posted April 29, 2021 04:09 PM            

This is an individual I dated in 2019 and sadly am still not over. When I wanted commitment he just wasn’t ready and didn’t want to stop me from “finding Mr. Right” , I thought that was fair and mature but I couldn’t let go so we would argue a lot...after each argument he would emphasize we shouldn’t be friends and we shouldn’t talk and then I would promptly be blocked but then I noticed a pattern where he unblocks me every few weeks to check in, to say hello, to see how I am, but each time he doesn’t acknowledge the previous fight and tells me I should really move on, can’t see me, doesn’t want to lead me on.

Uhm hello, but you contacted me and if you wanted me to properly move on you’d stop reappearing when I’ve expressed so many times that for me the feelings are still there and it hurts! There’s an element of game playing that I sense but I have tolerated this only because I too feel he hasn’t moved on. I want to emphasize that he was direct, kind, and supportive albeit in sort of avoidant way otherwise I would not accept the silent treatment and his unwillingness to address what it is he wants. He’s secretive and vague but has always been polite.

To put it mildly I really am besotted with this guy. I see some strong aspects between us but sadly it seems that it’s only me that’s expressing how much I miss him and our time together.

Below is our synastry and composite! I’m blue...I would appreciate any input! Not sure if this is useful but we’re an interracial couple...I’m African and he’s Eastern European.

Synastry
https://ibb.co/SNkzHmg

Composite
https://ibb.co/y4wfCnK

Let me know if you guys can see it, please!

posted April 29, 2021 09:49 PM            

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Originally posted by Randall:
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posted April 30, 2021 08:44 AM            

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Originally posted by DoryandtheKing:
Hi Everyone,

This is an individual I dated in 2019 and sadly am still not over. When I wanted commitment he just wasn’t ready and didn’t want to stop me from “finding Mr. Right” , I thought that was fair and mature but I couldn’t let go so we would argue a lot...after each argument he would emphasize we shouldn’t be friends and we shouldn’t talk and then I would promptly be blocked but then I noticed a pattern where he unblocks me every few weeks to check in, to say hello, to see how I am, but each time he doesn’t acknowledge the previous fight and tells me I should really move on, can’t see me, doesn’t want to lead me on.

Uhm hello, but you contacted me and if you wanted me to properly move on you’d stop reappearing when I’ve expressed so many times that for me the feelings are still there and it hurts! There’s an element of game playing that I sense but I have tolerated this only because I too feel he hasn’t moved on. I want to emphasize that he was direct, kind, and supportive albeit in sort of avoidant way otherwise I would not accept the silent treatment and his unwillingness to address what it is he wants. He’s secretive and vague but has always been polite.

To put it mildly I really am besotted with this guy. I see some strong aspects between us but sadly it seems that it’s only me that’s expressing how much I miss him and our time together.

Below is our synastry and composite! I’m blue...I would appreciate any input! Not sure if this is useful but we’re an interracial couple...I’m African and he’s Eastern European.

Synastry
https://ibb.co/SNkzHmg

Composite
https://ibb.co/y4wfCnK

Let me know if you guys can see it, please!

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Anyone? I would be forever grateful