posted May 03, 2021 06:36 PM            

So this is my second try because I’m fixated and this time I got the Astro.com charts.

Again I would just appreciate any input on the below. I know you guys are inundated with these sorts of requests but I can’t get this guy out of my head while his mind is impenetrable.

This is an individual I dated in 2019 and sadly am still not over. When I wanted commitment he just wasn’t ready and didn’t want to stop me from “finding Mr. Right” , I thought that was fair and mature but I couldn’t let go so we would argue a lot...after each argument he would emphasize we shouldn’t be friends and we shouldn’t talk and then I would promptly be blocked but then I noticed a pattern where he unblocks me every few weeks to check in, to say hello, to see how I am, but each time he doesn’t acknowledge the previous fight and tells me I should really move on, can’t see me, doesn’t want to lead me on.

Uhm hello, but you contacted me and if you wanted me to properly move on you’d stop reappearing when I’ve expressed so many times that for me the feelings are still there and it hurts! There’s an element of game playing that I sense but I have tolerated this only because I too feel he hasn’t moved on. I want to emphasize that he was direct, kind, and supportive albeit in sort of avoidant way otherwise I would not accept the silent treatment and his unwillingness to address what it is he wants. He’s secretive and vague but has always been polite.

To put it mildly I really am besotted with this guy. I see some strong aspects between us but sadly it seems that it’s only me that’s expressing how much I miss him and our time together.

Below is our synastry and composite! I’m blue...I would appreciate any input! Not sure if this is useful but we’re an interracial couple...I’m African and he’s Eastern European.

Synastry
https://ibb.co/pKz9k5Q

Composite
https://ibb.co/H7RzQvs

posted May 03, 2021 10:09 PM            

His Sun, Mercury and Mars is unaspected and therefore this relationship doesn't mean much to him. I think you should move on.

posted May 04, 2021 12:07 AM            

Sun in the 7H conjunct Chiron and Sun opposite Uranus in the 1H I would say can mean a relationship that starts out of the blue and ends out of the blue.

The ruler of the 3H NEPTUNE conjuncting Saturn exact which rules intercepted capricorn in the 1H feels like some major confusion and issues around communication I am thinking and some karma connected to this.

Northnode in Aquarius with Uranus in the 1st house ruling the northnode does not support a romance between you two or a serious relationship, you are meant to be friends and learn to be more independent and get to know yourself better and what makes you unique as a result of this friendship, this will lead to each of you becoming more autonomous and whole on your own.

This is meant to be a friendship that is suppose to push you to become more independent financially and spirit wise, as well as force you to get to know yourself better and value yourself more and what makes you unique.

posted May 04, 2021 01:57 AM            

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Originally posted by hypatia238:
Interesting about the interracial couple comment since you have DC ruler MERCURY conjunct JUPITER near the DC. I think that fits but chiron on the 7th I dont like, it tends to lead to heartbreak often, I would even say when it shows up in composite in the 7th house is like both experience the heartbreak for whatever reason.

Sun in the 7H conjunct Chiron and Sun opposite Uranus in the 1H I would say can mean a relationship that starts out of the blue and ends out of the blue.

The ruler of the 3H NEPTUNE conjuncting Saturn exact which rules intercepted capricorn in the 1H feels like some major confusion and issues around communication I am thinking and some karma connected to this.

Northnode in Aquarius with Uranus in the 1st house ruling the northnode does not support a romance between you two or a serious relationship, you are meant to be friends and learn to be more independent and get to know yourself better and what makes you unique as a result of this friendship, this will lead to each of you becoming more autonomous and whole on your own.

[b]This is meant to be a friendship that is suppose to push you to become more independent financially and spirit wise, as well as force you to get to know yourself better and value yourself more and what makes you unique.

You will not end up together, is not in the cards for you two but you met for a reason as I explained in previous paragraph, the northnode of the composite lets you know what that reason is.
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Hi Hypatia,

Thank you so much! I feel this explains a lot. It helps me see why he can be so cold and indifferent to me while for me his behavior is so jarring and at times callous. He just isn’t feeling and seeing things the way I am.

He may also not be able to relate and see how this impacts me and hurts as those aspects are just not there for him.

This will really help me to move on, so thank you! July July, thanks for your in put too!