posted May 16, 2021 03:01 AM            

I have been recently involved in a kind of doomed relationship. Don't know for sure, but I d like some insight, since there are many 8th/12th house overlays, known to be dark enough to bring enough pain. Which is what I am being through.
In a few lines:
We met a few years ago. But nothing special apart from the fact that I never forgot him.
We met again 4 months ago, me divorced, him in a relationship that was about to end, which happened anyway.
On his side, he could never go on with me on a serious relationship, since I am older, divorced, with a kid. Also.. social taboos can't allow our relationship to go in light.
However, we keep having a secret affair, with lots of on and offs, I can feel he really feels for me. I feel like I am dedicated to him, I love him unconditionally, I would do anything to be with him.
I tried many times to go away, I can't. Knowing his intentions, still I can't help myself.
What do the charts say? Is it some kind of obsession on my side? Is this a one- sided love? Is it possible that 8th/12th house overlays won't bring mutual feelings?
I would appreciate any help.

https://www.astro.com/cgi/chart.cgi?gm=a1&nhor=432581&nho2=1297367&btyp=61&mth=gw&sday=16&smon=5&syr=2021&node=-Yn&snode=-Ys&pfday=-YP%201&prmth=0&aspc=1&aspn=1&asp=1&rs=0&ano=1&ad d=19&add=20&add=22&add=14

https://www.astro.com/cgi/showgif.cgi?lang=e&gif=astro_621gw_anonymous_anonymous.24548.27970.png&res=100

https://www.astro.com/cgi/showgif.cgi?lang=e&gif=astro_6251gw_anonymous_anonymous.25170.23488.png&res=100

posted May 18, 2021 03:00 PM            

Thank you for accepting my registration in this forum! I read threads every day. Keep learning through members. However, I can't really help anyone since I am really new to astrology. But I appreciate your approval anyway!

posted May 19, 2021 12:42 AM            

I do apologize if this seems harsh but I 100% stand by the ideas I've professed. Full disclosure: I am fresh off a 8/12th composite synastry, and got burned really, really badly because they were being antilogical from the get-go but I went with it because I wanted to give them a chance. So while I don't think 8/12 is what doomed us, it appears that 8/12 meant emotions were going to run very high/be on the line anyway - so my stance is avoiding 8/12 if concerns exist.