, I need to know if this could potentially happen again and if I should be alarmed and keep my distance. I didn't have the luxury of having knowledge of astrology and synastry back then, but I do now and will use it to my advantage.

My reaction to your response was shock and confusion, pure and simple. You made some pretty bold statements. I wasn’t angry, and just wanted some clarification. I think our problem Todd is that we have very VERY different communication styles, which is fine. I am a very direct, clear, concrete and linear thinker/communicator. I don't like to try to decipher what I feel are ambiguous or unclear statements - it drives me nuts (Scorpio Mercury 6th house). That's why I asked you to clarify yourself a little. Your response left me with more questions than answers, I'm sorry to have to say that. I appreciate that you took time to respond to me, I really do. The only thing I'm mixed up about is the way you communicate - again, I'm not throwing shade, we are just 2 different people. But you seem to get mixed up as well. Nowhere in my post did I say he's my boss. I said COWORKER and even corrected you when you called him my boss, but you continue to call him my boss. I think it would benefit you to stop assuming so much, and just work with the information you're given. Your assumptions have all been dead wrong and hurtful in this case.

I am already an integral member in our workplace and I have a very good work ethic and am well respected, and I have a lot of goals and dreams for my future. That's the second reason why I'm worried and scared. I don't want to have to start over AGAIN after all the work I've put in. Been there, done that, not fun. I don't need or want any advice on my work ethic from you.

I also don't want to be psychoanalyzed when I'm clearly asking about somebody else. You probably missed the thread where someone tried to do that, and I unloaded on them. My question was if my coworker has the potential to be interested in more than a coworker/friend relationship with me. I need to know if I should be worried about a possible harassment situation. That's all. If I want you to break down MY personality and tendencies, I will explicitly ask you. Until then, step off with the psychoanalysis.

posted April 16, 2021 07:04 PM            

I do think there could easily be an erotic edge to the relationship, I’m not saying it comes from your side, if you have those vibes I would trust it

I can see how you may get a warm & fatherly vibe on the one hand, but I would trust those other instincts you have too.

These are aspects I notice:

Your Mars conjunct his South Node
Your Mars conjunct his Anti-Vertex
Your Sun conjunct his Lilith
Your Neptune opposite his Venus
Your Venus conjunct his Moon
Your Juno conjunct his Juno

Composite Moon conjunct Lilith
Composite Venus conjunct Lust & Juno

posted April 16, 2021 08:57 PM            

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Originally posted by livvywatermonkey:
Hi Ambermoon, firstly I’m sorry you’re distressed

I do think there could easily be an erotic edge to the relationship, I’m not saying it comes from your side, if you have those vibes I would trust it

I can see how you may get a warm & fatherly vibe on the one hand, but I would trust those other instincts you have too.

These are aspects I notice:

Your Mars conjunct his South Node
Your Mars conjunct his Anti-Vertex
Your Sun conjunct his Lilith
Your Neptune opposite his Venus
Your Venus conjunct his Moon
Your Juno conjunct his Juno

Composite Moon conjunct Lilith
Composite Venus conjunct Lust & Juno

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Thank you. Hyper vigilance is a b*tch, seriously. Sometimes it’s hard to tell what’s reality and what I’m imagining. I’m trying to bring myself down from the anxiety.

I just don’t know what to do because I really do care about him. I actually knew him as an acquaintance before I started working at the brokerage and he’s always been so kind. When we started working together, it was an instant warm fatherly like connection. If I had to compare it, it’s how I feel with my father in law - protected, cared for, watched over. I have always had a terrible relationship with my own father so I indulge in that feeling I guess - maybe too much. Maybe that could come across as giving mixed signals but I am not intentionally doing that and I’m sorry but I’m married and he’s 20 years older than me - like how on earth would you even think there would be a chance. You’d have to be crazy.

In your honest opinion, should I start assisting him? Or should I keep a comfortable distance?

Based on natal and synastry, would he attempt to cross a line with me or do you think I’d be safe?

I don’t think my Mars is conjunct his Anti-Vx. Did you mean something else?

posted April 17, 2021 05:49 PM            

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Originally posted by todd:
Hi ya
You are correct ,I did not read your post accurately.
But the conclusion stands.there can be no "casual" friendship became he is too directed towards personal matters.

The square of Juno/lust/Venus/Valentine square amber//node and Saturn conjunct/Lilith/vertex,can be very obsessive to say the least.I do not think that many close work with him will be advisable because Nevis already showing signs of a incipient obsessions for you.
My experience with financial services is that they are permeated by power trips and coke.this not a polly Anna scenario and sex and drugs are high powered issues.the point is any innuendo of dissatisfaction with your spouse will bring his obsession for you to the fore.
As I said this is a disaster waiting to happen if you put anymore energy into him.
I don't mean to be psychoanalytical but I still get the feeling that your right hand may not know what your left hand is stirring up.
If you do not have to make him part of your "group"... Don't.

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Thank you Todd. I’m so sorry for reacting the way I did. I get really irritated when I’m misunderstood and I know that’s an easy thing to do online. I’ve had a few days to cool off, compose myself and really analyze the situation more. I do very much appreciate your input, I just struggle to understand you sometimes. Like your answers leave me with more questions - but I think it’s our different communication styles.

Okay, so I’m not imagining things then? I’m so sorry, what do you mean he is too directed towards personal matters? Like, is he having unprofessional thoughts and feelings regarding our connection? I have to try my best to keep things very casual because he and I are not going anywhere soon, we are both excelling at this brokerage and really enjoy it here. He is already a part of the group, we are all very close with each other. We are just a small real estate brokerage in a small town - there’s no drug or sex problems here LOL but you make an interesting point.

I get the obsession bit. I have been a little obsessed with the situation but only because I don’t want to repeat my past. It’s already somewhat known that me and my husband are on the rocks. Back in Nov/Dec 2020, my husband sent “I’m sorry” flowers on 3 separate occasions and I spilled the beans to some coworkers. The third time, the flower delivery man came during a weekly meeting and I flat out told him to take them back because I didn’t want them. I tried to be nonchalant about it and not make a scene but everyone knew. Come to think of it, it was soon after that he started to come onto me. He started asking about my husband ALL THE TIME but I didn’t really think anything of it because we were all acquaintances before and it’s a small town.

posted April 17, 2021 07:48 PM            

I mistook his Mars for your Mars, so the Anti-Vertex aspect I mentioned does not apply, as you say :)

I think your 8th house Neptune could mean you are not always an assertive communicator when it comes to your boundaries with sexual energy

& yes, I think your Scorpio stellium in 6th house could give a “virginal” quality to your sexual energy & I can see how men would find your nature very absorbing & appealing

I would agree with your suggestion to decline working together for the sake of your own boundaries, we don’t owe our coworkers anything aside from being courteous & clear, where we can be, but we owe ourselves everything, to be clear & caring with respect to our own limits & vulnerabilities

posted April 18, 2021 02:42 PM            

I get what you’re saying now about not knowing what I’m stirring up. I was just indulging in the warmth of the connection, because of my own father issues I tend to do this. I also love to develop deep meaningful connections with my coworkers. I very much value my friendships with men. I can be naive and blind about how men feel about me because of my own self esteem issues. I will have to politely decline working with him and I think maybe that will send a direct message.[/QUOTE]

posted April 18, 2021 06:21 PM            

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Originally posted by todd:
Are you online now

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