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Topic: Moon - Pluto synastry. I'm thinking of getting the relationship back. Bad idea?
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WhiteBirds Knowflake Posts: 346 From: Registered: Oct 2018
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posted August 07, 2021 12:56 PM
Well ... Synastry Moon conjunct Pluto. I am thinking of recovering this relationship, but I have my doubts. On the one hand, Moon Pluto is the strongest link that can exist in a synastry. On the other hand, I am afraid of this relationship. Moreover, I am pregnant, and if the baby is born, I need a dad for this child. On the other hand, for all that I loved this boy, and for everything that was between us, I see a betrayal appear in his life under these circumstances. But I know he wouldn't leave me alone with this. (He has a Moon in Leo, and a Venus in Scorpio). I know it will be there. But is this ethical? For all of you who had a relationship with Moon - Pluto involved ... What do you think of this situation? I am the Moon, he is Pluto. How would Pluto react if the Moon looks for him, being pregnant with any type? Pluto just doesn't quit. But would he hate me for this? IP: Logged |
WhiteBirds Knowflake Posts: 346 From: Registered: Oct 2018
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posted August 07, 2021 01:06 PM
Obviously I would be 100% honest with him. I would tell him that I was in trouble, and because of my stupidity, I got pregnant with a guy with clear narcissistic tendencies, and now this is what it is. I am very afraid to get involved again in a Moon Pluto relationship, but these are my options if I do not abort the child.
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SadalSuud211 Knowflake Posts: 151 From: Melbourne, Florida, USA Registered: May 2018
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posted August 07, 2021 04:52 PM
My current relationship we have moon opposite Pluto and it's getting to the point where I can't stand him but I feel like we're stuck together. Every situation is different though, every chart is different too; natal, synastry, whatever it may be. My best advice to you is to pray on it, meditate, ask for guidance, and then follow your intuition, but absolutely under NO circumstances get back with him just because you 'need' him or want a father for your baby, you will be stuck like me, staying with someone because you have nowhere else to go, or because you're comfortable now and just don't know anything/anyone else so it feels scary to leave and start over. Don't get sucked into that trap, you're stronger than that, you're absolutely strong enough to do it on your own. You don't have to be together for him to be a father to that baby, and if he doesn't want to be, then you file a case and put his ass on child support. Idk if this is your first baby, but you can also get help from homeless/women's shelters, apply for food stamps, they'll be easy to get now that you're pregnant. You're also now guaranteed at least $1500 every year on tax returns for the next 18 years. Trust me, you don't need him, you can only WANT him. Just make sure you really do before going back, that's all. IP: Logged |
WhiteBirds Knowflake Posts: 346 From: Registered: Oct 2018
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posted August 07, 2021 05:08 PM
quote: Originally posted by SadalSuud211: My current relationship we have moon opposite Pluto and it's getting to the point where I can't stand him but I feel like we're stuck together. Every situation is different though, every chart is different too; natal, synastry, whatever it may be. My best advice to you is to pray on it, meditate, ask for guidance, and then follow your intuition, but absolutely under NO circumstances get back with him just because you 'need' him or want a father for your baby, you will be stuck like me, staying with someone because you have nowhere else to go, or because you're comfortable now and just don't know anything/anyone else so it feels scary to leave and start over. Don't get sucked into that trap, you're stronger than that, you're absolutely strong enough to do it on your own. You don't have to be together for him to be a father to that baby, and if he doesn't want to be, then you file a case and put his ass on child support. Idk if this is your first baby, but you can also get help from homeless/women's shelters, apply for food stamps, they'll be easy to get now that you're pregnant. You're also now guaranteed at least $1500 every year on tax returns for the next 18 years. Trust me, you don't need him, you can only WANT him. Just make sure you really do before going back, that's all.
Thank you very much for your advice, but I think I did not explain myself well. This Guy is not the baby's biological father. This Guy was someone very important in my life. We met as children, we grew up together for a few years, then I changed places ... Years later we met again ... And there Moon - Pluto in Synastry did the rest. We separated 3 years ago again, and we have talked a lot this time, because I mean, Moon-Pluto cannot be broken so easily. And now that I'm pregnant, a mistake on my part, the guy was narcissistic, but I was weak, so I can't be blamed that much either. Now that I am pregnant, there is a small chance that I will not abort, so in that case I do not see a better father for my child than this Guy. This boy is Libra, but he has a Moon in Leo, he adores children, and he has Venus in Scorpio. Nobody loves like people who have Venus in Scorpio. And honestly, even though I am very scared again to go back to the Moon-Pluto relationship, my intuition tells me that this is correct. This in case I decide to have the baby. If I abort, no. I would continue my relationship with this guy until now. IP: Logged |
WhiteBirds Knowflake Posts: 346 From: Registered: Oct 2018
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posted August 07, 2021 05:15 PM
What I would like to know is how the person Pluto would react, if suddenly the Moon appears pregnant, of some kind. I need to know what to deal with before I tell her that I am pregnant. I think the guy would adopt the child. But I prefer to prepare myself mentally for all the possibilities 🙈 IP: Logged |
SadalSuud211 Knowflake Posts: 151 From: Melbourne, Florida, USA Registered: May 2018
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posted August 07, 2021 05:16 PM
Ahh my apologies, so he is not the biological father. I don't wish to change my advice though, if that other guy doesn't want to be there you should file a case, and still meditate on this other guy. I feel a pull to my guy too, his Venus Pluto and moon sit right on top of my Pluto, which is caught in a grand cross with my sun moon and rising, so at times it feels fated, but at the same time, I can't stand him and think maybe it's karmic relationship rather than soulmate or twin flame, I constantly go back and forth.. Major love/hate. Again though, every chart is different. Follow your soul, I wish you the best and will pray for you to find happiness ☀️IP: Logged |
SadalSuud211 Knowflake Posts: 151 From: Melbourne, Florida, USA Registered: May 2018
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posted August 07, 2021 05:16 PM
Ahh my apologies, so he is not the biological father. I don't wish to change my advice though, if that other guy doesn't want to be there you should file a case, and still meditate on this other guy. I feel a pull to my guy too, his Venus Pluto and moon sit right on top of my Pluto, which is caught in a grand cross with my sun moon and rising, so at times it feels fated, but at the same time, I can't stand him and think maybe it's karmic relationship rather than soulmate or twin flame, I constantly go back and forth.. Major love/hate. Again though, every chart is different. Follow your soul, I wish you the best and will pray for you to find happiness ☀️IP: Logged |
ChildofVenus Knowflake Posts: 5699 From: Customer Service Rep. Registered: Apr 2015
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posted August 07, 2021 05:38 PM
I have Moon square Pluto with someone and I have it in my natal chart. I have Moon/Pluto with a couple of people. But I only feel it with one guy I think it’s because my Moon is in his 8th house. I know how it feels as the Moon person. It’s really hard and I can only go so long without talking to the Pluto person. Venus in Scorpio is intense but I’m not sure they really love hard. It seems like they are more into being obsessive. I have Venus in Pisces in the 8th house. And I think this placement might be too much for me. Moon in Leo’s tend to be self centered and attention seeking. Some people are ok with talking care of a child that isn’t there’s while others aren’t. It depends on the person. Do you have fifth house overlays? IP: Logged |
SadalSuud211 Knowflake Posts: 151 From: Melbourne, Florida, USA Registered: May 2018
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posted August 07, 2021 05:48 PM
Yes, his Neptune Saturn and Uranus are in my 5th house. We do have a very unstable relationships, ups and downs (Uranus), authority issues/power struggles and a need for both to take the relationship "seriously" (Saturn) and issues with deception, abuse and yet still somehow romanticizing all that and always wishing for the best (Neptune)I can post the chart of you'd like to see it. Also, I hope you don't mind me asking, but I saw your post apologizing for talking about adoption and I was just wondering if you meant that you were adopted or you were thinking about adoption? I may have insights to share if it was the latter ☺️
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Orange Knowflake Posts: 7858 From: Georgia Registered: May 2009
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posted August 08, 2021 12:18 AM
Pluto never really lets go off the Moon completely , so if the Moon returns - more likely than not - the PLuto will be gasping with excitement.IP: Logged |
WhiteBirds Knowflake Posts: 346 From: Registered: Oct 2018
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posted August 08, 2021 01:35 AM
quote: Originally posted by Orange: Pluto never really lets go off the Moon completely , so if the Moon returns - more likely than not - the PLuto will be gasping with excitement.
And do you think he will accept me while I am pregnant? Actually... I would love to have a family with this guy. And I think he would be a perfect dad. But to me, this is a betrayal, and he doesn't deserve it. So better abortion. But first I'll talk to him. If he accepts the child, then we only have to talk about whether we really want to have a child with 50% of genes from a guy who is rubbish. Although 50% of those genes are mine. I don't know, it still seems like a betrayal. I also don't want to talk to him and have him get excited about this, if in the end I decide to have an abortion. I don't know what to do, I'm very, very lost. And the legal time to abort is running out. I've been thinking all night what to say to this Libra guy. And I still don't know. But I must be brave and I must call him. Let it be what God wants. IP: Logged |
Hikaru29 Knowflake Posts: 3690 From: Asia Registered: Nov 2018
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posted August 08, 2021 03:55 AM
You need to consider 2 things.1) Will he agree to raise someone else’s child? This you really have to ask him. 2) Do you want him back for the right reasons, or he’s just your financial provider? Why did you break up in the first place and how will this child change things? It may not give the child a good family environment if you’re incompatible. Moon-Pluto itself does not suggest compatibility. Ideally this child needs a dad but don’t just have a warm body there. IP: Logged |
WhiteBirds Knowflake Posts: 346 From: Registered: Oct 2018
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posted August 08, 2021 05:53 AM
quote: Originally posted by Hikaru29: You need to consider 2 things.1) Will he agree to raise someone else’s child? This you really have to ask him. 2) Do you want him back for the right reasons, or he’s just your financial provider? Why did you break up in the first place and how will this child change things? It may not give the child a good family environment if you’re incompatible. Moon-Pluto itself does not suggest compatibility. Ideally this child needs a dad but don’t just have a warm body there.
1) I don't know. I'll find out soon. But this guy is the only one who can accept me pregnant. We have known each other since we were children! 2) I want a father for my son, not a financial provider. We broke up because he was obsessed a lot (Scorpio Venus), although that was not the main reason. I spoke an emotional language (Cancer), and he a rational language (Libra), but now I have become more rational, and he more emotional, so we will understand each other better. And I don't know how a baby is going to change things, but this guy and I have known each other since we were kids. In my current moment, this is what I have. I still don't know whether to register the baby with an unknown father, and have this guy adopt him, or whether to register him as his father, in case he accepts. In a few hours I will call him, so I will clear up any doubts. I'm scared 😅
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GalacticCoreExplosionV2 Knowflake Posts: 486 From: Registered: Jul 2021
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posted August 08, 2021 11:11 AM
Because Pluto moves so, so, so, so, so, so, so, so slowly (like the smallest turtle of all the planetary like bodies), we share many similar Pluto aspects with MANY people of our generation. Hence, not particularly "special" nor important. Pluto interaspects are more important to look at when the people are of a different generation/significant age gap, the aspects are very close, or both people are very attuned to one or both of the planets. And preferably with more than one of the above going on concurrently. Otherwise, Pluto aspects are sub tones to the rest of the synastry. It's like if you were making a soup with various different ingredients, herbs, and spices. In many cases, Pluto is like that pinch of marjoram that gets overwhelmed by all the copious amounts of oregano, basil, and rosemary in the soup.. IP: Logged |
Randall Webmaster Posts: 146407 From: Your Friendly Neighborhood Juris Doctorate. Registered: Apr 2009
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posted August 09, 2021 03:39 PM
Moving to Interpersonal Astrology.IP: Logged |
Orange Knowflake Posts: 7858 From: Georgia Registered: May 2009
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posted August 09, 2021 08:30 PM
quote: Originally posted by GalacticCoreExplosionV2: Because Pluto moves so, so, so, so, so, so, so, so slowly (like the smallest turtle of all the planetary like bodies), we share many similar Pluto aspects with MANY people of our generation. Hence, not particularly "special" nor important. Pluto interaspects are more important to look at when the people are of a different generation/significant age gap, the aspects are very close, or both people are very attuned to one or both of the planets. And preferably with more than one of the above going on concurrently. Otherwise, Pluto aspects are sub tones to the rest of the synastry. It's like if you were making a soup with various different ingredients, herbs, and spices. In many cases, Pluto is like that pinch of marjoram that gets overwhelmed by all the copious amounts of oregano, basil, and rosemary in the soup..
yes, i totaly agree. If one or both of the partners have the aspect in their natal chart, the synastry aspect is not felt and has no much of an effect, it will be a generational aspect between people of the same or close age. It is fully felt to all of its extent if none of the partners has it in their natal chart, i.e.- age gap of 5 years plus. IP: Logged |
GalacticCoreExplosionV2 Knowflake Posts: 486 From: Registered: Jul 2021
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posted August 09, 2021 11:25 PM
Cheers Orange. Btw, it gets even more complex and nuanced. Say two people and their synastry does fall under some of those conditions. But say one person is quite attuned to Pluto and the other one is quite unattuned to Pluto. What can happen is that the unattuned to Pluto person quickly tries to get the hellz out of dodge because they don't like or can't deal with the intensity of the connection or the other person (say the former person is very Mercury and/or Air Sign attuned). So really, anytime we are looking at synastry, we really need to examine the peoples charts individually first, and see what they are most resonate to, attracted to, need a balance of, etc, etc. Only people of the Clear/White Light consciousness, can harmonize with EVERYONE, and these are rarer than Egyptian Hypatia stones. IP: Logged |
Hikaru29 Knowflake Posts: 3690 From: Asia Registered: Nov 2018
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posted August 10, 2021 03:16 AM
I have Pluto square and trine Moon DW with my first bf. I dropped him like a hot potato. It also didn’t take me long to get over him once I decided to cut the cord.‘Never’ is such an absolute word and nothing is absolute in life. The person you think you can’t live without may become a nobody the next day. IP: Logged |
Orange Knowflake Posts: 7858 From: Georgia Registered: May 2009
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posted August 10, 2021 02:41 PM
Hikaru, Do you or your ex partner have those Pluto aspect in their natal chart ? Read the two comments above and you will finally understand why you didn’t feel it , you tend to repeat yourself with these statements IP: Logged |
ChildofVenus Knowflake Posts: 5699 From: Customer Service Rep. Registered: Apr 2015
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posted August 10, 2021 04:27 PM
quote: Originally posted by GalacticCoreExplosionV2: Cheers Orange. Btw, it gets even more complex and nuanced. Say two people and their synastry does fall under some of those conditions. But say one person is quite attuned to Pluto and the other one is quite unattuned to Pluto. What can happen is that the unattuned to Pluto person quickly tries to get the hellz out of dodge because they don't like or can't deal with the intensity of the connection or the other person (say the former person is very Mercury and/or Air Sign attuned). So really, anytime we are looking at synastry, we really need to examine the peoples charts individually first, and see what they are most resonate to, attracted to, need a balance of, etc, etc. Only people of the Clear/White Light consciousness, can harmonize with EVERYONE, and these are rarer than Egyptian Hypatia stones.
I have Moon square Pluto with someone who is unattuned to Pluto and the person doesn’t ignore me. IP: Logged |
ChildofVenus Knowflake Posts: 5699 From: Customer Service Rep. Registered: Apr 2015
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posted August 10, 2021 04:36 PM
quote: Originally posted by Orange: yes, i totaly agree. If one or both of the partners have the aspect in their natal chart, the synastry aspect is not felt and has no much of an effect, it will be a generational aspect between people of the same or close age. It is fully felt to all of its extent if none of the partners has it in their natal chart, i.e.- age gap of 5 years plus.
I have Moon square Pluto in my natal chart. And the Gemini guys Pluto squares my Moon and I definitely feel it. He was standing on the left side of me from behind. And I could really feel his energy it was insane. Maybe it’s because my Moon is in his 8th house. I don’t really feel this aspect with others though. And I have Moon/Pluto with several people. IP: Logged |
GalacticCoreExplosionV2 Knowflake Posts: 486 From: Registered: Jul 2021
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posted August 10, 2021 04:43 PM
I didn't say anything about "ignoring". Such people might initially get involved in the relationship, but often, when things start to get very serious and/or intense, they may run. IP: Logged |
ChildofVenus Knowflake Posts: 5699 From: Customer Service Rep. Registered: Apr 2015
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posted August 10, 2021 05:02 PM
quote: Originally posted by GalacticCoreExplosionV2: I didn't say anything about "ignoring". Such people might initially get involved in the relationship, but often, when things start to get very serious and/or intense, they may run.
He doesn’t run from me. IP: Logged |
ChildofVenus Knowflake Posts: 5699 From: Customer Service Rep. Registered: Apr 2015
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posted August 10, 2021 05:31 PM
quote: Originally posted by Orange: Pluto never really lets go off the Moon completely , so if the Moon returns - more likely than not - the PLuto will be gasping with excitement.
Pluto doesn’t let go only if the Pluto person has Pluto energy in their natal chart right? IP: Logged |
GalacticCoreExplosionV2 Knowflake Posts: 486 From: Registered: Jul 2021
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posted August 10, 2021 06:16 PM
quote: Originally posted by ChildofVenus: He doesn’t run from me.
This is a deep, committed relationship? So you appear to have a time travel machine? IP: Logged | |